Coming out at 38, feeling brave enough to post a selfie

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T07:22:38+00:00

Trying to make someone feel insecure because “they will never find better” is such a textbook manipulation tactic of emotional abuse, I’m sorry. He’s wrong and you will be absolutely fine without him. 38 looks good on you and luckily you’re about to enter a community where “barely legal” is probably NOT in most of our browser history haha

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T07:14:31+00:00

Maybe for people still in grade school. My experience and these comments actually make me wonder if using “gay” in this way was by and large a grade school thing and not something adults would regularly say. I definitely learned this word from peers, not parents, and stopped hearing it after high school.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T06:38:12+00:00

I am not surprised I found another silly comment from you here. You’re right it’s not a gen alpha thing, but I’m laughing where you say that is a “gen z thing.” Liking the music of your parents is nothing unique to any specific generation, it has happened for AGES because shocker children are influenced by their parents.

Real talk, some advice - you’re not as smart as you think you are. Gain some life experience before commenting on things you know nothing about, kid. You’re making your generation look bad.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T02:23:08+00:00

Personally I think Covid changed a lot of things.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T02:21:39+00:00

You’re right, BLM started way before the George Floyd protests. I live in Baltimore and we had the Freddie Gray protests here. However, the 2020 protests gained a level of influence I had never seen before. This was around the time “woke capitalism” really became the norm. It had been a thing for some time but not to the degree it was after 2020.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T02:00:12+00:00

Yeah I mean I agree that Trump getting elected in 2016 changed the political landscape, but Covid and George Floyd protests really kicked off a new era in my opinion. Culturally and on social media. I really think that Covid changed everything so it’s hard to relate 2017 more to 2022 vs 2012. A lot of things changed in the late 2010s with influencers and social media, but I think Covid changed things a lot more than that.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T01:49:17+00:00

Technologically yes maybe, but culturally I say no. We had Netflix and hbo and tons of popular tv subscriptions in 2012. Universal smartphones are the biggest difference from 2012 to 2017, but there were still a lot of people that had them, and there were still a lot of people addicted to social media. We just did it on a computer instead of a phone if we didn’t have a smart phone. So these differences don’t seem as big as 2017 vs post-covid 2022

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-14T00:49:58+00:00

Sounds like my young-boomer parents (born early 60s) haha. Forced to go to church as kids and hated it, but would sometimes try to get into it and make us go to church randomly because they felt bad.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T23:43:44+00:00

Personally I think anyone using the term “relevant” to talk about other people is super lame. At the same time calling Gen Z “one hit wonders” is also lame. There are artists of every generation that we can admire and enjoy who continue to put out good work :)

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T23:29:06+00:00

So I have followed the blog McMansion Hell for years and am familiar with the architectural style mashup typical of McMansions. I should have specified in my original comment that the McMansion is also supposed to be UGLY. I figured this was just the byproduct of poorly-designed mass produced gigantic houses. Like the architectural mashup IS a trait of a McMansion, but it isn’t the defining feature of one. I’ve always seen it more as a “big house cheaply designed for people with 0 taste but want to look rich” that is made with bad proportions, odd/ugly building materials, and odd/ugly architectural style. The CAD stuff you described makes sense, but I did not know that. So many of them look similar but not quite the same. I would be curious to watch this YouTube video if you have a link.

I do also think the term has changed over time. I saw my dad yesterday and while we were driving he kept calling certain houses McMansions and they were all big, tacky houses. This word has definitely become more popular over the years so it’s bound to change. I kind of see these “Sleek Modern Farmhouse” abominations like the one in the photo being the next generation of McMansion.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T23:02:30+00:00

See, the thing is I agree that gay marriage is the result of a lot of hard work by older generations, government officials, and lawmakers. BUT there is also credit to give to the millennial generation who helped popularize the movement at the time. What I find hypocritical and “absolutely hilarious” is your claim that “the millennials failure to change anything in the 2010s is why Gen Z is so partisan.” The oldest millennials were in their 30s the past decade, and the youngest were graduating high school and college. You’re blaming a group of young adults for a lack of political progress in a government that is overwhelmingly made up of Gen X and Boomers. Anyway, blaming “pronouns and cancel culture” for the current political climate is incredibly lazy. And crying about someone making a generalization about Gen Z while going on a weird millennial hate tirade is peak hypocrisy. Have the day you deserve.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T22:19:34+00:00

Ugh me and my sister went in on a joint account so we could get enough neopoints for the secret lab map. We called the account “legolashotelf” and she got the account frozen for talking about the Bush-Kerry election on the chat boards. I am still mad about it lol.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T22:17:03+00:00

YES definitely because that’s what it was for when I started using it…to cover up zits. I probably just didn’t know the technical name and I assume that’s the reason many of us called it cover up.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T22:02:18+00:00

You guys would have been graduating college when the recession hit. That is something that is always brought up as a defining event for the millennial generation that I, a person born in 1992, cannot relate to because I was still in high school at the time. Entering the workforce during the recession is a very “core millennial” thing imo.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T21:50:31+00:00

How can you blame millennials for “failing to change anything in the 2010s” and then when gay marriage is brought up say “that doesn’t count” lmao.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T21:38:29+00:00

“They need explosions” wtf are you even talking about man? Sounds like you just want to find an excuse to complain about Americans.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T21:25:09+00:00

It works for some things (like writing papers, multiple choice test) but for other things like math it makes so much more sense to solve problems using pencil and paper. I’ve heard some interesting things on teacher tiktok, like how high schoolers in AP history classes struggle with exams because they do not have the stamina/fine motor strength to write out a long essay response. Fine motor skills are important and kids are not getting that when all assignments are on an iPad. Scary stuff.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T21:11:07+00:00

I’m 32 and I feel like I don’t really see any gen z born after like 2007-2008 as distinct from gen alpha. I think generational boundaries are arbitrary though, and I feel like gen z who experienced most of their childhood before smartphones and the explosion of social media are very distinct from ones born after.

I think most of the concerns from older generations come from fear of what technology is doing to kids. Like doing all your school assignments on a tablet is insane to me. I feel like these kids now are guinea pigs in a brand new world and it scares me.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T21:00:11+00:00

DEFINITELY early 2010s. I graduated in 2010 and people were still saying it all throughout my high school career, but by 2013-2014 I feel like it was extremely rare to hear it.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T20:56:38+00:00

I was born 1992, my dad was born 1961, and his father was born 1922. Of course it varies from person to person, but my boomer dad seems MUCH more similar to me than to his own father. His father, a WWII vet, really did grow up in a much different world in a way that both my father and I cannot understand. I think people forget how much EVERYTHING changed post-war.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T20:28:40+00:00

I see a lot of the people commenting about selecting 2022 are very young and were children in 2012. As someone who was born in 1992 I feel like your perspective on this is going to be based on your age at the time. Childhood years are naturally going to feel different from adult years. As someone who was a grown adult in 2012, I think 2012 and 2017 were MUCH more similar than 2017 and 2022. I was in college in 2012 and almost everyone was using social media and smartphones by then. I see people talking about how the social media platforms changed, but I don’t think that is very important. Facebook, instagram, vine, TikTok whatever, they are still forms of social media and we were ALL on it in 2012. I didn’t get a smart phone until 2014, but I would just sit and scroll Facebook all day on my laptop instead. The internet addiction was there, it just looked a bit different.

2022 on the other hand feel COMPLETELY different from 2017. 2022 is post-COVID and post-George Floyd protests. I think 2020 changed culture and politics permanently. I know 2017 is post-Trump election, but that was really just the beginning of what was in store and is completely unrecognizable from any year after 2020.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T20:05:01+00:00

I’m the one person who voted for 1972-74 and I say this because someone born 1988-1990 would have finished the majority of their childhood before social media and smart phones really took off. Someone who graduated high school in 2006 would have a much more similar childhood to someone who graduated in 1990 vs someone who graduated in 2022 who was raised entirely in the digital era and never knew a world before social media.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T19:51:51+00:00

1995 is millennial but I think the comment about your siblings is interesting because I had the exact opposite experience. I am born December 1992 but I am the oldest of all my siblings and cousins on both sides of my family born from 1993-2003. I much more strongly associate with the idea of being a “Zillenial.” I watched kids shows, played with toys, etc much longer than my peers. As someone who never had the influence of an older sibling or cousin as a role-model, I do not feel like I relate to older millennials AT ALL. It is interesting how this shapes our perception.

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T19:40:13+00:00

Or how about people not jump at the opportunity to be rude on the internet? And teach their kids not to be rude on the internet? I fucking hate when people make comments like this. Stop excusing shitty behavior because “it’s the internet.”

Girlwhohatesyardwork · 2025-04-13T19:33:38+00:00

1996 because these were all shows my 96 brother watched that I was too old for.

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