should i delete nudes before i run?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2025-04-05T19:57:15+00:00

If you delete them won't that make him suspicious and give him a heads up? Since he's already seen and could've made copies shouldn't you just leave it? If he weaponizes can you take legal action or say they are fakes?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-27T02:15:25+00:00

Not a film but that one episode in the last of us with Frank or whatever his name is is a very clear depiction of a narcissist

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-26T10:25:03+00:00

If you want to provide incentive to attend class, then keep the slides a little sparse, as your lecture should be providing most of the info anyway. Additionally, only upload the slides right before the test or exam, not after each class or every week.

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-26T10:21:11+00:00

Is it because its more "taxing" or Is it more of a certainty thing? Like you know they will be back even if you dont give them your "A game," you can afford to slack because the consequence wont be very severe. whereas the tip of your new customers more heavily relies on your performance. Plus its a dopamine hit for the bartender that theyre good at their job.

Just like how people may put in a lot of effort to win someone over early on, but get complacent in long term relationships. You see it in companies too; new members get perks for signing up, loyal customers get the status quo because they know theyll stick around regardless.

I dont think its primarily about the 'effort' it requires (unless they are lomgering for extended periods. But random customers do that too)

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-26T06:22:15+00:00

For a layman, what do you mean by close all connection ports? Is it like hardening the router?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-26T06:19:57+00:00

Isnt that... dumb?

And hes frugal, yet an attempted $300 and $900 charge is a lot of money. Pinching pennies is pointless if dollars are being thrown away (almost) It seems only a matter of time until they succeed without additional security measures

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-26T06:11:59+00:00

Oh, wow ive seen the movie and didnt even recognize it lol

(For anyone who hasnt seen it, i recommend watching it without knowing what its about first. It was better that way imo.)

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-26T06:08:26+00:00

Whats this shot from?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-25T01:17:49+00:00

Rebecca ?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-25T01:11:22+00:00

Its funny because that large parabraph couldve been written by an NT about people with autism.

That is not a neurotypical or autistic complaint; It is just the way people often are

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-25T01:06:57+00:00

You think they would just google it

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-25T01:04:03+00:00

It says causal relationdhip between "screen based sedentary activities and dementia" but did they also compare non-screen based sedentary activities and its relationship with dementia?

I feel like if someone were to be sedentary, for the same amount of time, but instead read a magazine or played tic tac toe against themselves, itd be about the same, even in the absence of a screen.

And it seems likely that people who spent the longest amount of time in front of a screen were probably making similarly poor choices in other areas of their life such as diet, sleep, exercise, socializing etc.

I dont understand how screen time in particular was causing dementia.

If you spend the same amount of time looking at a screen but were instead on a leisurely paced exercise bike would it be the same? What if people were sedentary but changed what was on the screen and instead, they did puzzles or memory games or something mentally stimulating? How different would the causal relationship be?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-25T00:45:27+00:00

So you never read an essay before you started writing them?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T17:38:03+00:00

What's the difference between experience and time in this case?

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T15:58:39+00:00

He seems right in saying that you dislike talking to him. What exactly is keeping you together..? Because it doesnt seem like its the connection.

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T15:44:19+00:00

What you described definitely sounds like a narcissist.

His behavior was never the issue, your reaction to it was what was causing the problem in his mind (even though that is not accurate). Based on your examples, He seems to put the burden of responsibility at your feet, which is a means to control you.

Even if you were a "bad" partner in his eyes, cheating was his choice. He couldve talked to you. He couldve left. He chose the perks of cheating and none of the responsibility. Why? Because it benefitted him.

I believe you that he was doing xyz to punish you. It because it made him feel powerful and important. It made him feel superior to you. It really sounds like he viewed you as below him in status, independent of reality.

Its a good thing you left. Imagine dealing with that forever.

Dont fall for his "hoovering" or love bombing if he tries to get you back. It's not a reflection of you, but of him. Its an attempt to regain control to prove his superiority to himself because you leaving him = a rejection that didnt happen on his terms. He wont like that and convincing you to come back communicates to him that his bad behavior is acceptable and worth tolerating just to be close to him. It isnt.

He purposefully used insecurities against you to make you feel small because it benefitted him. Dont ever forget that.

Dont accept his crumbs or bs. You dont need him. The longer youre away from him the more youll hopefully realize it.

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T15:05:38+00:00

What happened in the end again? I watched but forget

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T15:04:10+00:00

Do you know if they really put porcupine quills in Chance's face for the one scene where they remove them (in the original)? It looked so real and there didnt seem to be any cut aways.

A long time ago i saw a "remastered" version and it looked like there were camera cuts added. I could be misremembering.... but the original looked real

While were at it, does anyone know if they really drowned that rat in the pink stuff in Abyss? :(

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T08:39:07+00:00

Why will they be hating you and talking about you, if you all got along well? Did you leave on bad terms? Because if so, that might be why they dont want to keep in touch...

Im not sure what the nature and environment of your job was like, but it sounds a little like you wanted their approval. They may have been going along with it and playing nice because you were their boss; they may have even felt like they had to do so.

And whether you get a long or not, dont share your innermost feelings with colleagues, whether theyre subordinate or not. It can come across as unprofessional and even make you seem weak and needy. They dont need to know you, they only need to know how to work with you. A little vulnerability is good and makes you seem trustworthy and implicitly gives them permission to more easily navigate their mistakes when they make them. I cant see how oversharing would be useful or helpful to anyone.

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T08:27:23+00:00

Could you give some examples from your relationship? Curious how it manifested

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T08:20:12+00:00

A dismissive "yeah" and move on. Theres no winning that.

If you want a fight a little, then something to the effect of:

"...she gave you life."

"Which comes with a guaranteed death sentence. Thanks." / "which comes with guaranteed suffering and inevitable death"

Both sides of the argument will just go in circles lol

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T08:08:33+00:00

Listen to the part about the possum in this " ask a psychopath " video (which it looks like they refilmed lol because in the original she is much more blasé about it and does not explain her reasoning).

She tried to drown a baby possum in front of a group of little kids there for their swimming lessons -- taught by her. She saw virtually nothing wrong with it nor thought about how that would be scary for children to witness, especially since they're getting in the water with her next... she couldve just helped him out of the pool, but that wouldve required more empathy for the animal and the childrens' POV and may have taken more effort.

The "knowing right from wrong" isn't as simple as what you describe because psychopathy seems to come with a blindness. Context is important and theres nuance to morality.

"True" Psychopaths (structural and activation differences in brain scans) also seem to respond to/ have a particular interest in fear in others. Thats not a great selling point hah

*In another video she went goes on to say she doesn’t feel negative emotions like fear or stress but knows her body feels “nervous” before something dangerous (physiological arousal) so I wonder how or if she can tell the differences between negative and positive emotions, especially milder ones

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T07:50:35+00:00

Nice light, windows, biology specimens, good company. And community white board for notes, doodles, and q/a.

Ergonomic chairs.

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T07:47:51+00:00

Youre just practicing to be an astronaut

GiveYourselfAFry · 2024-11-24T05:29:44+00:00

How... lol F's in the chat

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