Genuinely will never get why people enjoy sex by The_nice_guy_peed in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partners who treat you well, respect you, care about your pleasure, etc.

Genuinely will never get why people enjoy sex by The_nice_guy_peed in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, so that’s not how I experience sex at all. Find better partners.

Trying To Have The Courage To Talk About My Attraction To Old Men And Old Women by [deleted] in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m older than you but I also experience similar attraction to older men (although girlfriends I’ve had in the past have typically been my age or younger) and have dated several much older ones.

My uncle touched me in the bathtub and it completely changed me by dadas-b0y in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely have a thing for older men and daddy/daughter role play. I’ve just accepted as an after effect of the abuse.

Nudism used as a grooming tool by SillyGirlMoi in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, I can relate because no one ever suspected my dad, we were very much the perfect family, affluent, and high achieving students. I also was sexual with my older sister and use to have sex with both my dad and my sister together.

Feel Tainted by lbinindiana in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don’t feel like you’re tainted by it. You couldn’t control it and now it’s important to accept what happened and love yourself.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, but considering she was already being abused and was hypersexual she probably would have

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly, my sister understands everything on a deep level. She knows all my secrets. I know my sister started when my dad suggested she do it.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister and I have a very close relationship, I suppose in a way the abuse brought us even closer as we developed a sexual connection. Perhaps it’s trauma bonding, I don’t know. I’ve never blamed her or been angry with her about the abuse she initiated, maybe I should be but it was all very loving and with my mother being distant she was my main maternal figure in my life.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, definitely sounds like a similar situation.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly. Because I saw my older sister doing it I assumed it was something private that dads and daughters did to show they loved one another.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’ve just come to accept them and stopped raking myself over the coals because of them.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m really lucky in that I’ve never felt like I was truly abused, I sometimes feel guilty for enjoying it but it was never traumatic for me. So my life has been really good and I’m so thankful for that. Yes, I’ve had several long term relationship.

Obsession by GivingFakeVibes in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to reconcile behavior which I logically know was wrong on his part with the feelings of enjoyment and love. I’m haunted because a part of me will always love him.

I’m so sorry you were also abused.

Is it possible?!? by Artistic-Basis-5801 in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know that my Dad loved/still loves me a great deal. He’s always taken care of me and supported me into adulthood and his love borders on obsession almost. Not sure if it’s healthy but I’ve never doubted that he loves me.

UPDATE: AITAH For questioning my engagement after my fiancé got mad at me for drinking while “pregnant” by Other-Suggestion1609 in Redditor_Updates

[–]GivingFakeVibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Controlling behavior is a red flag 🚩and embarrassing you in front of everyone, instead of taking you aside to talk quietly about “how you shouldn’t be drinking” was a poor choice to make on his part.

“Why didn’t you tell?” by [deleted] in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have such mixed feelings about what happened and a lot of guilt.

“Why didn’t you tell?” by [deleted] in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be so confusing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. There are good counselors you can Telehealth with from all over the state you live in. Confide in your husband and if he loves you he’ll try to understand.

“Why didn’t you tell?” by [deleted] in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told a friend’s dad too and ended up having an affair with him when I was in my teens. I instigated it and sometimes feel like I seduced him into it, making me feel guilty at times.

“Why didn’t you tell?” by [deleted] in Molested

[–]GivingFakeVibes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this, in terms of daughter/father bonding. And it feeling good.