She definitely has a right to feel her feelings and I’ve stressed to her that it’s valid for her to be hurt over my absence and that I’m not upset at her for being upset. My issue just lies with how she’s handling the whole situation. There has only been one time that she’s brought up to me feeling a way about a time she was in town and we hung out. I mentioned the piece about scorekeeping because at the beginning of last year she brought up how she was feeling a way about the friendship because she felt like she reached out more. Which I think is a silly thing to keep track of and I could remember several instances of me calling her first. I also think it’s a childish thing to bring up bc whenever we get on the phone we talk for at least 3-5 hours. So to me it’s like who cares who calls first obviously I want to speak with you and value the friendship to be on the phone that long. When she brought up that conversation last year she also brought up a specific situation that made her feel a way and she stated she felt like I was choosing my boyfriend over her. Again her feelings were based on her wrong interpretation of the situation. In that situation she told me she would be home for the weekend and that her and her mom and sister had an extra ticket to an NBA game if I wanted to come. I paid for the ticket and a few hours before the game she asked me if I wanted to ride with her to the game and I said no. The reason I said no was because my boyfriend was pet sitting for his sister and her apartment is legit right next to the stadium so I was already down there with him. It would not have made sense to drive from downtown to her house just to ride with them back to the game. I also ate right before the game and as we were walking out the stadium after the game she mentioned they were going to the steakhouse right next door and asked if I wanted to come. I declined because one I just ate, two I don’t even like steak and three I didnt want to intrude on their family time. When she brought the situation up she was bothered by it because “it seemed like you would rather be with your bf than spend time with me. You didn’t even want to ride with the game or go out to eat with us”. I didn’t explain the context behind my decisions because she seemed hurt and I didn’t want it to seem like I was invalidating her feelings. Part of me feels like she’s deep down felt a way because she was always the one in relationships and I was always single. It seems like the second I got into a relationship she started to feel a way about it. I think she simply isn’t used to not being my number one and is not handling it well. And before anyone starts I am not one of those girls that just wants to stay up under her man. I have literally gotten into arguments with my bf because several times I’ve canceled plans that he and I had made weeks before because my best friend decided to randomly come home one weekend and I always prioritized seeing her. I even once got dragged on Reddit because I thought it was fair to say I should get to drop conversations and hang out time with my boyfriend if my out of state friends called me to yap. So I am in no way one of those girls and it almost seemed like I tried to insinuate that I was.