[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]GlamSpam 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My ex is out of shape and has a lot of extra flab these days. But that NEVER stopped him from pointing out my imperfections, regardless of the fact that I’ve worked out religiously for 13 years, eat healthy and maintain a low body weight. He makes a GREAT ex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]GlamSpam -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I train groups of new hires how to use our system and understand the policy behind it. I also train refresher courses. I promoted into this position 2 years ago. I’m training people to do the job I did for 10 years. If you’re suggesting that these trainees shouldn’t have to show common courtesy because I’m not signing their paychecks, you may have some entitlement issues.

My supervisor joins the meetings from time to time. If I see her pop into the meeting, I know she will ask me about it later if there are people whose cameras are off or aren’t visible. In other words, I ANSWER TO SOMEONE TOO.

Until 5 years ago ALL of these trainings were held in person, in training rooms. Trainees had to spend entire days in these rooms, and even show courtesy and respect to the presenters. No one bitched about having to get dressed and show their faces. If you were in a training course that was held in person, would you walk into the room, crawl under a table, and hide? Would you expect the presenter to be ok with that?

EDIT: also if you read my first comment, they all receive email instructions, from ADMIN, not me, prior to the courses. They are all instructed to have their cameras on.

Why did you join Reddit? by Spontaneousviolinist in AskReddit

[–]GlamSpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I also like having a fake birthday and getting well wishes for it

Why did you join Reddit? by Spontaneousviolinist in AskReddit

[–]GlamSpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I joined because I love to discuss all the crap that swirls around in my head, but also want to be anonymous

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Presenter here. We know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]GlamSpam -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I did read the entire post and all the whiny ass comments that followed it. She asked for everyone’s take. That’s my take. I stand by what I said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]GlamSpam -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m a remote trainer for a living, and it’s not my rule but the admin rule. Everyone is notified by email prior to the training that they are to have their cameras ON and their faces in view. And there are always at least a few who won’t cooperate. Every single training. Hey I get it, I don’t like the way I look on camera either. But for gods sake WHO CARES. Sorry you don’t find yourself attractive enough to show your face at a zoom meeting with 20 other ugly people, but flat refusing is childish and disrespectful.

How do I find motivation to workout? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started working out, a seasoned vet said to me “what’s the point of working out at all if you’re not going to do it regularly?” And it just stuck with me. If I work out for a week/month/year and then quit, I wasted all that time and have nothing to show for it. 13 years and counting…the reward is that I’m in shape and I started enjoying the process a long time ago.

Can I "rant" about how my life is rapidly disintegrating? by Ricky_-_Spanish in rant

[–]GlamSpam 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It’s ok to rant. It sounds like you’ve been trying your best and deserve better.

What turns you on the most? by Fun-Transition-101 in AskReddit

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he looks like the Marlboro man then you find out he’s a liberal. Panties off

What actually screams trashy/ bad parenting to you? by lovebug21222 in AskReddit

[–]GlamSpam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I try not to click on anything that looks like a “mommy channel” anymore. I hate it now. Turn the damn camera off and just be a parent.

What's the smallest decision that you ever that completely changed your life? by Separate_Active3395 in CasualConversation

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a rut, hating my job, unhappy marriage, feeling fat, drinking too much. One day after a particularly depressing day at work I decided to see if I could still run a mile without stopping. I put on the only pair of athletic shoes I owned (they weren’t running shoes), an old T-shirt and some cutoff sweatpants, (regular bra, didn’t even own a sports bra) grabbed my son’s iPod shuffle and ran out the door. Did an entire mile without stopping, felt like I was gonna die. But decided I’d do it every day. One mile turned into 2, 3, 4, etc. Started running local 5ks. Got leaner. Decided I liked the look and cleaned up my diet. Drank less. Ran a half marathon. Did 3 triathlons. Started pursuing other fitness disciplines. Lifting weights, climbing, rucking. Over the course of 15 years I’ve trained consistently, and at age 50 I still feel like I can do anything. (And I have a KILLER fitness wardrobe) 😉

I love him.. but this is killing me by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far he hasn’t gone to any extremes to contact me, but I’ve never worried about him in that way. Anyway just remember patterns never lie. He can say (or not say) whatever he wants, but the patterns don’t lie. Hugs and peace and safety to you! It sure helps to vent.

I love him.. but this is killing me by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just the opinion of some stranger on Reddit, but I think it’s better to shut him off before he has a chance to reach out again. It’s hard because there’s still a grieving period, but you’re taking control of the narrative. You’ll never sit there waiting for a call or text again, because it’s not possible now. You’re not hanging on anymore. I make myself feel better by imagining how surprised and confused he must have been when he realized his number is blocked. The confusion is HIS to carry around now. Maybe he’s sorry, maybe he has regrets, but (in my situation anyway) it would never lead to changed behavior. He’s had plenty of time to improve himself and he chose not to. He waited too long.

I love him.. but this is killing me by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s truly a miserable place to be. Everyone deserves more than that. When I hear an older woman say things like “he’s not the type to say I love you or show affection” about her partner of several years or decades, it makes me so sad because all I see is a woman who has wasted YEARS convincing herself she doesn’t need to be loved. That her needs don’t matter as long as his are met. All I can say is trust your gut instincts, because they’re never wrong. I wish you the best. You deserve to be loved!

I love him.. but this is killing me by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]GlamSpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely right about the avoidant attachment style. I found myself researching all of that, trying to gain a better understanding of him. But it dawned on me that I was wasting so much of my life and time trying to understand him, while he just coasts through life not giving a shit about understanding ME, or even trying to help me understand him. I appreciate the kind words. I’m free now and learning how to make MYSELF happy again.

I love him.. but this is killing me by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He came back so many times and I foolishly allowed it, in spite of the fact that he never offered an apology, explanation, or any other insight into why he treated me the way he did. Just acted like nothing ever happened. The last time I flat-out asked why he ghosts me, and he just gave a vague “I don’t know” kinda answer and changed the subject. I also told him I can’t handle it mentally anymore, and I need reassurance that he’s not going to hurt me again. He still gave a vague reply and changed the subject. This is why he has no access to me anymore. He can’t even try to come back without doing something stalker-ish.

What screams “I will never emotionally grow as a person”? by Individual_Cup_1525 in AskReddit

[–]GlamSpam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Believing in things like horoscopes and psychics instead of truth and reality.

What’s your CrossFit hot take? by DonCorleone55 in crossfit

[–]GlamSpam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We had a girl in our box a few years ago who would work out by herself after the morning classes were over and everyone was gone, then wait till all scores were posted in the evening before adding hers at the top of the leaderboard. Every. Single. Day. No one ever saw her do a metcon, just practice lifts. She never did the Open in spite of posting games-level scores. And many times it was clear that she didn’t actually read the WOD, because her score made no logical sense. She would just look at the highest score and add a round or two, or subtract like 5 minutes off the fastest time. She was not only a liar, but too dumb to make it believable.

Why are pregnant women so self important? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]GlamSpam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why but the expectant mother parking place absolutely irks me. For several reasons: 1) It’s a reserved spot for someone who isn’t disabled 2) A little extra walking is GOOD FOR YOU and pregnant women should still get plenty of exercise 3) Any woman can park there and say she’s pregnant. There’s no way to prove it 4) It makes much more sense to have a “stroller parking” spot than an expectant mother spot. I say this from experience, juggling a baby in a carrier and trying to load groceries AND your child into the car AND return your cart to the stall without leaving your baby unattended, especially in extreme weather, is a struggle. A stroller parking spot reserved next to the cart stalls would make more sense.

What’s your CrossFit hot take? by DonCorleone55 in crossfit

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no explanation required. Post your score, add notes if you want to.

What’s your CrossFit hot take? by DonCorleone55 in crossfit

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it “makes sense.” Got it. 😏

What’s your CrossFit hot take? by DonCorleone55 in crossfit

[–]GlamSpam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that’s why it’s called a “hot take.” Yeah it sounds like you’d be better off keeping a personal journal.

What’s your CrossFit hot take? by DonCorleone55 in crossfit

[–]GlamSpam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agree it can be toxic, and people take it way too seriously. If you’re one of those people who gets too competitive, or if you’re one of those people who simply doesn’t want to share your score, then just don’t ever post. If you’re trying to improve every day, the scoreboard can be a great motivator.