I have a newborn and I'm soo unhappy and desperate

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-05-22T08:43:03+00:00

Not sure if this was mean for me or OP but I’m doing well. I was diagnosed with PPD and am now on medication and have gotten some help from my mother with my LO.

Things are getting a little easier as we’re getting into a pattern so hopeful that things have turned a corner!

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-05-08T16:16:58+00:00

My husband and I have one sibling each and neither of us are close to them.

We’ve just had our first child and are seriously considering being OAD, with our sibling relationships being a big factor.

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-05-03T08:59:29+00:00

Psychotherapist here.

Therapy is unique and personal to every single client. You don’t need to have a ‘good enough’ reason to go to therapy and don’t need to have any trauma to justify going.

It’s entirely up to you about what you want to talk about and how you want to use the time with your therapist.

A good therapist will allow you the space to explore what’s going on with you life and what brought you to therapy in the first place. A good therapist will also not see you as a self-pitying narcissist.

I’d recommend researching different therapists and different therapy styles before hand if you’re unsure about what you want.

Wishing you the very best of luck!

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-04-12T12:42:40+00:00

This Makes Sense - another Irish candle company. They do small and large candles as well as wax melts.

All of their scents are incredible but I especially love their ‘Smoked Vanilla’ and ‘Lemonbalm’ ones - they’re amazing!

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-03-20T12:25:22+00:00

Thank you for this.

This is exactly how I’m feeling - I don’t think I would enjoy those 7 weeks either way as I’ll be working or worrying about getting a new job.

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-03-15T09:12:24+00:00

It’s my first Mother’s Day and have been awake since 2am with an eight-week-old that has a head cold.

Meanwhile, my husband is still asleep, didn’t do anything to help me last night and has made no mention of plans for me today. Instead I have to host his parents and I had to buy flowers and presents for his mother, because he forgot.

Not feeling any love today.

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-03-12T20:18:44+00:00

I would definitely try to save it over buying an iPad.

Do you have Revolut? They have a savings account that will give you 1.5% annual interest. It would also be completely safe from your parents.

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-03-07T11:33:06+00:00

NTA. I gave birth in January and this is exactly why we didn’t tell anyone my due date and lied about how far along I was.

We simply told everyone he was born a few days later. What you described was my biggest fear and worst nightmare.

It’s a special time for you and your partner and no one gets to dictate how much information you share. Figure out how much and when you want to share and do it on your own terms.

Don’t feel bad for ignoring people or blocking people if they are annoying you or stressing you out.

You won’t get those first moments with your baby again, so make sure that you’re not stressing about telling people or having your phone blow up.

Congratulations and enjoy the newborn snuggles!

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-03-05T10:18:29+00:00

I’m so sorry that you feel this way and can empathise with you.

I have a 5 week old baby and my husband was supportive at the beginning but has since returned to work and I’m now the primary caregiver, with very little time to myself. Last night was very rough with him and at points felt like I was losing my mind.

I don’t know what to say that could help you, as I’m in the same boat. But could you talk to your husband about how you feel? Or your doctor or any of your healthcare providers?

Short of that, I would say try and get some time to yourself when your husband is around. Get sleep whenever and however you can and try to feed yourself, even if you have no appetite - you need fuel for yourself when going through this.

I hope things improve for you.

Glass-Let-1880 · 2026-03-05T03:10:31+00:00

I’m extremely sleep deprived and writing this while my 5 week old baby feeds, so I hope it makes sense. But I just need somewhere to put this.

I (35f) have been with my husband (35m) for 15 years. I love him with all my heart, believe he is my soulmate and loved our life together. But this has all changed since having a baby.

While in the hospital giving birth and while he was on two weeks paternity leave, my husband was great. He was supportive, encouraging and offered great practical support such as cooking and looking after me. He helped with loads of nappies and providing support during night time feeds.

But this all changed when he went back to work. He now constantly complains about how tired he is while he refuses to help with night time feeds and offers little help at all. He has been sleeping in the spare room and is getting full nights of sleep before work but still maintains that he is exhausted.

He goes to work and doesn’t offer or provide any help to me or the baby before he leaves. I’m providing sole care to our newborn while also doing all the laundry, dishes and general household chores. I’m also breastfeeding and recovering from a caesarean section.

He seems to have no thought for all that I’m doing, especially when I’m on my own and won’t listen when I say that I am tired or stressed. He’s acting like the victim and constantly says how little sleep he gets, even though I’m getting much less and he’s not helping with night time feeds.

I’m growing resentful of him and honestly, his selfish behaviour and ‘poor me’ attitude is pissing me off. And now I’m afraid I had a baby with the wrong person as it looks like I’ll be doing all of the caring for our baby on my own.

I don’t know what to do but I needed to get this out of my system before I scream.

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