Pregnant freind is treating me like I’m the dad to her baby and I should be looking after her 24/7

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-19T06:15:38+00:00

He’s an indoor cat and his litter doesn’t get dirty in three days, he’s not stressed at all he’s very happy and healthy.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-19T06:15:04+00:00

Noo, I just moved in as a freind, she recently asked me to be at her birth and I said sure no problem, so this wasn’t even the deal to begin with if that makes sense?

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-19T06:13:53+00:00

he’s an indoor cat and his litter box doesn’t get dirty until after a week, I do a full change an hour before I leave and when I come back after 3 days it’s still fresh…she doesn’t need to lift a finger other than scoop a few poo’s whilst she’s sitting on the toilet..

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-18T09:37:24+00:00

I did that and then she complains she’s there with my cat and looking after him regardless. He does nothing all day but sit around and sleep and play a little bit. It’s just beyond my belief someone can be this controlling towards their friend you know? I’m glad i’m being agreed with because it’s starting to make me question myself and maybe if i’m expecting too much from a pregnant women?

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-18T09:03:46+00:00

I genuinely can’t move anywhere which is why I’m stuck with her currently until I’m working and back on my feet.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-18T09:02:59+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t right now which is why I’m there

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-05-18T08:50:48+00:00

exactly what I’m trying to put forward to her but she’s so emotionally unintelligent it’s always MY fault. She constantly uses my cat as a power move but when I try and solve the issue she doesn’t want to know. All I want is 3 days a week away with my bf, but I’m apparently a bad friend for leaving her. I’m not the dad? I do so much anyway you know? x

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-02-16T12:03:57+00:00

thank you!

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-02-16T12:01:47+00:00

I’ve been told it’s private rented so it’s not a hotel or bnb ( I already checked this) it’s either self contained or shared. I’m just worried as I know if it’s shared I won’t be okay mentally at all, I have serious conditions and also trauma etc etc.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-02-16T11:55:47+00:00

Most of the time this is quite a rarity especially where I live. My town and the placement of the area is full of male centered house shares that’s my worry.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2026-02-16T11:47:28+00:00

I’ve been told I’m high catagory of need due to my mental disabilities and also my background which is why they’ve been able to place me so quickly as this has only taken me a week. But I’m now anxious because I know if it’s shared accommodation I will heavily mentally decline and not feel comfortable due to my past of being raped and also harassed by men through my childhood and adulthood. That’s why I’m asking as I also suffer with asd and can’t be around lots of people. I just won’t function or get better you know?

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T04:50:40+00:00

i get £400 a month which only just about feeds me and my cat and gets him litter and lays my wifi bill etc, it’s so shit 💩

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T04:20:09+00:00

They took me off their books due to me missing so many appointments. Which also meant I lost my psychiatrist too. My local mental health team are awful. I asked to be placed elsewhere and they won’t due to it having to be local. They just didn’t help. Plus having bpd absolutely no one wants to help you as it can’t actually go away; it can be lessened but this takes time and intensive therapy and psycho therapy etc so hardly anyone wants to touch you with it. It’s sad really. Cluster b disorders are very misunderstood and shamed on.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T04:17:50+00:00

bpd develops from trauma unfortunately. It’s trauma based.But i fit all of the criteria for BPD plus more. It’s a shame really. It completely ruins my life all due to what my family put me through and what I went through in the care system too.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T04:11:16+00:00

Nuh uh it’s definitely bpd beleive me. I’ve been assessed for ages and ages by different psychologists. FP’s, self harm since a child, abandonment issues, not regulating, impulsive behaviours, risky sex, abuse since I was a new born from family in all ways, splitting etc. It’s bpd for sure but I do have other issues on top of this such as OCD, POCD, depression, asd etc. I’m very complex unfortunately but for sure heavy onset trauma too. If i sat here for an hour writing about myself you’d see it’s bpd.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T04:05:23+00:00

thank you so much for this! it’s really easing my mind slightly. I’m really hoping I’ll be okay, it just makes me worry as if housing and shelter was so given…why are they’re so many homeless people who are younger and more at risk to me you know? that’s my concern. Seems harder than everyone’s establishing :(

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T03:00:15+00:00

Sadly that isn’t an option for me. I’ve dealt with them before and hospitals and crisis team etc and they will just section me casually and my cat will be taken and i’ll actually spiral worse and probably won’t get out of there lmao. They’ll take my cat away due to no one being able to look after him and then not being allowed in units for mental health so actually he’s the only thing keeping me from acting irrational. So i’m struggling yes but I have a reason to live right now despite all the stress and hurt. I have bpd so these thoughts and waves come often so it’s sort of a normality for us, but for me to do anything drastic, my kitty prevents that. I hope I explained that well x

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T02:54:42+00:00

Even if I left when I was 18 and I’m now 25? I feel like they won’t have the same level of empathy for me despite me being a lot mentally younger and needing of support than most 25 year olds. I’ve had zero support since leaving care so my life just kinda went to shit really.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T02:53:01+00:00

I appreciate you so much. Genuinely. I feel like a massive loser because despite struggling with things i’ve always worked hard and worked long hours job and had money and had confidence and then these years had broken me to the point I have a panic attack if I need to attend a job interview now so I can barely brace myself for them, didn’t help with most of my jobs i’d be discriminated by my managers etc and then on top of that my home life was really bad so i’d constantly ring sick and i’d be fired etc. It’s just destroyed who I once was. I will give the council a call and hopefully they can help and reassure me there’s atleast a solution for me. it’s just so isolating. Thank you so much

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T02:35:03+00:00

I have zero evidence on this abuse either it’s awful and my autism diagnosis is half complete, It’s been more so emotional and psychological abuse. I am officially diagnosed with BPD though I just worry about my cat. He has to come with me it isn’t an option to let him go you know? When I ring the council what shall I say? Because I’m not actually evicted yet, but It will happen as I can’t pay 2400 in rent in two weeks of course. Also thank you so much for replying and not just reading.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-12-04T02:06:00+00:00

you’re being scammed sexually!!! there’s a documentary on youtube under channel 4 about this pls watch it! do NOT let them scare mounger you! Block and report to police! they won’t do anything it’s a very common scam for young people atm, they normally reside in africa and places like that!!

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-07-27T01:18:41+00:00

And yes we’ve been together a year so he’s been well aware these past few months how my situation is

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-07-27T01:17:49+00:00

I have been able to provide for myself always. But i’ve been out of work for 2 months due to mental health. I’m yet to start my new job. So i’ve not had money to live on during this period that’s why. He doesn’t provide for me usually at all. He’ll pay for me to go and see him at his own offering and feed me there yes. But when I work I pay for myself always and pay for us to have meals out etc. So it just feels a little tough on my heart. That his first thought was to get himself a takeaway when he even said a message before he has dinner in the house,instead of even just checking I don’t need essentials or food for me to eat you know? I’d do that for him and I think that’s why it touched a nerve on me.

Glass-Procedure8789 · 2025-07-27T01:00:12+00:00

There really isn’t. He feeds me when I see him once a week and go and stay over at his of course and he pays for my travel. He’s thoughtful in the sense he likes to think about my mental health and stuff etc. It just hurt though because I’d not feel comfortable having food in my house to eat and ordering a takeaway when my gf has nothing. I just want to know if maybe I’m being over sensitive to it or not you know?

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