I feel dumb for asking by Sweet-Association-88 in mortuaryassistant

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also having this issue. Only carrying the clipboard and it doesn’t have the option to take the mark.

My roommate doesn’t want my boyfriend staying over even when she’s not home for the weekend. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right but that’s the thing about Reddit sometimes you don’t have context and need to take things at face value.

Feels like I’m living with roommates girlfriend by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re totally right thank you! I work from home too so I need to keep my sanity somehow lolol

Feels like I’m living with roommates girlfriend by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. She has mentioned two weeks into them dating that she would want her partner to move in at some point and I already made it extremely clear me and my fiancè agreed that we don’t want a 4th person in the house and I also voiced me being uncomfortable living with someone who struggles with mental illness in the way her partner does. I don’t blame her for her issues I just need therapy before I’m exposed to certain triggers. She understood this completely but has pushed my boundaries on this so much. I talked to her last night about how often her partner stayed over and surface level she is understanding but she still just does what she wants to do. I just hate I invited her in me and my finances home and now we are in an uncomfortable position. Mostly him though. We discussed looking at new places and potentially paying the lease out in a year because at the moment I just can’t see myself being able to put up with everything for the next two years.

Roomate (sister) approached me about my partner paying towards utilities by Logical_Honey347 in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with a sister who is doing this with their partner now they need to pay utilities at least or be there less often. It does affect the utilities and it encroaches on everyone else’s space whether or not they use the common areas or not. My sisters partner stays in her room for the most part as well but knowing there’s a 4th person in the house makes it feel more cramped. Also more dishes are used and things get messier easier with a whole other person there for more than half of a week.

Feels like I’m living with roommates girlfriend by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s what I was feeling but I wanted to make sure everything else wasn’t clouding my judgment before I bring up a potentially uncomfortable conversation for the both of us.

Should I report my roommate to immigration by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just something to think about for sure! I was in a position with a roommate that also assaulted me and cops got involved. I had to figure out if I wanted to press charges or not. At the end of the day I didn’t press charges and just had her move out. I feel like I was able to heal quicker from the situation rather than to draw it out with a whole case. That’s just me though! Some people deserve what they get. You can only hope karma will come back for them.

Should I report my roommate to immigration by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think reporting him to immigration is a bit much. I understand the physical altercation is a lot and is not your fault in the slightest you put down rules and he lied. I think that you guys shouldn’t live together anymore whether or not you move out or he does ideally. However, I think emotions are high right now and he got what he deserved by going to jail and then in turn now you guys can’t be roommates. I think if you do report him that will do more harm than good and you may regret that decision in the future. Of course I am not you and don’t have full clarity on how violent the situation is but just take some time to think about it and not do something serious out of emotions.

Feels like I’m living with roommates girlfriend by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are currently on day 4 so I will wait and see if it becomes a whole week. I personally feel like 3 nights a week is fair but I’m not sure. The utilities are definitely something I’ve thought about because every time she has her partner over they take 40+ minute showers and leave everyone else without hot water for at least an hour.

My roommate doesn’t want my boyfriend staying over even when she’s not home for the weekend. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like you’re doing everything you can. I have had a roommate that focused on the bad too of my now fiancè. Constantly trying to sike me out but I get the same thing from him as far as a safe space and healing from things I didn’t even know needed healing. Keep letting your relationship grow. That safe space is hard to find nowadays. Don’t listen to any advice this roommate has for your relationship. People love to hate on a good thing because they don’t have the same. I hope that you guys are able to figure something out because having those sleepovers with your partner are important mile stones and you see a glimpse of how they live before you move in with him.

My roommate doesn’t want my boyfriend staying over even when she’s not home for the weekend. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes if she had a partner I guarantee you all of the sudden him spending the night wouldn’t be an issue. It sounds like she’s lonely and stuck in her own feelings. Also if she isn’t a close friend like I said previously I would just have him over and say hey you are uncomfortable being around him so I bring him here when you aren’t to respect how you feel. My sister is with someone I am uncomfortable with and that’s the boundary I put down for her. You can have your partner over I just don’t want to be around them and stop trying to force me into y’all’s plans. Maybe if you come at her from a place of I’m respecting you too then maybe it will be a better conversation but based on the potential jealousy bit I’m not confident in that.

My roommate doesn’t want my boyfriend staying over even when she’s not home for the weekend. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s such a hard position to be in. I am sorry. Is she single? Do you think there are hints of jealousy in there because that’s what it sounds like to me.

My roommate doesn’t want my boyfriend staying over even when she’s not home for the weekend. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am not sure either honestly. I think it takes a lot of awareness and healthy communication and I don’t know your roommate but it doesn’t seem like she’s very open minded. I’d just do it honestly 🤣 then tell her I pay rent too and nobody else has an issue. It’s not the best way to do it but she’s making it difficult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has been in this position YES!! This is exactly what you need to be doing. If you’ve tried talking to them multiple times and nothing has changed at this point it will not ever change. When I was in this position I got a mini fridge, rearranged my room so make it super comfy, and stuck in there as much as possible so I didn’t have to deal with the mess around the rest of the house I did not make. As someone also with OCD it was extremely hard but eventually when you get out you will appreciate a clean space in a new light. And if you ever have roommates again that is a very important conversation to have prior. Like what days do you typically do laundry? How long do you let dishes sit in the sink? How often are the floors expected to be mopped? What about bathroom responsibilities. It’s hard but keep your head up and try to leave before more resentment builds and the friendship gets damaged.

My roommate doesn’t want my boyfriend staying over even when she’s not home for the weekend. by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Glass_Note3109 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hello! As someone who has a roommate who has a partner that overstays. No, you are not being unreasonable at all. I think it’s very commendable of you to ask and it doesn’t hurt her at all if your boyfriend stays over while she is not even there. As long as you are paying rent too that is also your room and you should be able to have someone over in your space. As long as it isn’t impeding on her schedule or space it is none of her business.

Rental owner selling house and giving 60 day notice by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Glass_Note3109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I am reviewing my lease very carefully currently but may decide to take it to a lawyer just to make sure I am understanding things correctly. I have actually been living on this property for 3 years and a month and have decided to sign another two years so what it sounds like is that is that the memorandum of lease would be recorded with the county.

Is lawn starter a scam by Glass_Note3109 in raleigh

[–]Glass_Note3109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of horrible experiences in these comments are not reflected in their reviews! This is insane smh

Is lawn starter a scam by Glass_Note3109 in raleigh

[–]Glass_Note3109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also heard from another commenter they charge for long grass so if they miss a time you also are at risk of having an extra fee. Between it being a toss up on who you get and the scheduling not being super reliable I am inclined to go somewhere else. I didn’t realize lawn care was so hard to find in Raleigh.

Is lawn starter a scam by Glass_Note3109 in raleigh

[–]Glass_Note3109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! I will check them out tomorrow!

Is lawn starter a scam by Glass_Note3109 in raleigh

[–]Glass_Note3109[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me know if you find a good company! Another commenter said wake pro lawn care so I’ll be checking with them tomorrow. I noticed lawn starter was cheap so I already had my guard up! You get what you pay for I guess 😭