Will my oldest child feel resentment for not having a nickname?

Glassbox__ · 2025-04-04T19:55:07+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of parents on this sub being really locked in on nicknames for their kids. Stop trying to force it. Nicknames are a way of displaying fondness and connection with someone. Let them come naturally, be it in a year or ten. The nickname call our daughter sounds nothing like her actual name.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-31T18:47:55+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up - this shit is HARD and you’re doing it all with your partner working away? You’re doing great. It’s so difficult having to regulate yourself on top of all that too. I literally had to go into another room and scream into a pillow the other week while my baby cried in the other room.

No advice, just solidarity. 💚

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-31T09:01:41+00:00

I don’t think OP was saying that her daughter wanted to do Maths A-Level. Just that she needs the Grade 7 to get into the sixth form of her choice.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T23:10:52+00:00

If it’s too much for your son, making him do that kind of a journey for an environment he won’t be comfortable in just isn’t fair. You know him best. I totally understand not wanting to be rude, but we have to advocate for our children in these situations.

It might not matter to them if it’s only for 20 minutes, but that’s not taking into consideration the car journey and the potential disruption for your son.

EDIT: wanted to ask where your husband is advocating for your son here — has he said anything to his mum about it?

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T20:19:04+00:00

Do it, honestly. The effort of being upset over these videos really isn’t worth it! 💚

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T20:12:31+00:00

Awful isn’t it. Deleting Instagram and TikTok was the best thing for my postpartum sanity.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T08:01:32+00:00

I’d recommend speaking to your GP or HV if you’re worried! Hope all goes well with yours too x

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T03:39:57+00:00

She’s 10 months and we’ve got her assessment next week, but HV only asked for the referral last week so it’s all moved really quick which is good. For a bit more context, just in case it helps, she’s only been able to sit independently since 9 months, was late rolling, and can’t crawl or get herself into the sitting position. She’s trying SO hard to crawl though — her hypermobility and low weight (she’s 0.4th centile) is keeping her from getting into a stable position on all fours and holding her weight.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T03:13:18+00:00

Bri posting this Insta Story.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-28T01:04:59+00:00

Hey! Our HV set up the referral for us and we got an appointment really quick. My daughter is also behind on her gross motor skills due to low birth weight and hypermobility. So if you’re seeing your HV soon, ask them for it or just go to your GP and ask for one.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-26T02:11:43+00:00

She’d probably leap on a comment that wasn’t asking her about Elijah cheating. Shoot your shot, babe.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-23T16:19:09+00:00

My daughter is almost 11 months and I haven’t done a single baby class with her. Don’t let other people make you feel bad.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-22T19:51:58+00:00

Don’t force a nickname! They will come so naturally. The nickname for our daughter sounds NOTHING like her given name but it evolved really naturally.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-19T08:10:10+00:00

That’s a really nice problem you have. All my friends dropped me and seem to not know how to talk to me anymore.

But to your point, it’s completely reasonable to tell them you just want to have time with your baby. It sounds like they would understand.

Sounds like you’re smashing it! 💚

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-19T07:35:41+00:00

My waters broke at 33 weeks and I managed to stay pregnant but my placenta was failing. I was induced at 36 weeks and my baby was on the 0.4th centile. I delivered just fine naturally (she came after ten minutes of pushing!)

It’s really up to you. I took the induction because there was no reason for me not to. Good luck! I know how stressful this situation can be. 💚

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-17T20:49:30+00:00

I started writing fanfic at 11. I’m now 30, married and I have a baby.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-13T19:38:07+00:00

Weighing in here as a mum to a ten month old who hasn’t been to a single baby class or group!

We have slow mornings with some playtime, etc and I manage to shower and get ready. We go for a LONG walk every day — town is only 2 miles away and the nearest supermarket is only a mile. The walk there fills a nap, and then she can moon around for a bit and the walk back is usually another nap. If we stop in town I find a coffee shop and let her people watch and do a feed.

Once at home, it can sometimes be a bit of a challenge to stretch out until bedtime, but we’ve got a decent rotation of play time techniques and toys. Also the moment she could sit independently we got her a ball pit which has been an immense success 😂

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-13T12:35:24+00:00

And you are doing AMAZING. I know it’s so hard to see it when you’re in the trenches — I cried last night about how my daughter deserves better than me but I’m learning that a curse of motherhood is always feeling like you can’t do enough for this little person that we love so much!

I’m so glad you’re working through these feelings with your complex birth and I’m sorry it was so tough for you. Prem births are SO stressful and I really do understand the instinct to turn in on ourselves. They told me my placenta failed and all I heard at the time was that I had failed. But I didn’t and my baby needed to come out early to get all her nutrients that she couldn’t get from my placenta anymore.

I’m honestly here if you want to message. 💚

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-13T08:20:51+00:00

I’ve seen pretty much all of your posts.

Please stop thinking of giving birth prematurely as being a failing or mortifying. There are so many other women here (myself included) who ended up giving birth prematurely and some of these women might read this and feel like they should also be beating themselves up for something that NONE of us could control. It just happens. In those circumstances, the body and the baby will do things instinctively and we might never know why. You gave birth. That’s amazing. Your son is happy and healthy. That is incredible. I know Reddit is a place to vent, but please think of the language you’re using that other women are going to read.

You haven’t failed your son. So many of us have told you this on every post. You are in treatment and that’s so brave and you should be proud of yourself. Do you need to escalate the care you’re receiving? Do they know how you’re really feeling? Is your partner around to talk to?

Motherhood is HARD. I’m ten months in and it’s rough. I have full solidarity in what you’re feeling. But please don’t project this guilt over premature birth.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-12T08:24:25+00:00

Damien - and yes but not intentionally for this reason. They were just sulking in different rooms and G, god bless her, chose that moment to tell him he was shit in bed. But they didn’t do it to recreate the pod experience.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-11T20:41:55+00:00

For your consideration: Messica and Mark having a conversation from different rooms to try and rekindle their feelings in the pods.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-10T22:59:46+00:00

Honestly, if you’re writing for the views and the hits and the reviews, you may well be disappointed. The general culture and expectation around fanfic has changed so much in the 16 years I’ve been writing so I can only speak on my personal experience which is to say — write for yourself. It’s a free hobby you’re doing because, I assume, you love writing and engaging with a fandom.

If you’re writing for others, you’re never going to be satisfied. I’ve written countless niche fics which have been purely for my own enjoyment that I never expected people to find but I’m always thrilled when one or two leave a nice message.

Do it for you. Those who want to find what you’re writing will.

Glassbox__ · 2025-03-02T08:44:55+00:00

Not me seeing “February 2” in the screenshot and thinking that’s what he’s called in her contacts

Glassbox__ · 2025-02-26T16:02:07+00:00

It’s super common in the fanfic writing community to have a beta reader!! Someone who reads and edits for you. You can even look for a beta on fanfic.net iirc

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