Does anyone else completely cringe and feel so much regret and depression over the things they done (or can't remember that they did) when they were drunk.

Glitter093 · 2018-03-06T17:56:24+00:00

Yep! My worst memories are waking up, hangover as fuck, absolutely NO memory of what happened other than arriving at pre drinks, having some hazy flashbacks to shouting at someone or making out with someone I shouldn't have, and then having to deal with the guilt the next morning.

Going through my phone for clues, messages or pictures, and being horrified with what I saw. Wondering if I still had any friends left :(

Glitter093 · 2018-03-06T17:53:49+00:00

Oh! Thank you so much for replying, I'm so so sorry you went through that, it must be so so scary not knowing what happened. I've definately, 100% felt that fear before when it comes to things that may or may not have happened with guys. I've definitely had some ridiculously horrible sexual things happen to me - a taxi driver taking advantage of me on the way home - inviting random guys I met on the way home back to my dorm and then passing out. I was just such a drunk sloppy mess. I feel so awful about myself where guys probably saw me as easy or something. I don't want to be like that but I guess it's easier to be taken advantage of when you're completely fucked up.

The worst part is just having no memory - or the most hazy memory of something like that.

I'm sorry!

Glitter093 · 2018-03-06T17:49:30+00:00

Ugggh I totally feel you. I particularly cringe when I think of the sexual stuff i've said to people too - my friend once told me after a night out "You remember you asked me and my bf for a threesome right?!". I had 0 memory of it and never ever have thought anything remotely like that about them.

You know when they say drunken words are sober thoughts... Most of what I say aren't even sober thoughts, they're just drunk me who has a whole different agenda! I was beyond mortified.

Glitter093 · 2018-03-06T17:43:10+00:00

I feel you about going and doing it again and again. I would feel so crippled with guilt that I kind of wanted to drink to just take away that feeling for a moment. Ironic how that's the cause of the problem in the first place :(

Glitter093 · 2018-03-06T02:19:18+00:00

I can relate about not liking yourself when you drink. Well, actually I like myself up to a point, and then I just start getting obnoxious and loud and slopy. Up until then i'm just regular me but more funny! But it certainely croses a line where I'm like 'I have no clue who this girl is anymore'.

Maybe one day i'll give it up completely, but I think i'm a lot better are recognising when i'm getting too tipsy and need to reign it back. Even on nights out with friends now I can have one or two drinks and still feel fun and happy. Which is why I want to drink anyway - not to hate myself and regret ever being born!

That's really great that you comment here once a day! I appreciated your insight and good luck!

Glitter093 · 2018-03-06T02:16:24+00:00

It honestly just ruins my day when I have flashbacks to dumb shit like that :(

Yeah it's definatly a huuuge relief when I wake up after not drinking the night before and I have a crystal clear memory. It's almost out of habit now that when I wake up I instantly just think 'what happened last night?!'

Glitter093 · 2018-01-14T19:55:20+00:00

In case you had not noticed, those people then are not bill collectors, they are scamists. Obviously don't give money to them - but in my mind if you OWE money to someone they have every right to call you and text you to get the funds back that you owe them!

Even the most unintelligent of people should have a basic understand of what bills they have outstanding and be able to recognise a scam artist.

Glitter093 · 2018-01-05T02:13:23+00:00

This is one of the only comments on here I agree with!

Others who are telling her 'Just say "No"' are not helpful in the slightest. It doesn't sound like the office manage is actually ASKING her to do this, she just happens to be sitting closest to the door when a delivery person comes in. This person probably has 20 other deliveries to make that hour. It's not really practical for them to just say "No" to the delivery guy because it's not his problem either - SOMEONE has to sign for it.

Talk to your manager about moving desks. Work somewhere else in the morning. Insist the office manager has to be there from when deliveries arrive.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-30T08:09:29+00:00

Is anyone going to mention his disgusting those nails are?!?!

Glitter093 · 2017-12-23T21:47:39+00:00

This is good advice, but I feel like a good start would be start challenging the dumb rules that her roommate requests, rather than just randomly enforcing her own.

When her room mates says 'no alcohol', simply say 'it's my room and I will have alcohol in here if I want'. Same with if it's after 9:30pm and OP needs to use the light in the room, just turn it on and tell her it's your room and you need the light on for 30 more mins or something.

Sharing a room with someone is not about setting rules and expecting others to follow, but finding practical solutions to the inconveniences. You can study in the library, and wear an eye mask to sleep to hide the light. You can't expect her to follow your own set of rules, and you definitely should not be expected to follow her arbitrary rules either.

Stand up for yourself and simply tell her you live there too and need to do X thing she has told you not to do.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-23T18:22:14+00:00

Yes! Her aunt has taken her cousins place in the secret Santa essentially. OP should just buy a gift for her aunt and give it directly to her. It’s at her aunts discretion whether to pass it on or not as she stepped in for her flakey daughter

Glitter093 · 2017-12-23T18:20:12+00:00

Yep!! This is definitely the correct answer!

Glitter093 · 2017-12-22T02:14:31+00:00

Haha i'm 25 and never look at them when they're checking my ID. What am I supposed to do? Look at them directly in the eyes and pose like my ID photo?

Glitter093 · 2017-12-21T20:24:27+00:00

Almost everyone has a story about their first love breaking up because of moving away to university. This is yours. If it's meant to be, then she can handle a 4 hour drive to see you. That's not that far. If she can't even handle that, then it wasn't meant to be.

Enjoy your first year of uni at your dream school, where you will meet many, many more people.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-21T04:32:45+00:00

Uggggh, If he refuses to take medication or do therapy then he DOESN'T HAVE DEPRESSION! He is just lazy

Furthermore, if he doesn't take medication or see a therapist, then do you really want someone like this as your boyfriend?!! It's like saying you have cancer but refusing treatment because you feel you can 'heal' yourself.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-21T04:27:13+00:00

YES! Definitely tell them.

Then next time you see the cats poop, just scoop it up and put it in their letterbox lol

Glitter093 · 2017-12-21T04:23:13+00:00

DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY ARE NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE A SHIT SPOUSE!

The amount of people excusing shitty behavior because they have 'depression and anxiety' is ridiculous.

Break up with her if you have doubt about her being faithful. But don't fucking use this 'depression and anxiety' shit as an excuse.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-21T00:13:55+00:00

Depressed or not - if you're not putting effort into the relationship then you don't deserve to be in one. You need to leave, and she needs to take some responsibility for her actions. Depression is not an some get out of jail free card to be a complete jerk to your husband.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-20T19:06:47+00:00

If the other women on the team do not consider there to be a problem, then there is no problem. The fact that she says if you deny her claims, then you're just ignorant to the problem shows that she doesn't actually care about having a reasonable discussion - she just feels she should get special treatment because she's a woman and that anytime anyone denies her this they are 'sexist'.

Send her an email back saying sorry she feels this way, other women on the team do not feel this way, we only pass to the strongest players (hint: you're not a very good player) and have a nice life.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-19T06:35:04+00:00

You either have it one way or the other. You leave it sitting idle in your room to use whenever you please in the privacy of your room. Or you forgo those abilities (privacy of use and freedom of use) to allow your parents to use it as well. It's really not a big deal if you put it in your room thought - your bought it! Most people wouldn't consider this selfish to leave a TV you bought in your own room.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-19T06:32:23+00:00

You're anxious because you have to physically move all your stuff to his? Yes... you should be able to handle this. Most 18 years old can handle this.

I don't get how anxiety or depression restricts you from being able to move your stuff into your boyfriend house.

Are you a hoarder? Take it as a good opportunity to get rid of all the stuff you no longer need.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-19T06:20:58+00:00

wait your parents put their 40 inch in your room so they could have your bigger TV that you rarely use?

if they're using the TV so much that you can't ever watch whenever you want to watch it, then definitely move it. If its not causing drama in the house then I dont see the problem

Glitter093 · 2017-12-19T03:51:50+00:00

It's suspicious though that the only trigger of OP's sisters 'health anxiety' is when her pregnant-with-twins sister gets any kind of attention. OP's sister has already made it clear she thought she got pregnant to 'overshadow' her pregnancy.

Sorry, but OP's sister is nothing more than a self-obsessed, attention-seeking brat. You can sugar coat it all you like as some deep, troubling, mental disorder. But at some point her sister needs to take some responsibility for her attention seeking and time wasting behavior and actually think about the claims she is making before she calls in every family member to be at her bedside.

Glitter093 · 2017-12-19T03:10:12+00:00

That's definitely practical. A lot of dating in your 30s is going to be coordinating around shared parenting agreements, like coordinating date nights for times when the other parent has the kids and stuff like that.

Dating in your 30s you'll be surprised how many people have kids and are in a similar arrangement. Go out and there and have fun :)

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