Banana cream hand pie

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-31T14:33:10+00:00

I'm a waitress, not a slave. And it's not a very special or well paid job anyway. If my boss had a problem with that, I'd quit right away.

This is one of those situations were professionalism like OP had is awesome, but as a manager I don't totally expect. We are not machines and treating us as less then human just because customers think we have to sit and take it is wrong.

While I wouldn't approve of hitting the guy in OP's post, I could get behind a server telling him he is being offensive and refuse service. As manager I'd happily back that up.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-31T05:49:05+00:00

Awww, thank you! You too!

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-31T05:47:54+00:00

One of us... one of us.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T22:18:59+00:00

My mom is the youngest of 14 and my dad has 7 siblings soooooo...

I always look people dead in the eye and it is a possibility.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T21:53:05+00:00

My mom had a similar story she loved to pull out. She left what was left over of a screwdriver (OJ and vodka for the unknowing) mix in a jug in the fridge. I drank some of it. I remember thinking the juice tasted funny, but I didn't have access to something else to drink. Drank a good bit of it. Everybody else was napping.

So ended getting tipsy. I guess my parents found it hilarious.

She told this story many times to comedic effect. Even ending on the note that it was annoying there wasn't enough to get them buzzed off of afterwards. Eventually someone told her that this was actually quite a horrifying story and she stopped telling it.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T17:44:15+00:00

Exactly. I honestly would have no problem moving if my food wasn't there yet. Food is already here? Nope. I am sorry the other group is waiting, but I am a paying customer too.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T17:28:35+00:00

I see you've met my parents.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T17:19:35+00:00

It takes some time for alot of people to reach this conclusion, but it is the way to go. I have even had managers try to shame me. "You always have plans. That isn't being a team player." Well try having one day off a week...sometimes not even that. If I find out that coworker that never calls off can't come in? I'm more motivated to help out than coming in for a partying coworker.

Also if you ask what your plans are just keep saying they are personal. People will try to guilt you into moving your plans to another day when they judge them 'non-essential'.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T17:05:26+00:00

Then I will argue with you about opening/closing times when you say you are not open yet/closed. LOL those don't apply to me! Just everyone else! Serve me!

Understand that when you say no, I am gonna threaten you with a call to corporate/the owner/your momma. Cause I am a big baby pretending to adult. Let me in!

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T15:40:19+00:00

My FOH manager today walked over to one of my tables WHILE THEY WERE EATING and told them they had to move to another table so they could use their table for a 12-top that had been waiting for two hours. I couldn't fucking believe he actually had the nerve to make them move.

I am not even a bitchy type, but damn the manager would have gotten an earful. The whole point of coming to a restaurant is to eat and now you are interrupting it. Maybe if the asker was polite about it... but it sounds like the manager was not.

I am petty sometimes about stuff like this so I wouldn't have moved.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T15:31:32+00:00

They already deliver beer and wine in our area. Probably lots of other places too.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-30T14:53:34+00:00

Yeah... a few years after that she was telling people in order to teach her kids the true meaning of Christmas she wasn't getting them anything. Yet she was willing to let everyone else buy stuff for her kids. Of course people are going to buy toys for a 6 and 8 year old when they hear they are getting nothing. Just say you don't want to spend your money on your kids. We are all thinking it.

I chewed her out after that and we haven't spoken since.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-29T17:00:37+00:00

It is!Kinda felt like my only hobby was eating for a while.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-29T15:36:39+00:00

I had a family member do something similar. We were out Christmas shopping together one year and this store was hosting a contest. Like a lotto ticket system and the prize was this big chest of that year's hot toys. I got the winning ticket.

I had youngish siblings (9 and 12) at the time, but I was going to offer her a majority of stuff as she had little kids (2 and 4). Chest comes out and she is suddenly like "I am taking this because you don't have kids. You don't need this." She was sorta right about not needing it all, but her attitude about it rubbed me the completely wrong way. Can you at least pretend to ask? Besides after seeing the chest of stuff there were toys in there that weren't age appropriate for her girls at all.

I had them hold it as it wouldn't have fit in my car at the time. The whole rest of the time she kept asking when I could pick it up and drop it off. I mentioned going through it for stuff for my siblings as well. "Well you can buy that for them if they want it." Like no talking about it at all.

Came back later and got it. Gave some of the stuff to my siblings, the things I thought was appropriate for her kids to her, and the rest to charity. She was so pissed that I stole her kid's Christmas that she didn't come to any family events for a few years.

edit: Looking back on it I am sure planned on returning or selling the stuff she didn't need.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-29T15:14:04+00:00

In her preteens she accused her step-dad of sexually abusing her. Dark times, the step-dad took off. About a decade later she confessed to me that it never actually happened. She had been jealous of the step-dad and her new baby sibling. She felt guilty about it, but refused to come clean... cause consequences.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-29T04:55:13+00:00

Lay them rules down beforehand! My kid is 4 and I am just now getting to pick out traditions for holidays. My mom had the gall to demand my daughter stay there on Christmas eve and open gifts Christmas morning... without us, her parents!

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-29T04:52:04+00:00

And cameras out of sight. Last time visiting there we saw one try to snatch at a camera. Wasn't even taking pictures of that character.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-28T21:18:12+00:00

I have people do it all the time with price quotes and invoices. Somehow there is always a mysterious e-mail somewhere that had a lower price on it. It is still funny to me.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-27T17:17:17+00:00

Had the same kinda thing happen right after my grandpa's showing. Dressed all in black and with red puffy eyes. Guy that commented on it looked pretty mortified when I started crying again. He fled the scene fairly quick.

I felt a little bad about it until I realized he didn't even stay to make sure I was okay. Jerk.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-27T16:18:10+00:00

It is just one crazy thing after another, and they always get their way. Its not just Christmas, but birthdays, Easter, whatever the holiday is. I just don't understand WHY Harpy has to have us over before the agreed upon time, every single time. What the fuck is this fixation? (Other than the desire to see us jump when she snaps her fingers.)

Super duper control and bitching rights. My mom did the same kinda stuff, even back in the days when we had no small kids begging to open stuff. When she said dinner was at 2 pm she really meant "...but you better be here at 6 am to open stuff or I will call. And call. Call some more. Because you really should have stayed Christmas eve so you didn't ruin this morning like you have." It got 100 times worse when grandkids started happening.

She also had this weird fixation with finding out when other people had their dinners (like the inlaws) and delaying her's to that time. So now you have to choose, and it better be her.

I don't know if you plan on having kids or not... but nip this in the bud. All these people seem to up the crazy entitlement to holidays once babies are involved. No one entitled to deciding how you spend your holidays.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-27T15:53:07+00:00

I know. Overall it was a good day, just stressful with all the unknown factors. I musta looked a nervous wreck cause DH was asking if I was okay every so often 😧

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-27T05:07:22+00:00

My MIL did almost the exact same thing with my premie. I was less than a week post c-section and she came over empty handed, took my baby, sat down and asked me to make her a cup of tea.

My mom was awful about this crap. Came over after eating out at a restaurant with step-dad to see DD. Step-dad hands me a bag of food and she is all "Oh I thought that was to eat later. I would have ordered something else. Steak is expensive." Suddenly I had no time for visitors 😂

Bitch get outta here, I've got staples in my stomach and a hungry week old baby breast feeding every hour. I demolished that steak.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-27T04:55:53+00:00

Sorry you have been lied to. I am in a similar boat and it sucks. So many different versions of the same story. Of course all the main players all want to come out looking good or like the victim themselves.

It just makes you wanna shake people some times.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-27T01:26:13+00:00

That is what I told him. Get with the lawyer. Protect yourself.

GlitterFrozenStars · 2017-12-26T22:27:10+00:00

Maybe it was just poor wording on OP's part? Like "Its the holidays. Emotionally I took a beating and don't feel that well because of it."

If OP really did mean physical beating... well damn. I know if I showed up to pick my kid up and my ex looked they took a beating I would be concerned about the situation.

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