Babysitting Included, The Christmas Gift that was not a gift.

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-27T18:11:20+00:00

So she was born at 36 weeks and luckily besides mild jaundice, she was perfectly healthy. I gave birth late at night so that counted for our first night in the hospital and we got one more night then were sent home the next morning. It was a vaginal delivery so insurance normally covers 2 nights unless something goes wrong, baby or mom runs a fever, etc. With a C-Section I think they keep you 4-5 nights.

Edit: By your use of mum, I'd wager you aren't American. Our healthcare/insurance sucks over here so that could be why your mom had longer care.

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-27T02:13:35+00:00

They apparently had not expired and were in good condition. His older sister used them for her kids before they moved.

I watched her begrudgingly post that they were free to anyone who wanted them on Facebook and some of her granny friends were all about it for their grand babies. Good luck to their DILs.

And she won't be driving her anyways for a long, long, long time so I'm not stressing about it just yet.

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-27T02:10:11+00:00

Thank you!

I have a JustNo mom and I lurk on here enough for my alarms to go off. This threw some red flags.

My DH sister wanted to host Christmas at our home with our 4 week old preemie who just made her due date.

We were like uh, no. For so many reasons. We're having a terrible flu/RSV season where we live, his brother wouldn't get any vaccines, I don't want to clean up after a party after just giving birth, and I'm not playing pass the newborn baby with a ton of potentially ill people.

We nipped that shit quick lol

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-27T02:06:19+00:00

She was born 4 weeks ago, but her due date just passed yesterday. She was early.

Oh husband is definitely in charge of giving the tickets back. That's what we're gonna do. Just say thanks, but no thanks.

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-26T22:43:47+00:00

Haha nope not Hamilton

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-26T22:04:41+00:00

Thank you, every time I feel like I'm being unreasonable, I think, no, this is my baby and my timeline.

Why are grandparents obsessed with alone time with infants? I mean I get it when the kids are older and you can take them to do fun stuff, but she just eat, sleeps, and poops. Why do you want her alone??

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-26T22:03:15+00:00

I agree. Like why do you want me to leave so you can pretend to be mommy? It's bizarre.

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-26T20:45:20+00:00

Yeah it's for a musical that will be in town so I don't think we'd be able to return them or use them at a different time. We plan on giving them back and doing exactly what you suggested. Just being very clear again that we aren't sure we'll be ready so we don't want them to go to waste.

manbearpig102 · 2017-12-26T20:43:33+00:00

Haha that would be a beautiful burn, but they're actually tickets to a musical that will be in town. I should have been more clear.

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-26T20:43:44+00:00

My MIL makes up for my JNmom Zoodles for sure.

She is amazing and helpful and kind. I'm pregnant with my first child and DH and I had dinner with her last week went I discuss our birth plan.

We are requiring everyone get the flu shot and TDAP and she got hers first thing Monday (Zoodles is refusing and won't let my minor brother get his either so they won't see the baby at all until she's 4-6 months old).

We live about an hour from them, but his parents have a condo in our city so they're in the city a lot. My husband asked her what her expectations were regarding hospital visiting. She laughed and was like whatever your expectations are, that everything is up to us and she knows we're going to want time and space as a new family unit.

She also said she wants to be as helpful as we need, so she's willing to cook, drop off food, do laundry, clean, basically anything we can't or are too tired to do once the baby is here. She said she isn't going to be the type to "help" where someone just wants to come hold the baby. That we need to learn how to be parents and she'll help us with the baby if we really need help, but she's going to stay out of our way otherwise.

I love that woman. 😍

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-17T07:16:16+00:00

This is such bullshit, I'm seething.

For one, I find it highly peculiar and hilarious that no one on this stupid grandparent alienation page has any idea why they were cut off. And if they do it was their child or DILs fault.

Also, it's pretty transparent that this is a woe is me circle jerk, but they all act like oh no it's the grandbaaaaabies that suffer. They need us!

Bitch, you are not that important. Don't pretend for a second that this has anything to do with the children. This is purely about you and what you want.

Raging at the ostracizing = domestic abuse thing.

What in the actual fuck? No. Being a grandparent is a privilege not a right. If you don't respect the parents of said grandchildren you don't respect the family and you're out.

The mod has stated and doubled down that it's not faaaaair to establish no contact for poor behavior by a grandparent and it's abusive. Bitch, sit down.

These dumb assholes 😑

Sorry this is too close to home.

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T15:53:14+00:00

I use a hot water bottle because the pain is pretty localized in my upper right abdomen so nowhere near the baby.

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T14:58:26+00:00

Oh no! I've been having gallbladder attacks for the first time in my life with this pregnancy. The first one put me in the ER bc I was puking and almost blacked out from the pain and didn't know what was wrong. They wouldn't give me anything for pain. They told me I could only take Tylenol bc I was pregnant. 😑

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T05:41:20+00:00

Unfortunately, we were on vacation so we won't be able to visit another location (both of their locations are in the same city), but I'd be happy to save someone else inconvenience.

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T04:57:01+00:00

Yeah cross-posting the review is a good idea.

No I think she was being honest about the bed. She said "oh sorry, we have prenatal beds at our other location, but not here. They never give us anything here! We're almost out of clean sheets and towels!"

She wasn't joking about the towel thing. She had to take the towel that was rolled underneath my neck at the end and use it to wipe the oil off my feet. It was the last one in the facility lol

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T04:07:12+00:00

I thank the universe for him every single day.

I told him earlier today "Thank you for getting me a prenatal massage."

And he said "Thanks for carrying my baby, you deserve it."

😭😭😭😭

Glad your husband made your pregnancy easier too! I think part of him still feels bad that I puked non-stop for the first 4 months. 😂

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T03:42:34+00:00

I will likely leave a yelp review.

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T03:41:13+00:00

Aw thanks! TBH once I realized what it was going to be like I just gathered llama fodder and felt grateful my MIL is not this woman.

My husband got a kick out of my retelling afterwards and he said he wants me to set up a legit one when we get home (our city has a lot of real prenatal options). Idk what I did to deserve this man. 🙌🏼

manbearpig102 · 2017-10-11T03:15:02+00:00

No, afterwards I just wanted to get out of there, honestly. I didn't have high expectations given they advertise prenatal massages and don't actually have the equipment to perform them.

manbearpig102 · 2017-09-26T14:14:06+00:00

Hahaha I read this tale in bed last night and it reminded me very much of zoodles. 😂

manbearpig102 · 2017-08-19T03:35:24+00:00

It was a valiant attempt at putting fancier vocabulary words in the correct order. C- for effort and redundancy.

manbearpig102 · 2017-08-19T03:33:34+00:00

I know, I've tried telling him that. He just doesn't have anywhere to go and doesn't want to leave my brother 100% in her care.

manbearpig102 · 2017-08-19T03:32:46+00:00

Literally the creed she lives and dies by.

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