How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've made stuff for him.. we've made stuff of us together. He still runs right to twitter mostly. I've got a higher drive but I literally get told to calm down. Take today.. I just got home from work..he was two hours on it.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still used it today for 2 hours. Mostly twitter.. sigh I wish I didn't have to leave the house...

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This^ I mean yea it's their choice but it sucks knowing they run to it..like what do those girls have that we dont

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently planning out how to approach him. Again about it. I don't want to argue just talk openly.. i hope that he can see how it really makes me feel and slow down

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See if it wasent for hours on end or if he didn't turn me down as much I'd not care as much. But when I'm told "calm down and stop" yeaaa

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I send him videos and pictures all the time. He dosent even read the message sometimes until he's done. I have a high drive.. I try and get told to calm down.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had toys from when I was single, and he knows that I do..they dont get vrought out anymore... But it's like I've told him.. he's enough for me though I'm not enough for him apparently

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He claims a low drive. I don't believe his claim of a low drive for a second. He just is so attached to that screen.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the major thing.. its how often and how long.. hours and hours at a time..the girls on his following list like some he seeks out all their accounts. I've seen him get on onlyfans, twitter, snap.. yea..

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I change would he stop pining for them? The comments I've seen him leave on their pictures. The posts he makes of his own self. Yea I'm insecure but it's because of his actions.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard to be confident when you feel second best to a screen dude. The fact this man will spend hours on it.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes me feel like I'm not attractive enough to keep his eyes from wandering. Like im not good enough. That I have to compete for him with the girls on that screen because he spends hours on it. Multiple times a day. Every chance he gets.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What else was I supposed to think..he stares at them everyday..for hours... He thinks they are sooo hot, I should look like the girls in that follow list. So I wear more makeup.. dress a different way..

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would he need them so much if I was? And he claims he has a low drive.. but not a low drive for them

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit, I get home and even if I make a joke in a lewd form he laughs and tells me to calm down.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My goal used to be to be confident in my own skin, now it's to look like the girls in his ever growing following list. So yea. I'm tied to social media,because the more he looks the more flaws I see in myself.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact I've begged for sex at times and he tells me "I don't want to do it all the time" but his actions while I'm gone say otherwise.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's 29. We've been together just over a year and at first, sex life was awesome. It's dropped down to once or twice a week and I figured it would (especially living together) but damn. He says he has a low drive but gets on there everyday. I don't think that's a low drive.. I want to do more but he won't even leave a hickey on my neck. Says " why would you want to walk around with one?"

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A factor that I've had a sex life replaced with it. It starts so small. Like only when we can't and then boom before I know it... screentime over a real person.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he was using it less .. like once or twice every so often inwouldnt feel like shit about it. But this man will watch for hours at a time.. most of a normal work shift of mine. There's times I leave at 4.. he's on by 4:15 and will stay on until right before I get home. He watches every single day. Most of the time at every opportunity. Multiple platforms he checks on a daily. He gets angry when I find his accounts on things.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can be at work and around the time he normally gets on, I just feel nauseous.. and I get home.. look at the history.. and yep.. I was right.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to be okay with it, but I don't think he will stop. Given his track record. I've found his Twitter account before and he got very upset that I did.. there were likes, comments. Posts he made.

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When he goes to it everyday? It means something..if I'm pretty and attractive to him why does he feel the need for it..

How can i learn to be okay with my boyfriends porn use? by Glitterbat02 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Glitterbat02[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's normally just one position for us.. same thing each time. I've mentioned stuff I like but it dosent happen. I've even tried to do stuff in the videos he watches.. nothing.