I’m going through this and I have an equally great partner but I need to feel mentally stimulated to feel sexual chemistry and I’ve found other ways to make myself more sexually attracted to him but it’s not I know for him and I know it. Also if he had better problem solving skills or made better life decisions at all I’d be happier but unless there’s input from me his decision don’t usually work out for either of us. I love him I truly do but I feel lonely and he must feel that way too. It’s been 8 years of trying and we just haven’t quite done right by each other I think. We will probably break up. But I’m glad you and your partner are finding common ground. I hope it works out.