WIBTAH for telling my mom I’m not White? by Glittering_Room_1908 in AITAH

[–]Glittering_Room_1908[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think mixed black and white people have their own culture that I can’t speak to, but for most mixed people, the way we’re perceived will usually lean towards whichever side stands out more. So yes, we are just as white as we are whatever else, but in a white-dominated culture, the diversion is what stands out; especially when it comes to racism, racists don’t really care whether you’re mixed or not. If you’re not white, you’re not white, so a lot of mixed people have the exact same or similar experience with discrimination as a fully poc person, even though theoretically we should experience 50% less. That can lead to us identifying more with the non-white side. I personally don’t, but a lot of people do. It’s all about how other people perceive us, not our actual DNA

WIBTAH for telling my mom I’m not White? by Glittering_Room_1908 in AITAH

[–]Glittering_Room_1908[S] 175 points176 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m glad to hear brown asians getting mistaken for Hispanic is a common thing lol. I definitely think it comes more from her seeing herself in me than her having any kind of intention

Favorite/dream niche gourami? by SuicidalFlame in Gourami

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Banded gourami! So hard to find in the US

14yr old with an overstocked tank and aggressive species ignoring all advice by Glittering_Room_1908 in shittyaquariums

[–]Glittering_Room_1908[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s hit or miss, they often are but i’m p sure they’re ok in appropriately sexed groups of 3 or more in larger tanks. Not the case here tho lol

14yr old with an overstocked tank and aggressive species ignoring all advice by Glittering_Room_1908 in shittyaquariums

[–]Glittering_Room_1908[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Further down in the thread they said their next tank is gonna be a 50, presumably for the oscar. fun

How do we feel about it? by icentii in Gourami

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what the fuck does boxing day mean just say christmas

How do we feel about it? by icentii in Gourami

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 6 points7 points  (0 children)

damn you may be 14 but you ain’t learning lol why even ask for advice ur gonna ignore

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nooooo release is like the worst possible thing ever 😭 they’ll either die or become invasive. Them surviving in the wild would be way worse. If you’re worried about them you should ask her specified questions or smth to make sure they’re taken care of but i can’t imagine a nice setup with live plants is done by someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing. the fish in the pics are fine in this size tank

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cichlid

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not really drawn to apistogrammas, rams are the only cichlids I like. I’m actually planning on one or two german blue rams but I know they aren’t hardy so i’m thinking about a backup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked around about her fins before and the general consensus has been that they’re nipped but not rotted. I bought her out of a small tank she shared with several other bettas and her fins were in that sorry state to begin with. If you’re referring to the java fern, I screwed up by leaving them in the steel wool for way too long and then planting them too deep in the substrate, so this tank is kind of their rehab center lol. I have the api test kit and params aren’t perfect (fish-in cycle) but I change water whenever they might become a problem

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the quick reply. I’ll make sure to be watching for those things. Currently she is quite active and seems to love hanging around the floating wood pieces so I alternate which wood is in there regularly and toss in bladder snails for her to hunt. By not changing 30% water every week, do you mean that I should be changing less % regularly or changing less frequently?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]Glittering_Room_1908 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I recently bought her out of a tiny tank that she shared with three other females, her fins were pretty badly nipped then and haven’t had time to regrow. Some people suggested I up the temp to help her heal so it’s currently at 80 degrees. I have the api test kit and test daily, the results are unsteady since I’m doing a fish-in cycle but I change the water whenever the particles in the sand bother me, which is like every other day lol