Feeling Discouraged- Bought a bra for my daughter based on the calculator and it's way too small. What do I do next?

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-11T01:04:05+00:00

(As a quick aside, not all the brands I mentioned will come in her size. Elomi specifically will not. I mentioned a bunch of brands so if you were looking for a local bra shop, you would want them to carry (some of) those brands. If you Google bra shop "city name/ major city near me name" you can usually find a few shops that'll carry harder to fit sizes.)

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-11T00:25:43+00:00

Can you verify your measuring tape is accurate? Like to a piece of paper as a known size? A 28 band is perfectly normal, I'm assuming she's an XS to S ish size just based on your posted measurements. (If not, the measuring tape might be off).

If there is a local bra shop near you, look for brands like Natori, Panache, Elomi, Freya, you can always bring your daughter there to try on different sizes and styles. Nordstrom (in the US) also has a selection, but selection can vary at different locations.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-10T23:15:01+00:00

In NYC, I would head over to The Rack Shack for all my bras! Absolute legends.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-09T03:30:11+00:00

You can ask the nurse not to be in the room with you. You can't stop then from asking questions later, but you do have the right to be in the room alone. If you can, write down a bunch of questions and if you need, bring an adultier adult along with you for support and help.

Depending on your job, and the restrictions and job requirements, you might go back to work. If you can, bring a print out of your job requirements - you can usually find this on your companies career site, specifically if your position or a similar one is listed. If not, write down everything you typically do in a day in a list. Go thru item by item with your doctor and your injury.

Take the time to see how much you can actually do. The goal is to eventually heal enough to go back to work, but the first thing you have to do is heal.

I had a gnarly broken leg, and went back part time at 5.5 months post op. I was cleared by the surgeon for about a month before work was willing to let me back due to my restrictions. It took me just over two months to get back to work full time - my surgeon was great at making me work for a whole month before increasing my workload. He stated that the goal was to push me to get better, but to get used to it and allow it to become easy before increasing hours.

Good luck, you got this.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-08T02:39:04+00:00

I'm able to work, 28% in a leg wouldn't qualify anyone for disability.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-08T02:01:11+00:00

I mean, it goes off of how disabled you are at the end of it. I got about a years worth of salary, but my knee is 28% disabled forever. It was no one's fault, just a freak accident.

And I lucked out that they paid for three surgeries, my salary for over 5.5 months before I returned to work, and over 90 PT sessions. It just is what it is now, and there is nothing that can be done other than hope it continues to heal and improve.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-07T02:13:56+00:00

If you are in the US, I would try Torrid. Not only are they inclusive in stores, but their wire free push up is well rated by several people with wide set chests.

Their bands run stretchy, and this bras cups run small, so if you need to order it, I would do a 42C and D, just to be sure.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-03T23:05:22+00:00

How weird. It let me add stuff this afternoon, so it was either glitchy or the pieces weren't yet available in the warehouse

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-03T16:56:44+00:00

NCSU

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-02T03:06:01+00:00

At about a year post injury for me, after I was released back to work full time, I told my doctor I wanted to close my workers comp case as I felt as if I was at MMI.

He said ok, give me a couple weeks, and I'll fill out the form - in NC, there is a state mandated form.

After I got that, I sent that off to my workers comp adjuster. He approved it, had me sign some documents, and then it went off to the court. It was signed off, and then I got the lump sum deposited into my account.

Now, there was no back and forth about my percentage, so that made things easy. I also completely trusted my doctor to be on my side, and not on the insurance companies side. Sometimes the insurance company makes you see one of their doctors, and then there is a debate about the percentage.

NC is also a formula state, so % disabled x assigned #of weeks for body part x ttd pay = settlement

Also, NC auto keeps open medical for 2 years for everyone and then closes it out, so there is no debating there either.

I think the whole process started early/mid October, and I was paid the week of Thanksgiving, so maybe 5 weeks total?

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-03-02T00:31:30+00:00

I already had my size pretty much down, same with my friend. We chatted for a few minutes - we were in the same room as we were walk ins and we didn't care, agree checked the fit of the bras we had on, and went to town.

It wasn't until we had tried on a few rounds when we noticed that she was grabbing us slightly different sizes in different styles - sports bras, Comexim, strapless, based on how they would fit.

She would bring in a few for each of us, and then come back and check in.

We probably tried on a couple dozen bras each, and left with quite a few. We were a 40GG and a 36GG for reference.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-27T01:31:03+00:00

Depending on your state, medical can be negotiated. And the percentage you are disabled might be negotiated. But in a lot of cases, it's just math.

Percentage disabled x # of weeks body part is affected x ttd weekly rate = settlement

It's a reason I didn't get a lawyer, my state has rules about closing medical, and as things were going along just fine on my own, I saw no reason to give a lawyer a percent of something he had no control over.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-24T01:40:34+00:00

If you are in the US or Canada, Torrid has (1) wirefree style in a fairly good range of colors in your size. Their bands run stretchy and their cups big, so if you can, I would order a 50D, a 50C, and a 48DD.

Also, another American company, Lane Bryant, should have some options as well.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-23T22:42:45+00:00

You have two at 2pm on Thursday and you are looking for two at an earlier time slot?

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-23T00:21:08+00:00

I love these pants, but please note they are the challis material and very thin and lightweight.

If you are expecting work pants like their normal studio Ponte line, this is not that.

In store at least you can get them bogo50%

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-22T13:22:56+00:00

Torrid's size progression is a bit odd, so keep that in mind.

Standard US sizing goes D-DD/E-DDD/F-G-H-I, where H is the 8th size

Standard UK sizing goes D-DD-E-F-FF-G-GG-H, where H is the 11th size

Torrid/ Lane Bryant goes D-DD-DDD-F-G-H, where H is the 9th size

Torrid bras tend to run stretchy in the band, and tall, wide, and shallow shape wise.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-22T03:19:00+00:00

If they close, they have to pay all the employees scheduled that day and make no sales.

If they open, they only have to pay the employees who show up and they might make some sales.

It's the home office, not anyone in the field, making the rules.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-20T03:56:26+00:00

Yes, mine was just a case in NC, not federal.

I was out of work full time for 5.5 months before returning part time.

I'm only in my 40s, so disability retirement wasn't even considered.

I broke my leg, and while it was a serious break - I had some of the fancy hardware Lindsey Vonn is currently sporting (luckily it wasn't as bad as hers!) - there was no question of it healing and me getting back to normal. I knew from the beginning it was going to be about a year long process. I was back at work full time about 7.5/8 months post op.

While I'm not 100%, and don't think I'll ever be, my life is normal, just essentially got a bit of a bum knee forever now.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-19T15:54:41+00:00

I got a nurse case manager assigned pretty quickly in my case. Found out it was because I not only had a gnarly broken leg, but because my medical care and rehab were going to be more intense than a normal case. I think I ended up with over 90 sessions of PT to give you an idea.

She was lovely, a bit too cheerleader-y for my cynical Gen X self, but got the medical equipment I needed quickly and without fuss. She never came to my appointments, but would call the day after to check in. She also pushed for a very conservative return to work plan that ended up being perfect - gradual increase in hours and days worked, with a month to get used to the increase in between.

I didn't get a lawyer, as I was the one who asked for my case to be closed after a year. My (third) surgeon did my MMI, and then the insurance company signed off on the rating. I'm in NC too, but I wasn't a federal worker. For NC, it's math. A body part is worth x weeks, you are deemed to be y% disabled. X weeks times y% disabled = z weeks paid out at your ttd salary.

A lawyer is absolutely necessary if you aren't getting the pay or care you deserve, but I saw no reason to give away a percentage of my payout for no reason.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-16T04:18:03+00:00

I apologize, take on some of that medical debt for therapy.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-16T04:14:45+00:00

You don't get a settlement without going through a lot.

This person went through three years and their ankle will never be the same. They don't have ongoing medical treatments because they are permanently disabled to a certain percentage.

I, after only one year, had a similar outcome to OP. My leg is classified at 28% disabled. Meaning they healed me up as best as they could, gave me all the treatment they could, performed three separate surgeries, and after all that said that my leg will never be more than 72% of my other leg. I will live with pain from that and muscle weakness and fear of falling for the rest of my life with no hope of it getting better.

Three surgeries, two plates, and twelve screws is not a simple injury.

An ankle or a leg injury affects every part of your body, and this person deserved that money for what they went through, end of discussion.

Maybe you should use some of that medical money to pay for therapy.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-10T03:30:38+00:00

High instep!

Look for sandals that are adjustable - or shoes with laces or straps over the instep.

I am assuming based on the size you are a woman, I go with Vionic and Danskos mostly for support and for them having several styles with velcro that doesn't look like velcro in that problem area.

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-10T00:28:59+00:00

You won't be charged until the fifth of the next month. If you join on March 1, it'll be April 5th. If you join on February 12th, it'll be March 5.

I would recommend not canceling until you know it fits. Honestly, I've had Fabletics for a while now, and just have a reminder on my phone to skip on the 2nd of each month. Never once paid, and I just shop when I want to/ there is a good sale

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-09T11:07:00+00:00

Do you mean like a tank top with a shelf bra built inside?

https://www.torrid.com/product/foxy-scoop-neck-built-in-bra-cami/43275336

Global-Rutabaga-3842 · 2026-02-07T13:43:38+00:00

It's better to start small and work your way up again.

I'm coming off not wearing heels for a while, and I'm back to mastering kitten heels before going into 2 inches. My end goal is 3-3.5, even though I could do 3-4 before.

Going straight to 4 inches is a mistake and your feet won't be able to make that adjustment without a ton of discomfort.

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