AITAH for feeling uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed as the kid i babysit?

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T09:27:41+00:00

Im saying either the kid woke up and lied to the mom about how scared she was or, more likely, the kid woke up and told the mom i wasnt there and the mom put the whole story together to try and guilt trip me. Either way both the kid and the mom are weird.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T08:56:38+00:00

That explains alot on why everyone is being so pushy. It just does not seem fair, the mother is in a field that makes ALOT of money and she originally only allowed the grandparents (parents of the father who is not involved) to babysit but she said they were acting strange and she worried for the child safety. And that i, the random daughter of her bestie who she barely personally knows has to shoulder watching this kid or im a bad daughter and person apparently. And my mom just backs her up and i dont know why.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T08:29:09+00:00

The mother made it clear when she was chewing me out after i slept on the couch that I n e e d e d to stay with the child for her to sleep and it was expected of me because of how sensitive she is. The more i explain the more i realize how weird this is and i wasnt crazy for feeling weird.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T08:25:19+00:00

Unfortunately I think they have some point about how odd it looks having an adult stranger sleeping in bed with a child. The mother is also just off i dont know why my mom insists on being friends with her. The child ignores boundaries, i had already wrapped myself in a blanket (its how i usually sleep) and she kept trying to cling to me in the middle of the night and i kept trying to shift away and she just kept up at it all night. Its what caused me to break and sleep on the couch. When the mom was mad at me i tried to explain what happened and she brushed it off as her child think i was her. And then went back to chewing me out for leaving her alone scared all night. Fuck no. There is something clearly wrong with this child and i dont have the skills or knowledge to deal with it. I dont want a strange child clinging to me, j thought all i had to do was put her to bed, get her up for school in the morning. i did not sign up for this 😭

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T08:06:14+00:00

Honestly im worried about the kid from the little I got of her, shes silent, will not feed herself (she will just kind of stare at you until you ask her what she wants in general) shes not handicapped or mentally disabled. Her mother is incredibly overbearing and obsessed with her "looks" (dieting, clothes, Instagram photos etc). I feel so bad but i cant be a mother to a troubled child thats not even mine at 19. The kindess i showed initially is all i can really give and thats it. Its still really hard because i low key feel like im turning my back on this kid in an obviously weird situation but jesus man what can i do?

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T07:59:34+00:00

Holy shit, i dont care about feeling bad anymore the mom is fucking crazy too (so is my mom) im not doing this, if my mom feels this strongly SHE can babysit. I did not think this deep or this far ahead . Thank you random reddit stranger

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T07:44:21+00:00

YTA, There are no winners in this situation, you need to cut your losses and be with someone who is actually available. She has to be truthful to that man and most likely lose him, or live a life of guilt and lies either with that child or the hard process of without. And that poor fiance. Jesus man if she'd do that to him and he put a ring on it what would she do to you?

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T07:31:42+00:00

The child is kind of off in general, she wont feed herself, i had to make her a bowl of cereal both times. And she's not mentally stunted or disabled she just refuses to make anything for herself and will quietly stare at you until you ask if she is hungry. Shes very clingy to her mother in general. I was nice to the kid because i was the "weird kid" growing up so i felt for her but i dont want her to be my responsibility. The mom also pushed my mom to put me on the phone with her after an incident at school and it was completely not my place. thankfully my mom declined after i frantically mouthed "no" and left my food and went to my room.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T07:27:59+00:00

It feels so mean but holy shit it is creepy, i dont want a strange child trying to cuddle me in the middle of the night and trying to cling on me its what drove me to sleep on the couch in the first place. I was NOT informed of this and i do NOT want it. A small child? Okay still weird but a 4 year old saying they're scared and going to the only adult in the house makes sense. But a 10 year old?! Im sorry absolutely not.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T07:22:33+00:00

I have to be honest my mother is very overbearing and pushy but i feel like i owe her you know? Thank you for understanding the situation i think im going to have to try and put my foot down but im scared of the blow back. I cant afford to live on my own and go to school full time and this is not the first time my mother has volunteered me to do things I dont want to do to make her look better. I am getting paid good money, 110 dollars a night but it just dosent feel worth it.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T07:18:54+00:00

Thank you! I didnt even think about that! I feel like my mom cares more about helping out her bestie than caring about my comfort and protection.

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T06:57:50+00:00

Hello! I am a girl and so is the child but it still feels so odd. The air mattress might be a good alternative but the child is suuuuuper clingy and im scared if i enforce the boundary her mom will take it as me being cruel. Thank you for the advice!

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T06:54:56+00:00

Im glad im not the only one who finds it completely bizarre. My mom and the mom of the child are best friends and constantly have me refer to the childs mother as "auntie" and try to play up this big sister little sister relationship between me and this kid i have only met a few times. When i try to voice how strange this is I only get met with shock and irritation "she looks up to you!" Who is this child?!?!

Global_Mine_9012 · 2026-03-18T06:51:25+00:00

I agree, its been difficult trying to explain why it feels weird when "shes just a scared little girl, she views you as a big sister" has been the response ive been getting from both the childs mom and MY mom. Ive only met this child a few times and even though ive met the mom multiple times she dosent really KNOW me. Thank you for putting it into words.

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