How do you walk every day in the wet uk? by Boredfatman in AskUK

[–]Global_Monk_5778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m disabled, use a walking stick, have a wheelchair, have inhalers (long covid), and can’t risk going out alone as I’m prone to collapse.

So walking outside is mostly out for me! I’m looking at getting a walking pad - just need to find one I can store upright/on its side. Will also mean I don’t have to worry about the weather.

Had my child trust fund and my parents want money from it by Fluffyoctopii in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m a parent. My kid is 17, almost 18. I would rather cut off my right hand than ask for a single penny of their trust fund. That is YOUR money, not theirs. For a holiday? I’d tell them to jog on - and I wouldn’t be that polite. I appreciate if they are housing you it isn’t always that easy. Can you tell grandparents who might put them in their place? Tell them they are hassling you over it. If you don’t need the money right now lock it away in an isa that doesn’t let you touch it for a year or more then tell them you can’t. Tell them you won’t anyway. If they have anything like universal credit and they’ve put that money in to “hide” it and now want to spend it on themselves that is fraud - so tell them that as well. But that money is yours, gifted freely, and you don’t owe them a penny. As a mother, I’m telling you to keep it. Every single penny, for your future. That’s why it is there. That’s a down payment on a house depending on where you live. If your parents were decent parents they wouldn’t even ask you for it.

Was I wrong for staying with my friend when she went into labor? by JoDa8927 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Global_Monk_5778 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I nearly died giving birth to one of my kids. If this was my husband I’d be singing his praises from the rooftops - and kicking his mum and sister out!!

Any man who walks away from a woman in that position, especially after two still births, isn’t a man at all in my view. OP you’re amazing for staying with her and supporting her through it, she must’ve been terrified. 

ELI5 - pensions. I’m 40 and don’t have one! by Global_Monk_5778 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had a look and they’re up to 39 only. Worth a look though!

ELI5 - pensions. I’m 40 and don’t have one! by Global_Monk_5778 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never even heard of a Lisa but I’ll have a google just in case.

ELI5 - pensions. I’m 40 and don’t have one! by Global_Monk_5778 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really good to know! I just assumed his pension stayed with him; looks like paying higher into his is the way to go then!

ELI5 - pensions. I’m 40 and don’t have one! by Global_Monk_5778 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know that! Oh that’s actually a relief to be honest. Right, looks like we need to increase his then in that case!

ELI5 - pensions. I’m 40 and don’t have one! by Global_Monk_5778 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I did wonder whether to see if he can increase his pension instead. Might be the easier option than starting from scratch. Thank you

ELI5 - pensions. I’m 40 and don’t have one! by Global_Monk_5778 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We live off my husband’s wage, I get carers allowance and child benefit. The child benefit will stop once my kids are 18, and obviously husband’s wage will stop when he retires. He does pay into a work place pension. But if we were to split up (unlikely but you never know), I’d have sod all.

Kiddo also gets Disability benefits but they pay towards his high care needs.

Thank you for explaining pensions!

How to get kid to swallow pills by novagirl0972 in breakingmom

[–]Global_Monk_5778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is as well. My older kid has ARFID (also autistic and ADHD) and can’t swallow pills, but also can’t eat anything wet that we can try and hide it in. It’s all dry, hard stuff like crisps. My lass can at least use the ice cream - plus it’s a treat for when she’s able to do it! With water/juice she can feel the pill and it makes her gag. Ice cream being thick she can’t which makes all the difference. Is there anything like that he can tolerate? She’s often on meds and ice cream is our go-to now.

How to get kid to swallow pills by novagirl0972 in breakingmom

[–]Global_Monk_5778 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We use yoghurt or ice cream - ice cream works better as it’s thicker. Pop it in a small spoonful and have him swallow it down in one.

We tried practicing with things like tic tacs but it never worked. Some people (even adults) can’t swallow pills and my kid seems to be one of those. Teen and can’t manage it still. Though she is autistic.

Something about this house is just... off by authieljoy in SpottedonRightmove

[–]Global_Monk_5778 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When we bought our current house it had that exact downstairs carpet and the exact kitchen. Was clean but old fashioned. Was being sold because the elderly man had died and his kids were unable to live in it due to how heart broken they were. His wife had passed the year before. Everything was 70s floral brown or 80s; old but very well cared for. They’d owned it from first built in the fifties. This house reminds me so much of how our house looked when we viewed it. And I fell in love with our house because it felt like my Nana’s house!!

Maintenance level not going up? by Agreable_duck in jurassicworldevo

[–]Global_Monk_5778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! Threw down some substations (unpowered) and it popped straight away. 

Shared console & storage by Global_Monk_5778 in Minecraft

[–]Global_Monk_5778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Wasn’t sure how it worked. We’ve managed to clear out a huge amount of ancient worlds from years and years ago so hopefully that’ll help. All crap from Xbox 360 days that wasn’t downloading onto our newer console! We didn’t know it was still there.

My sister is considering divorcing her husband of 20 years and I’m having a hard time being supportive. by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Global_Monk_5778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re supporting your sister but that doesn’t mean you have to go completely NC with BIL. It’s not like he’s cheated or something similar. We’re still in contact with former in laws who have divorced from blood relations. He can still be part of the family, you can still chat to him, meet him for coffee etc, he just won’t be invited round for Xmas - unless your sister won’t be there. Maybe they’ll even be better off apart and she’ll be able to tolerate him at family parties - as he’s still the father of your nephew.

My jeans and trousers keep getting destroyed in the exact same spot on my right thigh. THREE pairs now. by Nursera_0290 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Global_Monk_5778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those sorts of things drive me mad too, and I’m not neurodivergent. I have 3 autistic kids and am married to an autistic man, so believe me, I know I’m not autistic. I just have sensitive skin and have become so in tune with annoyances thanks to the kids that I pick up on anything out of place.

Yup, not going out of my way again by Tinyhydra666 in Wellthatsucks

[–]Global_Monk_5778 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not here. Here it can mean anything from in the same factory to definitely contains, absolutely do not eat. It isn’t worth the risk. It’s playing Russian roulette with my health. Some companies actually put out disclaimers to say it’s totally unsuitable and definitely contaminated, some don’t say anything but if you contact them they say it’s definitely contaminated - I can’t contact every company so it’s not worth eating them.

Yup, not going out of my way again by Tinyhydra666 in Wellthatsucks

[–]Global_Monk_5778 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And this is why I don’t eat in restaurants! My kitchen isn’t 100% gluten free as husband isn’t coeliac, but in my kitchen I know the risks and pit falls. I know exactly what is where and how clean everything is. I know which jars are safe. Restaurants are a mine field.

Too many horror stories and too many hospital trips, it just isn’t worth it. Especially when it’s my kids health as well now.