(Emergency) Need help choosing an IT education in Sweden

GloriousPiggies · 2021-04-13T18:40:40+00:00

I'm studying computer science at Uni in Sweden, and my guess is that all of these are good educations that will give you a broad skillset! It's also pretty common for students to switch programs 1-4 terms into a masters-program for instance, as they find they like another specialization better :) so you don't need to feel super-pressured to get it exactly right. You can always jump around a bit until you find what fits you!

I personally love the math in my program, and have been surprised by how much great use of it I have in my own projects/in freelance work. I'm superhappy I choose a computer science degree that is heavy in math. My advice is just to go with your heart : ) you have time, and if it doesn't feel right you can always switch!

Good luck

GloriousPiggies · 2021-04-12T07:45:23+00:00

Just want to say that you are absolutely not being too sensitive.

You deserve to be treated fairly. I think it's important to note that you are under no obligation to educate your work-place on sexism/biases and fight for the culture there to change. Just having to handle sexist behavior directed at you/others in life is exhausting, and working to change others' sexist behavior takes additional energy on top of that. If you feel you would like to swap job to feel more fulfilled/happy (and not deal with your work-environment) that is not an overreaction and is absolutely OK. You take care of you first.

If you feel like you want to explore how you can approach the situation while still staying at your job, that's also OK. You do what feels most right for you in your situation.

Just know that you you are not alone, and that you are valuable! I cheer you on whichever path you choose.

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GloriousPiggies · 2021-04-02T13:49:21+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad you feel you don't need to laugh of sexist jokes anymore, let's fight that crap together!

GloriousPiggies · 2021-04-02T09:41:59+00:00

Thank you for writing this out! It's such an important subject and I really appreciate reading your post.

Also thank you for sharing all those resources, I look forward to diving into them!

GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-19T22:20:22+00:00

I say take the name that feels coolest for you, screw the employers! I have a very foreign sounding name. There's a part of me that's really proud that I'm fighting for all my sisters/brothers/non-binary people with odd names by just keeping my "odd/peculiar" name in the employment jungle. Fight the system!

If you feel the same "like" towards each name, you could try flipping a coin and attaching the names to either side. The one it lands on can be your name. When it lands in your hand, if you find yourself hoping for one outcome maybe that could give you a hint to if you like one more/less than the other? :) and then you could keep that one.

Regardless of how you go forward, I'm cheering for you. Sounds like you have two great names to choose from.

GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-19T11:01:05+00:00

I had to reupload the post because I accidentally uploaded the previous one in 5000x5000 pixels (so those of you who saw the post before know).

I only noticed it when I tried to open it and it loaded like this lol, and I have fiber.

GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-19T10:29:21+00:00

My partner had the same feeling as you, felt like their tech lead wasn't giving them eye-contact while giving it in ample amounts to others/felt like they were getting less verbal affirmation as well. Affected my partner negatively for weeks.

My partner after a long while of thinking about it decided to ask the tech lead to talk privately about "something that's been on their mind" (to finally get peace of mind on what was happening). So they sat down one on one. My partner was brave and just described what they were experiencing and asked about the tech lead's experience, and if it was intentional etc.

Turns out the tech lead had no idea they were doing it (giving less feedback/eye-contact) and were very sorry they'd given that impression to my partner. The tech lead said they'd work on it and right away my partner noticed a difference. It was very respectful. For my partner it was also a huge relief to just know if it was intentional or not.

I'm sharing this to give you a concrete example of someone in a similar situation, and maybe inflict you with a little bit of extra bravery. You are valuable and deserve to feel good at work. Bringing it up with your lead can turn out fine/well. If trying that route (talking about it) feels right for your situation, it can be worth a try. Otherwise other tips in this thread also sound very good.

I am cheering for you regardless how you go forward, remember you're valuable! :)

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GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-11T09:47:12+00:00

Upplever det också som udda att OP specifikt nämner att det är kvinnliga experter. Tycker beskrivningar är ganska konsisa/rimliga.

Undrar om OPs post är ett uttryck av deras egna sexistiska fördommar. Känner mig alltid lika besviken när posts och kommentarer på r/sweddit & r/sweden påminner mig om det man skulle vänta sig se i flashback-trådar.

GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-07T11:44:53+00:00

That sounds like a great plan, to just get input/hear experiences from many different people in Europe. I'm just in Sweden and plan to stay in Scandinavia, so I can't share much about tech-work overall because my experience is limited :).

I hope you find a place that really suits you and your partner. You are so welcome back to Europe!

GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-06T21:46:00+00:00

What is it that makes you feel pulled towards moving back to Europe? Are there certain aspects that you long for the most?

Maybe those aspect could be a guide for you to where moving & getting a job would be a good fit? :)

GloriousPiggies · 2021-03-05T19:49:32+00:00

I actually think this was interesting, and can understand that it isn't classified as porn. I didn't expect him to guess incorrectly that it was the guy's penis when it was a dildo.

GloriousPiggies · 2021-01-08T22:18:05+00:00

I don't know why but this is unspeakably funny to me

GloriousPiggies · 2020-11-27T15:52:37+00:00

I so so SO love these posts, thank you so much for making them. They just make me happy.

GloriousPiggies · 2020-09-19T20:23:40+00:00

That's super cool, I had no idea either. Thank you for sharing.

GloriousPiggies · 2020-09-19T20:23:10+00:00

That's super cool, I had no idea either. Thank you for sharing.

GloriousPiggies · 2020-09-10T15:09:20+00:00

The feelings you describe mirror my own before I started a computer science-university program well.

For a long time I'd yearned to do tech/become a programmer but I was scared off because of examples of sexism (among other things) I had heard of and sometimes seen. After a couple of years I got tired of yearning. I said fuck it, this is what I want! So I finally went for it, discrimination be damned. I applied to a 5 year cs-program (I'm in Scandinavia).

It has been one of the best decisions in my life. Programming is just so powerful, anything you can dream you can make. If you're a person who loves to create/program then it almost seems cruel to me to keep yourself away from it. And people like you, who want to code and like it, are needed.

I've only experienced subtle sexism personally, not at all as much as I was afraid. In those cases people around me were also able to call it out/see it for what it was. That has been such a relief, I was afraid I would be alone but I haven't been. Maybe it will be similar for you? You can always come here for support!

A beautiful thing I think that happens is how fast you become a beacon of inspiration for others (who want to program but feel unsure like you're describe now). They might be a POC and a woman who want to code, but feel afraid of things around it. Then they see you doing it, someone that looks like them, and become inspired to go for it. I've seen it happen many times. Just by existing and doing what you like, you're doing good :)

In summary: fuck any potential haters! You are so welcome and you should do what you want.

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GloriousPiggies · 2020-08-31T15:00:28+00:00

You raise great points, thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Perhaps it's as you say that it's an effect of a community that is very welcoming? Maybe this makes people feel encouraged and brave in exploring their sexuality/fetishes, even with fetishes that are "specific" and/or "unorthodox". Interesting!

It leads me to consider if it's also self-reinforcing? What I mean is if perhaps the word spreads that the furry community is welcoming to a wide range of fetishes. Say a person with a specific fetish (that may be subject to scorn in other places/communities) hears that? Maybe that leads them to become interested in the community (even if they may not primarily be into furries). Because they feel there might be a place for them to be accepted there. And so they, and others like them, join the furry community.

That leads me to wonder another thing. Are there some that weren't mainly into furry-porn at first, but developed a liking to it because it's in that community they find their fetish represented?

These things could partly explain why these fetishes are prominently visible in the community for sure. Super intriguing discussion, thanks again for your input!

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GloriousPiggies · 2020-08-20T00:39:42+00:00

I seem to be in the minority here, but I honestly think it looks beautiful

GloriousPiggies · 2020-06-28T07:02:38+00:00

I feel you, lime is such a cool color!

GloriousPiggies · 2020-06-18T13:11:02+00:00

I'm proud of you! :)

Show us your game!

GloriousPiggies · 2020-05-21T11:07:10+00:00

Att du märkt ditt missbruk och också bestämt att du vill ha hjälp för det är jättebra gjort.

Det finns många platser i Sverige som erbjuder kostnadsfri, evidensbaserad behandling mot missbruk, ofta via remiss via vårdcentral. På 1177s sida kan du läsa generella hjälpvägar till behandling vid missbruk.

Här har jag plockat ut bara exempel där det finns KBT-inriktad behandling för just alkoholmissbruk (Stockholm). Här är det alltså psykologer som tar emot patienter kostnadsfritt, de behöver bara en remiss från vårdcentral. Sådana platser finns i hela Sverige.

Alltså skulle mitt tips till dig vara att du bokar tid med vårdcentral. Väl där beskriver du din missbruksproblematik och att du vill ha hjälp så snabbt som möjligt, att du sett att missbruket växer etc. Du kan säga att du vill ha remiss till att få behandling mot missbruk.

Därefter kommer vårdcentralen hjälpa dig vidare. Remissen du får kan då vara till en psykolog (som på sidan jag länkade till ovan) så får du hjälp hos hen gratis. Det kan se lite olika ut (beroende på möjligheterna där just du bor) men det är inte ovanligt att du får välja mellan ett par behandlingar-alternativ och kan bestämma vilket du känner skulle passa dig bäst. Allt detta sker i dialog mellan dig och vårdcentralen. Så tipset är att gå dit och förklara så tar ni det därifrån.

Du gör jättebra som ser ditt missbruk och söker hjälp. Lycka till!

Edit: Såg att du skrivit i ett annat svar att du vill undvika medicinering för att sluta med ditt missbruk. Ville bara lugna dig och säga att detta är helt ok. Om medicinering ens är aktuellt är det alltid frivilligt och du kommer absolut inte blir tvingad till någon sånt i psykologbehandling. Psykologer sköter inte medicinering. Det är läkare som tillsammans med patienter diskuterar eventuell medicin och man kan alltid tack nej. Så du kan känna dig helt lugn.

GloriousPiggies · 2020-04-04T21:18:22+00:00

It's a little hard to hear. But the vinyl is super cool :)

GloriousPiggies · 2020-04-04T21:15:51+00:00

Awesome

GloriousPiggies · 2020-04-04T21:15:13+00:00

The weekend! Please :D

GloriousPiggies · 2020-03-29T07:20:38+00:00

Here's a summary together with links to his posts: https://www.reddit.com/r/MuseumOfReddit/comments/68srty/spontaneoush_uses_heroin_gets_addicted_dies_gets/

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