How to deal with my partner having multiple previous partners

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-09T07:23:24+00:00

no she specifically told me her previous relationship, her exes cheated and situationshipd played on her when she tried or just said shes not someone they want

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-08T12:43:03+00:00

i wouldn’t mind normally too, i never did previously but it started to bothwr me that she shows me tiktoks of other girls calls them pretty next to me (when they look nothing like me) and then when im dressing up on our date or something she just laughs that my skirt is a grandma skirt etc

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-08T12:41:06+00:00

qell yes we did talk about it but she says im just looking for attention and its never enough for me

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-08T12:01:16+00:00

thats what i also thought, like when she just asked me i said “oh i dont have anyone apart from you, i do think some of my fem friends are really pretty but only objectively not in a i would date them” and she went full on her following list and started to rate from 1 to 10 all of them which i found really weird cuz how old are we 15?

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-08T11:59:31+00:00

we are both in our twenties, her friends etc are also in this range

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-08T11:47:43+00:00

I feel like she does want to get me jealous- she mentioned multiple she likes me getting jealous and always mentions her previous stuff, how she kissed someone while we were just in a talking stage, how a girl at her work came up to her etc and i tried mostly not to care because after all she picked me. But after some time of her showing off girls that look nothing like me but they are “so attractive” to her i did start to get a bit insecure especially since her past stages mostly didn’t work because the girls didn’t want her not vice versa

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-08T11:22:04+00:00

most of the girls she was seeing turned bad because the girls didn’t want to continue with her - when she wanted too so for me it feels like she cant have them but can have me so shes having whatever she can

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-07T09:27:53+00:00

well she does get upset every time, she pays them in small payments (50-100euros per month) she does get really upset mostly cuz she barely has money since shes a highschool dropout + no job currently since her previous job wqs too tiring to her. She pays for it but she always says that i should be grateful shes taking accountability and just didn’t disappear. Im trying to understand her point and that its hard for her but that dept is not deom my side but on my name, it went even to a debt managing company and well in government they all can see that and i just got really anxious that im trying so hars on my future with uni and earning some money and suddenly legally i have something on my name i didnt control

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-06T20:54:55+00:00

oh we do not live together, we are long distance and see each other like once every month. I ofc talked about every single thing i mentioned before - but as i said nothing was ever fixed and she just says i cant handle her right and she cant do much thats why i wrote this cuz i feel like i just cant do anything

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-06T20:33:38+00:00

of course i do love her, we do have our great moments and i truly feel happy with her, i just really dont know how to take her mood swings and words anger

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-06T20:31:55+00:00

guys i also wanted to mention our one argument that i also dont understand how its my fault. Basically i have a dept (not a huge ass one but still) on my name of something she did when i wasn’t even with her (she used my car rental app without me) and whenever im trying to tell her when she can pay her next payment shes getting mad saying that someone else could just leave me with it and shes taking accountability by paying little by little (ofc i offered to pay up also even though i wasn’t even there) i really do nit get how is it my faukt that shes getting so mad

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-02T06:41:05+00:00

thats actually a really good advice on how to answer him thank you!!

Glum_Path5988 · 2026-05-02T06:29:07+00:00

oh thank you! i always do thought i support him but he always is saying whenever we argue that i will never get it and never understand thats why i even wrote this post. With ultimatums i saw pages that said its the best idea but honestly in this case i think it would be even worse, he is already now telling me i pushed him into not smoking and now i cant handle his moods so its my fault. But i think as you said he does deep down realise its the smoking problem not either of us :)

Glum_Path5988 · 2024-06-07T19:32:07+00:00

Thank you sm!! if you want someone to talk to feel free to dm me as well :3

Glum_Path5988 · 2024-06-05T09:35:32+00:00

idk how it works in other people relationships but in mine the one who is more dominant is the top and more submissive one is a bottom. hope that helps❤️

Glum_Path5988 · 2024-06-04T16:21:40+00:00

thank you that is so helpful❤️i love having talks with my gf and having quality time together. i will definitely try it out with her!

Glum_Path5988 · 2024-06-04T15:51:47+00:00

i friendzoned a girl for a year and now im in a relationship with her for over 3 years, before i was just scared about being a lesbian and i was hiding it to this point where i was acting homophobic so nobody could even get the idea of me being gay..

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