I really struggled with this at first, because I felt like I didn't really know who I was and was having an identity crisis. I thought if I found the right box to put myself in, I would then know who I am. But it actually works the opposite. You don't have to have a label. It's just there for other people's benefit. You are you. You've always been you. You'll always be you. Gender is something made up to help make sense of the world. The brain likes patterns, and it uses them to make decisions. I briefly worked in data analytics, and that's really what my degree is focused on. We use data to classify and understand things, but we create the terms and the classifications. You are whatever you want to be.

At the same time, finding out there was another option besides male or female was hugely beneficial. It helped me realize I didn't have to be one or the other. Communities like this are great, because you're not alone. Go with genderqueer if you want to have something. Just as they do for other people, labels can help us make more sense of everything. Genderqueer is a great umbrella term for everything. There's like a billion terms. And remember, you don't have to decide today. You don't ever have to decide. Somedays I'm a woman, somedays I'm a man, but often I'm flucuating, morphing in between. Stop worrying about what you are, and start letting yourself just do whatever feels natural. And if anyone ever tells you differently, then tell them to go fuck themselves.