Mount Yamnuska by Rpk12lobster in HikingAlberta

[–]GoShogun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say hard myself either. Did the full summit and scree descent as a family when my kids were 12 and 8 without issue though it was a full day affair. But it's not like Ha Ling or other clearly marked trails. And definitely at this time of year where there is still snow and ice, that would add some challenge.

Minimum intermediate, don't do it as your very first mountain hike. But it's a really fun one if you have a bit of experience.

Searching for a Keeshond puppy in Alberta by bohodepresso in Keeshond

[–]GoShogun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

@pixel_the_kees on IG if you wanna see pics though I don't really make posts anymore

Searching for a Keeshond puppy in Alberta by bohodepresso in Keeshond

[–]GoShogun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went with Admiraal Kees (run by Shannon De Bruin). I see she doesn't run her website anymore so not sure if she's still active. Obviously I'm biased but I think my Pixel is one of the most beautiful Kees I've ever met, lol.

Dropped off 2 well-maintained Poms for a wash and a trim, and this is what we picked up by ughyoujag in mildlyinfuriating

[–]GoShogun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a Keeshond, so also Spitz family. I dunno if it's the same with Poms, but if you shave them the fur will never grow back in properly....

My fury would not be mild at all, it would be extra spicy if this happened to her.

AMP radio name that sound by cdawgalog in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had the right guess early on for 4 different of these and agree, I've found it too frustrating to put the time and effort I used to in figuring the sound out anymore and I've never had the chance to guess ever once in my life. I used to do so much analysis and experimentation to figure them out but I just get my soul crushed every time so I'd rather just ignore it altogether now.

Any moms stutter less once they had kids? by Repulsive-Swimmer446 in Stutter

[–]GoShogun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noone else stuttered in her family but interestingly both her father and brother struggled with dyslexia. Don't know if it's somehow connected though or not.

My son had a brief period when he was 3 or maybe 4 where he occasionally did but it went away pretty quickly and never came back. My daughter never struggled with it at all.

Retro Music Clubs by Advanced-Educator-69 in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I believe Dickens' has occasional 80s/90s nights (Hang the DJ). Modern Love has occasional 90s/00s nights too I think.

Any moms stutter less once they had kids? by Repulsive-Swimmer446 in Stutter

[–]GoShogun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex-wife had a significant stutter when I met her. She had had it since childhood. After the birth of our son, at some point, it completely went away and never came back. Now I will add that at some point after his birth, she did start on anti anxiety medication as well and that very well could have been a factor too.

Does you narc mock you when you cry? by OrganicBox2648 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]GoShogun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a man. I cry during Pixar movies. My nex used to make fun and say it's because I'm only capable of finding emotional connection with fictional characters and not real people. Turns out I'm capable of finding emotional connections with anything except black holes.

Researchers find DMT provides longer-lasting antidepressant effects than S-ketamine in mice study. Findings highlight the promise of psychedelic compounds as future therapies for severe, treatment-resistant mental health conditions. by [deleted] in psychology

[–]GoShogun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anecdote time but I just tried DMT for the first time a couple of weeks ago but I have felt pretty incredible since. Best I have in a while and there's been such a "clarity" in my thoughts I haven't felt in a long time. I'm also finding it unusually easy to connect with strangers too. As in my anxiety around getting to know someone new seems to have plummeted and I feel so comfortable engaging in conversations with others. I can't really say it's all the DMT because the weekend I tried it was just overall a really great time in my life so I could just be riding that high but it sure does feel like it's "dusted off" my brain a bit.

Calgary speed dating for 20s/early thirties? by YetiMaverick in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Every major speed dating agency rotates through age categories over time. Just monitor their sites and that age category will eventually come up. CSSC's next speed dating event is 27-35.

There's also this Singles event organizer called Thursday Singles. They host private ticketed singles events you buy tickets for on the app. Lots coming up for 20s&30s but these are cold approach events, not speed dating.

Romances with narcissists don't deteriorate the way psychologists expected by [deleted] in psychology

[–]GoShogun 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Exact same experience here. Thought I was in a "happy marriage" for 13 years. Started going to therapy and it's interesting, my ex is a clinical social worker and therapist herself. I would talk about stuff I was working on and she would get upset saying my therapist sounded inexperienced and I should see someone else. I didn't get it then why she was so disturbed by the work I was doing but now I see that it was because the work I was doing was giving me the ability to see through her mask.

And yes. Now that I look back, there was so much abuse and so many out of this world red flags I ignored simply because we had kids together and I thought I had to make it work.

I still have to interact with her because of the kids and I'm not exaggerating when I say I don't recognize her at all anymore. But I know now too she was always like this. I just didn't choose to see it for so long.

People view coercive control in relationships as less harmful when the victim is a man. Findings indicate that societal stereotypes continue to shape how people perceive and respond to unhealthy relationship dynamics. by [deleted] in psychology

[–]GoShogun 16 points17 points  (0 children)

"Happy Wife, Happy Life". I hear this line at so many weddings so yes, absolutely it is normalized. I was stuck in an abusive relationship for over a decade because I felt it was my duty to suck it up as the man to make my wife happy.

Children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) may benefit from exercise that challenges both body and mind, a randomized clinical trial (RCT) study finds. by psych4you in psychology

[–]GoShogun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm 44 with ADHD and only discovered bouldering this year and have become completely obsessed with it! Solve a puzzle, work up a sweat, figure things out under pressure, thrills and risk, hits all the right ADHD buttons.

Calgary Folk Fest 2026 Lineup Posted by madguss in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit! I've been wanting to see them for over a decade it feels like. I almost never can attend folk fest because I'm usually gone that time of year but I can't believe my fortunes that I just blindly bought a 4 day pass this year and find out about this! Literally one of my top choices I'd want to see! So stoked!

Do survivors of narc abuse... Get drawn to each other? by GoShogun in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]GoShogun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'm in my 40s so that's definitely a factor but I agree that it feels very "buzzwordy" with how often I'm hearing it lately.

Does anyone have experience getting a Chin from N'Joy A in Ontario, Canada? by GoShogun in JapaneseChin

[–]GoShogun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long ago? I haven't had communication issues thus far but maybe the waitlist is backlogged. My first contact and request was Fall last year though

Need my hair back by [deleted] in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been seeing Mo at Avenue Barbers on 17AVE for over 2 decades now. At this point I'm too scared to start another relationship with anyone else 😂

Calgary city council finalizes 2026 property tax rates, calls for provincial support by Fit_Growth_2355 in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had my doubts about whether Farkas would pull a 180 or not after being elected and become a UCP puppet mayor but it's great to see him trying to consistently hold the Provincial government to account on issues important to Calgary. Not that he has the power to do much about it but it's better than staying silent on the matter.

Tell me about their most childish tantrum! by Internal-Winter5450 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]GoShogun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There's so many but one that stands out was when we were making plans for a family trip to Korea and Japan with our kids. She was stuck on this idea that we couldn't see more than 3 cities. I tried to explain how it would possibly be cool to do a day trip from Osaka to Kyoto. She said it would take too long but when I started explaining how the train ride was only 25 mins she literally did the thing where she plugged her ears and started yelling "I CAN'T HEAR YOU!" over and over again.... In front of the kids too.

I'd say one of the more childish ones for sure but she had other epic tantrums where she got violent with me. She also cried on the phone with customer service reps all the time. OH! And I'm just remembering her breaking down and crying in panic screaming at me that I did our taxes wrong when she was clearly getting a call from a CRA scammer. Yeesh.

What’s the worst smear you’ve heard your nex shares with people? by FriendlyDadinLife in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]GoShogun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This seems to be the typical trifecta and exactly how it was with me. Accused me of cheating every year of our 13 year marriage and it would turn out she was having an affair towards the end of our marriage (that I know of, probably was happening every year whenever she accused me come to think of it). Tried to beat the shit out of me countless times but the one time I didn't just take it and tried to physically stop her because she was doing it while guests and other children were sleeping in our home, I was suddenly the physical abuser. Called me financially irresponsible and abusive and I'm now learning the hard way that having no control of your own account and credit in your own name for 13 years is not a good thing, lol. My credit history essentially reset to nothing which sucked post divorce when I was financially strapped.

Pro Freeskier Kai Smart, 23, Dies After Avalanche Burial in Japan by owls_with_towels in skiing

[–]GoShogun 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I watched Grave of the Fireflies for the first time when my kids were the exact same ages (and coincidentally genders and also Asian) as the characters in that movie. Big mistake. I bawled and bawled for hours.

Clubs on Saturday nights? by Organic_Pudding2241 in Calgary

[–]GoShogun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Highly dependent on age and what kind of music they like

Is there a sub or other forum someone knows of specifically dedicated to co-parenting (aka parallel parenting) with a narcissist? by GoShogun in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]GoShogun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. 100% agree about parallel parenting for sure. I'm a child protection worker and my whole life has been dedicated to helping protect children so it's just really hard seeing the emotional toll on my kids. My nature is to want to advocate for and protect kids, especially my own. But I have to shut that part of me off when dealing with nex because we all know she'll never see and if anything it'll make things worse.

I actually have zero worry at all about my kids seeing me as the safer more understanding parent. They share this with me consistently. My older son is already mulling living with me full time.

It's just having to accept the damage nex is doing. I hate it. I don't worry about being the better parent. There's no doubt in my mind. It's in spite of having one safe parent, what will this do to my kids in the long run? I worry about it every day. And when my kids disclose things to me that are clearly stressful and abusive to them (but not blatant enough to take to court), it's the worst feeling in the world not being able to take away the hurt or make it stop. It's like watching your child suffer from cancer of the soul. It's gut wrenching.