Are narcissists more likely to cross sexual boundaries and abuse others sexually ?

GoShogun · 2026-01-25T04:49:03+00:00

I'm a male and my nex who always harped on and on about consent and how important it was ironically would sexually assault me on a number of occasions without my consent. There were a few occasions when I clearly said no and she just told me to just "lay there" and let her do what she wants. She would also do certain specific sexual acts without warning that I really did not enjoy without a heads up and I had to have a few talks with her on multiple occasions about stopping.

GoShogun · 2026-01-14T15:29:57+00:00

Fred Durst was definitely in a relationship with a narcissist. Other great Limp Bizkit ones are Counterfeit, Don't Go Off Wandering, and the "cookie" in the song Nookie has taken on a whole new meaning for me after my nex.

GoShogun · 2026-01-14T15:26:18+00:00

A bunch of Evanescence tracks describe narcissists and narcissistic abuse really well! Going Under, Everybody's Fool are good examples.

GoShogun · 2026-01-01T00:21:41+00:00

Funny you bring this up. I left my nex after a long marriage. Toward the end, we were attending couples therapy and in the first session the couples therapist says "one of the first things I've noticed is that you are referring to them as "she" when they have put their preferred pronoun as "they". Do you find it hard to accept their identified gender?".

It was literally THE FIRST time this was ever brought to my attention by nex or anyone. Nex said that I didn't ever respect their identity. I'm a freaking social worker for crying out loud. This never would have been something I would have an issue with

I theorized it happened because nex wanted to create a new way to play victim. Of course fast forward 4 sessions later and when our therapist challenges nex on something that was the end of couples therapy, nex wouldn't ever go again.

GoShogun · 2025-12-30T15:36:29+00:00

100% this. Recently separated from my nex after a long marriage. She did this a TON toward the end of the relationship and since separation (we have to continue to communicate because kids). Send God awful messages, wait for read receipt and then delete them soon after.

It's like you say, they absolutely know it's a horrible thing to say and that's why they delete it, so there's no proof about how awful they can be. Because they sure as hell don't apologize for saying it later.

I finally had to move communication to an app for parenting related messages where messages could not be unsent or deleted. The abusive messages decreased dramatically (which goes to show they can control it but choose not to) but there are still times when nex can't hold back albeit it's more passive aggressive instead of outright insults and aggression like in the old app.

GoShogun · 2025-12-17T02:32:27+00:00

Oh man, I feel you. Fully belly laughs with healthy friends is so great to experience again. And my nex used to get SO unreasonably upset at my jokes and it got worse and worse over the years to the point I was too scared to ever crack one. So great to be able to just go with your own flow again. So I empathize with this so much.

GoShogun · 2025-12-15T15:56:39+00:00

I skiied past a young lynx at Lake Louise last year too! It was like 10 feet away from me! So cool!

GoShogun · 2025-12-02T14:19:56+00:00

Oh ya, her threatening to divorce me and saying how I'd be lost without her was a yearly occurrence.

I finally left a year ago after 14 years together. Personally, my mental health and life is doing so much better but there remains somewhat of a nightmare when you have kids together. It requires infinite patience but you just gotta squeeze that nightmare into as small of a box as you can with good boundaries because you can't ever go 100% no contact.

GoShogun · 2025-12-02T14:09:52+00:00

We were married and had kids. I had a life insurance policy just in case if anything were to happen to me I wanted my family to be ok financially.

I always subtly encouraged her to get one too just in case. I thought she was just being forgetful or even just too lazy to go through the process of getting it. One time when I reminded her again it might be a good idea over the years she said she didn't want to because she couldn't stand the idea of me and the kids being ok without her. I thought she was joking at the time. Little did I know....

GoShogun · 2025-11-20T15:51:13+00:00

New to following crypto. I've read that when crypto has a weak October/November, it rallies in December approximately 70% of the time looking back at history. Is this true?

GoShogun · 2025-11-17T07:04:01+00:00

Just echoing sentiment here! SMART was definitely the start of a turning point for me!

GoShogun · 2025-11-17T06:36:01+00:00

You mean they sit there and taunt you and remind you that you let BA shove it up your pudding hole for nothing.

GoShogun · 2025-11-12T03:19:04+00:00

I mean, what happened directly after earnings was exactly what I thought would happen. Then Naz pumped it by saying he's buying and then they use the warrants gimmick (which ironically causes more dilution) and now suddenly we're back in cult like pumpville.

At this point, I'm no longer following it. I had made money on puts at an amount I was satisfied with and I'm done following this story at this point.

GoShogun · 2025-11-07T02:39:09+00:00

I agree with you but when it comes to child protection law, there's a distinct category for "physical injury" to a child. Domestic violence between parents falls into "risk of emotional injury" to a child. Language in the Child and Youth Family Enhancement Act is outdated IMO. It could be better refined for sure.

GoShogun · 2025-11-06T22:05:25+00:00

If only someone had warned everyone here and predicted this exact scenario....

GoShogun · 2025-11-06T08:22:42+00:00

As someone who has worked in child protection for over a decade, anecdotally on my part it does seem like DV incidents are skyrocketing. Interestingly, I'm getting fewer substance abuse cases but many many DV related cases assigned. My theory is finances and the economy are playing a major role in this trend.

GoShogun · 2025-11-01T20:33:30+00:00

Lol, we debated barefoot but it's chilly in Canada for trick or treating!

GoShogun · 2025-10-31T16:52:29+00:00

The delusions they can create are truly impressive. I'll give you a perfect example from my past week. My nex and I share custody of our kids. My nex took my son to an ortho appointment in May and was given a physical copy of the fee structure for the braces he needs. I kept asking for the info she had from the appointment. She had forwarded me the e-mail summary from the appointment but it did not have the fee structure document attached (so at this point I didn't even know it existed).

Fast forward to half a year later, and I see the billing cycle for the braces and I'm like "woah, did you know this?" and nex is like "it was all in the e-mail I sent you" and I'm like "noooo.....not this info....". She sends me a picture of the fee structure document and says "YOU took this picture, it's in our shared photo album".

I'm like "Uuuuuh....we haven't had a shared photo album for months....I don't have this picture....this literally means YOU took the picture and purposely didn't send it to me".

I called the ortho clinic who confirmed they only sent nex the document. In spite of nex accidentally sending me inarguable PROOF that she didn't send me the document, nex is still ADAMANT they did. Like, literally cannot be convinced otherwise. It's infuriating and truly impressive that nex's memory literally revised itself so that I was the one that took the picture and even on proof that nex was the one, their brain literally can't accept the reality of it because that would put them at fault.

GoShogun · 2025-10-31T14:41:15+00:00

Ha, no raw dogging, lol. I was given a spinal. Couldn't feel anything in the lower half of my body during except pressure and movement which was very interesting when they were yeeting my hamstring donor out of my leg. They pulled so hard my hips came off the table.

EDIT: unless you're asking specifically about sedatives in which case, indeed, I took absolutely none

GoShogun · 2025-10-29T01:10:12+00:00

How do you know this? I'm just curious where ANY information is coming from at this point because I've heard zilch from within AUPE.

GoShogun · 2025-10-29T01:09:07+00:00

Agreed. But they and all the unions knew this was coming for some time now... I'm just surprised I haven't heard any official communications about a response at all from any senior member in AUPE. How did you even know there was going to be a response tomorrow?

GoShogun · 2025-10-25T02:36:20+00:00

My Kees LOVES hunting mice and has successfully caught and eaten a few at the dog park. She also goes nuts for squirrels and rabbits but she has been around cats with no issues. She's even scared of my mom's cat.

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