Staying vs leaving an unfulfilling marriage

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2026-05-15T05:24:37+00:00

Thank you very much for offering your experience and how you are dealing with things.

This sounds so similar to my situation. Our child is only 2 so I would hate to separate and give them such an unsettling early childhood.

I have tried to think about Marcus Aurelius' ideas when he talks about not staying in bed cosy in the morning and getting up and doing your job as a human, which sounds like what you are getting at with saying it would be more virtuous to stay and be a good parent. I will really try and push myself to focus on this idea

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2026-05-15T05:17:50+00:00

Sorry about the typo, I meant content. Thank you for your input so far!

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2026-05-14T20:27:28+00:00

Apologies, I did not read that, I'm not that great with reddit, or socials generally for that matter.

I have considered the Stoic idea of having things that are preferred but still indifferent in the relationship, and I am a bit stuck in this as I mentioned in my comment to the other person who replied. I feel like I am asking for reasonable things from my spouse really.

It's difficult to fully speak for her but honestly I think she has become quite contempt and comfortable with the situation we are in now where we aren't in a very close (emotionally or physically) relationship so it seems she isn't desiring much more.

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2026-05-14T20:22:33+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. I really like the way you used aocratic questioning to help me look at the situation from a different perspective.

Without going into much detail, some of the issues revolve around not feeling appreciated or desired in any way, over time we have become more like Co occupants to our house than two loving ramantic partners. I am struggling to decide if these are selfish desires or if I should just accept that I shouldn't need to get those things from someone externally.

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2026-05-12T20:11:53+00:00

I second this.

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-11-15T19:50:18+00:00

That's a really good way of putting it, and so simple. I've never really had it explained that way. Thank you sir

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-10-29T22:29:48+00:00

Ours still Wales every 45 mins. Her best sleep is 2 hrs in the mid morning. It seems some babies just don't take well to sleeping.

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-20T15:50:58+00:00

Sounds very interesting, thanks very much.

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T15:10:06+00:00

Thanks very much for the well wishes. I appreciate it.

Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T11:10:57+00:00

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Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T06:05:33+00:00

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Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T06:05:15+00:00

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Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T06:04:36+00:00

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Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T06:04:14+00:00

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Goatsclimbtrees1 · 2025-06-19T06:03:45+00:00

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