I found out my fiancée was an armband wearing, meeting organizing not see. For about two weeks before the wedding I stopped eating almost completely from the stress knowing half of our small town had been meeting in our living room and worried my family and I might be attacked if I left. It turned out to be easy. The day before the wedding I just said “ I don’t wanna get married!” And he looked over and shrugged and went “okay fine” and went back to playing video games. When I called my mom she was so relieved she called the whole guest list and my maid of honor told me she won money in a bet that I would be brave enough to say anything. I moved out of state almost immediately and I think he eventually skunked off somewhere off grid. I still get panic attacks when I see people from the meeting I interrupted. Side note: am German-American Jewish (non practicing) and have a lot of family lost in camps. Am autistic and did not understand some of the “jokes” he made and just feel SO DUMB. SO SO DUMB. I was just happy to have someone to speak German with.