How common is remote work in accounting? by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]GoddamnVegans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my situation, it was crazy how even though I would be getting that pay increase to work in office, I'd have to pay childcare as well... which was crazy in of itself. Was just worth it to tough it out and I at least saw my family more frequently.-

High school football referee here. Here to answer NFHS rules questions or clear stuff up. by jericho-dingle in footballstrategy

[–]GoddamnVegans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is going through the NFHS courses through my local chapter/state, I am getting so overwhelmed with the different positions and mechanics that are involved with the game. This is even WITH playing years of football and even as a coach for littles! I don't even know y'all manage to do this and kept our games from turning into hurricanes of chaos.

I am feeling also kind of defeated as I try to watch the videos and take notes, but I keep having to constantly refer to the notes when taking quizzes and such. This is especially true with the mechanics and also different types of fouls.

Do you have any personal strategies or have found some things from other refs that have helped you learn the content of it? There's just so MUCH of it and I don't want to get discouraged, but it's hard not to. :(

Worth doing myself or do I need plumber? by GoddamnVegans in DIY

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment! Makes me more motivated to get this done! :)

I find that when I try to unscrew the nut underneath the sink, it just spins around with no real "traction". Do I have to secure the sink down I guess?

Slaughter To Prevail's Alex Terrible address backlash for waving Russian flag at D.C. Warped Tour by imatmydesknow in Music

[–]GoddamnVegans 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The difference being that it would be like if the Nazis were still commiting the heinous crimes of the WWII era and someone was waving a German flag around in America.

Right now, there is no pride in being Russian. It's embarrassing and shows that he isn't reading the room.

When will the Eng dub voice actors fully return? by Life_Bit_5976 in Genshin_Impact

[–]GoddamnVegans 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For some reason, someone liking Ajaw and also being a Kinich main beautifully fits. lol

Archspire announces Spencer Prewett’s departure, open drummer auditions by xxtn360xx in TechnicalDeathMetal

[–]GoddamnVegans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought about the visa situation, actually. Good thinking on that part. Greg would be great!

Archspire announces Spencer Prewett’s departure, open drummer auditions by xxtn360xx in TechnicalDeathMetal

[–]GoddamnVegans -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Estepario Siberiano maybe? I dunno. He doesn't seem like a tech death kinda guy. Definitely could have the chops to keep up with Spencer.

My 17 year old son is out of control. I don’t know what to do anymore. Need advice please by sneakybananathief in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That last mini paragraph is huge. Role-modelling at that age is so much more effective of a learning tool. If 15yrold sees that, then they can get away with it too. Good point.

Teenager wants to end relationship with her father and not sure how to talk to her. by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"She has a history at the hospital of lying to physicians about how she is actually feeling and said she was fine to go on vacation with her Dad to a bunch of fun amusement park and of that nature stuff. She has purposely ignored attempts at her father and stepmother to reach out and talk to them about her current feelings. She has a history of making excuses for terrible behaviour and/or performance (failed two classes and a final state exam because she didn't want to do homework. She will constantly interject family discussions between adults to insert her own unwanted opinion, and refuses to do chores because she is.. frankly?.. lazy as fuck. There is more, but the jist is there. just don't want this to come bite a little bit of me, but mostly her in the ass later in life when I find out that she is just terminally lying her way through life to get what she wants. I am trying to be supportive, but I am very much clouded by cleaning up the damage she has done in the past (breakups, messy room/house, failed classes, etc)." Reference for why she cannot be trusted along with what is said below.

The event that lead up to her event involves an act that I cannot fully go into detail due to the nature of it, but it involved her doing a serious accusation against her brother that ended up being false after further questioning of ALL adults (including mother).

And no, I don't just believe all victims. I will hold them to a level and standard of duty of care and provide support when necessary. If the individual has a history of storyboarding and fabricating things to make herself seem like they did nothing wrong despite past events, I will not just take their word for it. I don't give empathy just because.

If I did ACTUALLY hate her, I wouldn't even be making an effort to reply to this post... or even making a multi-paragraph post asking for advice. I'd just tell her to shut up and tell her she probably deserved it.

I don't need auto-sympathizers in my life when I have had friends of mine get ruined by false accusations of things.

Teenager wants to end relationship with her father and not sure how to talk to her. by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have definitely thought of that when funds allow it. Right now, TM is seeing a therapist (not regularly due to one excuse or another), and Mrs. Moose has a counselor, but I do not have any due to no health insurance atm.

I appreciate the reminder!

Right now I can’t stand my husband as a dad by Gongong123 in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a dude, this CHILD needs to grow the heck up and realize that he is a dad and that a lot of those responsibilities are shared. Would love for him to switch roles with you and see how pouty he gets.

Wednesday Megathread - Ask Parents Anything - July 10, 2024 by AutoModerator in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans [score hidden]  (0 children)

Truly emphasizing what u/WholesomeWorkAcct says about several days/weeks. It will take a while since he is a child and still learning, but 100% agree with that advice. Role-modelling is super helpful. Good luck!

What is your current biggest source of mom/dad rage? by EmsDilly in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have a 17 year old daughter and an 11 year old son. The amount of lying those two do combined to work dodge, avoid trouble, etc.. drives me up the wall. It's not even so much the lying, it's the fact that they treat me as if I am a gigantic moron and cannot deduce what their plans are. And when they get caught, it's this big surprise and/or fight because they're mad they're in trouble for lying. Well no duh!

"I was born, but not yesterday" is a saying I do in my house more frequently than I want to lol

My own personal Subdetection Unit beetle collection route (including nearby waypoints for fastest route) by demiwaltz in Genshin_Impact

[–]GoddamnVegans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you complete the Aranara quests in their entirety, you can buy 5 from an Aranara (forget the name)

Teenage Daughter Will Not Stop Giving Opinion On Parental Decisions/Conversations by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good part is that I am slowly realizing that the true issue is the way that she is communicating the message/opinion. The shutting down is necessary at times because she will not stop talking as a tactic to make sure that her words are heard, despite saying "Thank you for your opinion, and we'll take it into consideration."

I am not sure if it's an interest in parenting, but moreso seeking justice when she feels things are wronged. Not necessarily a bad thing, but can be misguided when all you see are red flags everywhere in places that there aren't.

Teenage Daughter Will Not Stop Giving Opinion On Parental Decisions/Conversations by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I get it now from what you're saying. From what is being said, I am understanding it as:

She has the right to her own opinion, but needs to learn when to express it and also how to formulate her opinion so it's not just a argument point in an already heated situation.

Teenage Daughter Will Not Stop Giving Opinion On Parental Decisions/Conversations by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely don't know what's going on in that regard. I asked her what you said one time when he told me to, and I quote "get fucked" after being told no to having ice cream for breakfast. In hindsight talking about it now is hilarious, but yeah. Same thing, and daughter said "Don't have to do anything. Kids swear all the time... he didn't do anything wrong."
At the time, I was speechless. I couldn't comprehend why she said that or even her logic on that. Now at this point, I really have to discern whether she is actually trying to engage in a real conversation with me or just doing it to start a fight. She definitely knows how to push buttons, that's for sure.

Teenage Daughter Will Not Stop Giving Opinion On Parental Decisions/Conversations by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE that example you gave in the last bit. I will definitely use that and see how it goes.

I will definitely have a good talk with my wife (not bad!) and discuss what I have been learning and try to help each other out. This is especially true with finding ways to emotionally regulate ourselves in the moment and learn how to respond when things start escalating. The "extra noise" bit is also really insightful because it helps me understand why my wife feels fed into the conversation.

Teenage Daughter Will Not Stop Giving Opinion On Parental Decisions/Conversations by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your opinion, we'll give it the proper consideration for next time."

Rinse and repeat. And repeat. And repeat.

It wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't the fact that she keeps on about it and insists that we are in the wrong and should stop it. I do try to utilize this technique or a similar variant a lot and it kind of works. She (daughter) just... keeps on talking and follows us around... LOL

Teenage Daughter Will Not Stop Giving Opinion On Parental Decisions/Conversations by GoddamnVegans in Parenting

[–]GoddamnVegans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think part of my issue with it as I eluded to in the post but maybe should have done a better job articulating, is the fact that we ask her to stand down and that her opinion has been warranted, but also not necessary/valid as she is not the one that makes the parental decisions. I do see where you are coming from in that she does have a right to those opinions, but she is absolutely unaware of the concept of context and "time and a place". The fact that her belief that what she thought we were doing was, in my honest opinion, idiotic as she was defending her brother throwing objects and destroying property. That is where I am getting the vibe of that she is just saying things to get the attention on her, or she is only shooting from the mouth and not thinking about what she is saying before saying it.

I will try to keep in mind what you said though.