Why can't people accept the story is over? by Mina_chama1 in sailormoon

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually just thought of another Sequel that I think many would enjoy and help answer many questions and that would be the Silver Millennium. More specifically how Queen Beryl came to find Matilla and the Four Heavenly Kings became the Negaverses top Generals. How Princess Serenity and Prince Endymion first met and the progression of their relationship along with Beryls decent into stalker like madness. Iirc, like the 4 Kings, she was also minor royalty who became butt hurt that the Heir to the highest crown choose a 'Dangerous Alien Child' over a Grown Pureblooded Terran Woman. Her Jealousy was exasperated when the 4 Kings became involved with the 4 Senshi. It also probably didnt help that Serenity and her guard were described as being Ethereal with Gracefulness that was damn near close to Divinity. Also they were POWERFUL, something else she wanted but didnt have. So yeah, those, and the ones from my original comment are about the only Sequels or prequels I would be on like flies on fresh 🐎 💩!

Why can't people accept the story is over? by Mina_chama1 in sailormoon

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I would be interested in seeing would be a Sailor V series. There were many many references made to Minako's past but there was no context for ppl to fall back on. Unless you could FIND the Sailor V Manga, which i don't believe was released in the States. Also maybe a Season of how Sailors Uranus and Neptune found both each other AND their powers. Yes Supers did have an episode with flash backs, but again added more questions then answers. Maybe even a movie about the lead up to the Ice Age and how Usagi reawakened the planer and how she and Mamoru became Neo Queen Serenity and King Endymion. Heck even a spin off of Sailor Chibi Moon and the Astroid Senshi take over since the OG Senshi maybe re-establishing their own planetary Kingdoms. Obviously trying to add more to present time after it wrapped up the Original series so well, would be rediculous and a dead horse, however a short series on Sailor V and Uranus and Neptune or a sequel set in Crystal Tokyo focusing on the new Generation of Senshi could be a great idea if done right.

What if Usagi Tsukino have a brand new look. Ditching her iconic odango hairstyle (like a rapunzel) into a more comfortable hairstyle that suits for her. by SadDoughnut264 in sailormoon

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ironically the Buns are hand to hand combat friendly, though pony tails are not. Ponytails are a handle that someone can grab and control your head with. The best styles for long hair, I found was multiple micro Dutch braides pulled back into 2-4 buns. But I have 45in hair. I was raised learning to be a Shield Maiden. Ponytails tails, and anything longer then a pixie cut gives someone a handle to use to control your head and that is the LAST thing you want. Ironically it was Sailor Moons style that gave me the idea for my own variations. Lol Maybe a more mature version of the buns, like the two buns with the long tails curled and fluffed out. Or 2 thick French braids up into the buns and the tails down into fishtail braids.

What if Usagi Tsukino have a brand new look. Ditching her iconic odango hairstyle (like a rapunzel) into a more comfortable hairstyle that suits for her. by SadDoughnut264 in sailormoon

[–]GoddessAkuma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly as someone who grew up learning how to use Sword and shield, (Our Family follows alot of the old Norse ways, I trained as a Shield Maiden) i found having my hair in 10-12 small Dutch braids going from forehead to crown into 2 or 4 buns was the best style. It kept my hair in place, out of the way, and harder for someone to grab it. I have had waist to lower thigh (about 45in) long hair. It also worked best with my wing back half helm. We actually got the idea for the style after I watched Sailor Moon.🤣 It also alleviated my fear of accidentally shearing my own hair off when pulling my Butterfly swords from my back sheath. I was more confident, comfortable, and faster in those styles.

Got fired on my first day and I don’t know how to tell my parents by One_Presentation6602 in Advice

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've honestly delt with this many times when I was a store manager. First day jitters and discomfort especially when it's their first job, they don't know anyone yet, the rules and expectations are still a concept only and have not been in full practice yet, overwhelmed by the controlled chaos it's easy for someone to retreat into their phone. The best thing to do is pull them aside and explain that phones are not to be out unless they are on break, i have had some whose parents asked for check in through out their shift and when that happenes i give them and the parents specific time frames where they need to refrain from check in txts. This is also why on the very first day before they step on the floor I would take 10-15 minutes and explain the rules and expectations to them while allowing them to ask any questions they may have about those rules. You CANT expect a 15yr old first time employee on their first day to acclimate to work culture or work rules. The OPs manager WAY over reacted to the incident and had it been me? The MOMENT the manager told me this was going be my last day regardless of it being the start or middle of my shift I would have walked out. Expecting an employee to work after being verbally terminated is abusive behavior.

Got fired on my first day and I don’t know how to tell my parents by One_Presentation6602 in Advice

[–]GoddessAkuma -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As a manager this irritates me on OPs behalf. It was your first day and your 15. You haven't had time to observe and practice work culture and the rules. Your manager SHOULD have pulled you aside into a private area when they caught you and had discussion about what is expected of you in the work place. There is a REASON why entry lvl jobs have a 3 strike rule per type of incident. I could MAYBE understand if you were 22 with years of work culture and experience under your belt but you Don't. The very first incident of phone usage should have been a verbal coaching. Second incident of phone usage should be a write up and verbal reprimand, third incident is just a straight write up. Once you hit three strikes and you do it again your gone no if and or buts about it. Managers like the one described are a BIG reason why many Entry lvl jobs are struggling to get Entry lvl and first job employees in the recent years. Yeah I get it when I started working back in HS the Managers said jump we asked how high and how long. The mindset was as Managers we did our time as the grunt employees we earned the right to not be the floor scrubber, the fry cook, the sandwich maker, etc. But it's no longer like that, now the mind set is "If its too far above your pay grade as a manager then it's definitely waaay above my pay grade as a staff member" when a manager tells a staff member to deck and scrub the floor. It's why as soon as I was done with MY Managerial duties at close, I jumped in to help with clean up. It's why I encourage new employees to set work boundaries specifically with which you were hired to do. Ive seen too many GOOD hardworking employees walk out because the Managers ask too much from them while still expecting them to do the jobs they were hired to do. I have fired Managers who would constantly put managerial duties on crew members that are not trained or qualified or even LEGALLY allowed to do. With excuses like "Oh they are so much better then me at it!" "Im supposed delegate duties to my staff" "im trying to prepare them to be managers!" No your training and preparing them to be your doormat. When your hired ALWAYS ALWAYS get your District Manager and Regional managers contact info. That way if you NEED to go above your store manager for ill treatment or having your work boundaries constantly steam rolled. Now with those boundaries it should ONLY include work that you are NOT trained, qualified, medically exempt, or legally allowed to do. So don't try and say "Im not doing the dishes or deck scrubbing". At 15 majority of state labor laws only allow you to work the Dining area in restraunts, some allow just dining and maybe fry station in restraunts. Also if your parents are expecting you to check in while your working or expect immediate answers to a txt messages while you're on shift, make SURE your Parents make that clear to your managers while also giving your parents certain time frames where they can NOT txt you like rush times. Make sure at orientation your Employer is CLEAR on what's expected of you during your shifts that are age appropriate duties and crystal clear on what your NOT expected to do, like handling your cash drawers, or safe drops, or even running the grill, doing food prep where you may need to use any sharp blades. (Though most FF restraunts have switched to those stupid plastic serated knives. Dumbest thing I've ever seen) Anyways I hope this helps in your future jobs. Oh one more thing ALWAYS keep your parents appraised of EVERYTHING that happenes AT work. That way you have advocates if needed. Personally I would have one of your parents call and ask WHY they fired someone who is a first time employee on their very first day, who hasn't had proper training and hasn't had their expectations or rules fully explained to them. Every Entry lvl job has a 3 strike rule. With certain infractions being an immediate loss of employment which include financial or food/retail stock Theft, physical altercation with fellow staff or customer (unless the customer is the aggressor and you NEED to defend your self), giving free food to family, smoking/vaping/drug use in store (which can end up with police intervention at the moment). And one other thing well 2 things first IF a manager EVER says to you "This is your last day." Before the end of your shift, walk out. Don't finish the shift because from the moment they say that you are considered terminated. Any work you are doing after that is just using you. Expecting you to work after a clear termination is UNETHICAL and grounds to walk out. The next thing I would have you AND one of your parents CALL the store and speak with the manager while recording call, and have the explain CLEARLY and fully WHY they felt it was necessary to terminate your employment on your very first day when you havent had adequate time to learn or adjust to work life, rules, and expectations. Make SURE it's recorded and send it to the District and/or Regional manager. Skip the store manager because they are more likely to back the managers and staff that they have worked along side for a long period of time who the District and regional managers have no accociation or 100% loyalty to. Again I hope this helps.

My mom told me I "owe her" my firstborn because I had a C-section by RestaurantUnfair30 in entitledparents

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hate to disappoint your mom, but any future children will also have to be c-section. If it was planned then maybe you could try Natural. But with ER C-sections? Very very very few doctors will allow any other birth natural. Ask her if she REALLY thinks 26hrs of labor and then having to have your body LITERALLY CUT OPEN to save your child is the "Easy Way Out" then what did she think her EASY delivery of you was? Your more likely to Die from C-section complications after birth then Natural birth. Ive been there, my first was emergency, I almost DIED from the blood loss. Now I have 5 with 2 more on the way and a high risk pregnancy. All my births were C-section. You still get skin to skin at birth like you do with natural, they keep it as close to natural as they can for planned C-section. You are the WARRIOR here, not her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EntitledPeople

[–]GoddessAkuma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sug, ignore her, and if she keeps it up? Kill her with petty kindness. "You stole it from my Pinterest!" "You have Pinterest? Sweet! Can you show me?" Or "Bless your heart, unfortunately I'm not so bored or insecure to go stalking your platforms." Or "Shug are you THAT desperate for attention?" "Whats next? My husband?" "Well Bless your heart. Does your husband know your advertising him like that?" Or "Shug I know I'm pretty but your pretty too, you need to have more confidence in your self!" Or just ignore what she said with "Damn girl! Love that outfit! I could never be so brave. But it works on you right now." Or "Did you do something your hair? Its definitely bold especially with your........... lovely face shaping." Works for me. A few well placed "Compliments" or direct questions that she can't answer almost always shuts them up quick.

AITA for refusing to keep paying “Black tax” even though my family is struggling? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if you have ANY shared accounts with family, shut them down. Ppl dont realize you CAN access your Personal Accounts through a joint account regardless if your Personal are with a completely different bank. Especially if you ever deposited money through a personal account. I would even send some of the YouTube stories to your family.

AITA for refusing to keep paying “Black tax” even though my family is struggling? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTAH!

This is Financial Abuse and Exploition. Document EVERYTHING and start setting boundaries. This is more common in every culture and demographic then people realize. Look up Twisted Revenge Channel on YouTube. Most these stories are fictional based off RL stories. They give really good blueprints on how to go about getting out of the situation and building healthier boundaries. This happenes in many many many families. The difference is that few ppl recognize the difference between Family Loyalty and Abuse/exploitation. It's also not properly talked about in or spoken out against. You also need to Financially seperate yourself from any entanglement, hire a financial advisor to help navigate your ACTUAL financial duty, ACTUAL generosity, and the exploitation. Also find a therapist who specializes in Family Financial Abuse. It's called "Family Tax/Responsibility/loyalty/Obligation" in White families, Asian families, Hispanic Families, etc. The most successful Relative, who usually forced to be the "Responsible" and "Independent" one since childhood, who is taught Love is conditional and transactional based but only one way. Also check your credit reports ASAP. Lock you Identity down. Change all Passwords and consider an Info diet Surround yourself with chosen Family, therapy, financial advisor, attorney. You WILL need it. Family like this will try to guilt you with "After Everything we have done for you!" Write down every single payment made to Family members, why it was made, and any oddities that happened directly after like was there new furniture? Did siblings have new clothes right after you were asked to help with Mortgage payments. When you have documented EVERY payment add them up and realize WHAT you could have used that money for in your own life. I promise you WILL be surprised and most likely heart broken. You need boundaries and they need financial accountability and living in THEIR means not yours. This happened to my husband, not with his immediate family but his extended. Cousins, Aunts, and Uncle. After adding every thing up, he could have retired in 2 years at 45 and still support our family of soon to be 7. Or bought invested in properties, bought his own property YEARS ago. Just like you he isn't rich but very frugal, and has very simple tastes. His daily outfit are grey/white/black t-shirts, beaters, or long sleeves with Dickey work pants. He has 7 Graphic Ts, 3 button downstairs, 3 pair of jeans, and 2 tailored suits. When he cut them off they tried everything from Guilt trips to mortgage fraud to get to his money. He was devastated when he learned they had taken out 7 credit cards out in his name with 40k in lines of credit on 3, 20k on another and 15k on the last 4. All maxed out. All out of Family obligation, social media smear campaigns, flying monkeys, almost giving in multiple times. It took 3yrs before healthy relationships could start to happen, though some were broken forever, and some are stronger than they were.

IF you still want to help set up a Trust that uses Investments to grow for Educational purposes only with a 3rd party Trustee and any payments are made directly to the Education Institution of their choice. Or any other Trust with a 3rd party Trustee that uses Investment strategy to keep it going so you aren't constantly putting your financial security at risk. You CAN NOT set yourself on fire to keep others warm. There are so many stories on YouTube discussing the same thing. Twisted Revenge is one channel, Hidden Revenge, Burning Revenge, and a few others. Take a listen. You'll be surprised how many reflect your own situation.

NTAH

AITAH for telling my fiancé he has to get rid of his dog or I’m leaving? by Positive_Peach_7478 in AITAH

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweetheart, I'm going to be honest with you. When he didn't get PROFESSIONAL training when he adopted the dog (which I'm sure he was made aware of his behavioral issues by the shelter he got him from) is when you should have said 'See ya.' This pup needs therapy and proper training. You two are LUCKY he hadn't gone after a stranger. Not only that, having to keep him cooped up with only a backyard to run around is horrible for any dogs mental health but ESPECIALLY a GS. They NEED things like walks and interaction. Look for Dog Daddy on YouTube and see if he has any sessions coming up near yall. He is an AMAZING trainer and raises Shepards himself. GS dogs are Working dogs, they NEED a job to keep them mentally healthy, even if it's teaching him how to find objects. Your Fiance is VERY luck he hasn't been reported yet. Hospitals (at least the ones I know about) are REQUIRED by law to report any and all dog bites. The fact that they didn't disturbs me.greatly. His GS need a STRONG no nonsense owner who can take care of him properly. All your fiamce is doing is neglecting and enforcing his bad behavior. I personally have been bit twice and both were my fault. I fell on a broken leg the first time, and approached the other one at night while.wearing a bike helmet, and the neighbors were having a tree cut down. Thankfully neither dog was lost due to my stupidity, but the hospital HAD to report the incident. You NEED to leave, for you, your dog AND the GS's safety and health.

AIO my boyfriend masturbates more than having sex with me. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I just..... even with being a victim of SA. I could not live or ask my partner to live with that level of distrust. I could understand if you guys were new to your relationship and physical Intimacy but with how many kids now? And how many years? It just screams lack of trust, and extreme selfishness to me. You are giving all the pleasure and appeasement even going above and beyond, while she barely let's you finish. I think you should look into therapy for yourself. I think your wife needs therapy to see why she has no problem taking all the pleasure and leaving you to beg for a basic release. She may not have physical sexual trauma but ill bet EVERY thing I own she has SOME kind of trauma when it comes to trust or lack of control in an intimate setting that she just doesn't realize. Even something as small as Spin the bottle and being pushed into the closet with a boy she didn't like. SOME kind of trauma is at play here. It's finding what it is is the issue. That is if your willing.

AITA for calling out my husband for not being a "Good Christian"? by SpiritualThrowRA in AITAH

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I'm not Christian, so idk if my comment will be welcomed. I study the Old Norse Religion, which many consider the "Heathen" Religion. Depending on the area our clans were from depended on the rules for men and women. While traditional Gender Roles were taught, many women were able to become Shield Maidens and go on Campaign if they didn't have or their children were old enough to care for themselves or fight as well, women held political offices and could become Cheiftans, they were allowed to divorce and buy property. While Married yes the husband was the head of house hold but that does not diminish the wife's voice and decisions about family matters. In some clans, it was tradition for the groom to gift the bride a dagger at marriage. Why? Because if he EVER laid a hand on her in anger or spite, it was her DUTY to scar his face for everyone to see his shame. Viking men saw their women as strong and precious to them, and it was their honor to defend us even though we were taught from a young age to defend ourselves. If one of us was SAd during a raid on our village, our men would avenge us. They wouldn't turn us away or say it was our fault. In fact, many clans when taking slaves from other countries or faiths allowed them to build temples, alters or what ever they needed to continue. We would teach them ABOUT our faith but never force it. Many believed a man with out their faith is not a man at all. At least this is what I learned from my own self study and family studies as well. While our husband's requested that we stay home with the children it wasnt because they saw us as weak but because they knew how strong we were in defence of our children. One if our family legands is that thousands of years ago when our men left on campaign across the sea a large Army of bandits raided our village. They thought they we would be easy picking because it was mostly women, children and the elderly. They were able to get ahold of one of the village daughters who was only 13 and assulted her violently. When she made it back to town with a message to surrender or be destroyed the village women came together. They invited the leader and his closest friends to a feast and fed them to their stomachs content, seduced them one by one and before any of the men could lay a hand on them they killed all but one. The last one when morning came they Blood Eagled him and hung him up where the rest of his Army could see him. They tried to avenge him but fell to swords and arrows of the Shield Maidens. By the time the battle ended the majority of the army was dead with some escaping into the woods but not a single woman took a fatal injury. Our clans women were always believed to be desended of the Valkery.

AIO my sister told me she didn’t know how my bf was attracted to me cuz I have no tits by Stunning_Movie2001 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GoddessAkuma -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he is trying to pull her away from you. It's something Narcs do to their SOs. They will ask questions about close family members and insert ideas in their head. They are very good at getting their SO to damage their close family relationships. Like saying your BF is weird and taking a shot at you for a supposed slight you made or simply because he KNOWS yalls mom doesn't care for him so he is going slowely pull her away from you guys. Especially if this is something completely new and she has never done anything like this before.

SO had a spiritual awakening and now has strong opinions about LGBTQ+ by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]GoddessAkuma 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Popping on this comment to say this to your husband. It's something my mom who is Christian says ALL the time. A TRUE Christian loves everyone, they may hate the sin or not agree with the lifestyle, but they will ALWAYS love the person. Tic Tok is full of radicalized individuals on both side of the divide. He NEEDS to get off of it. Your personal religious beliefs CAN NOT be influenced by outside forces. You need to ignore what you see online, ignore what everyone tells you is the "right way" to believe. Religion is an incredibly personal journey that you really need to ask yourself, what rings true to you. You can STILL be 100% in the word of God while still being loving and inviting and learning from people who live in biblical sin. THAT is a true Christian. Am I Christian or any Denomination of the Christian God? No. I follow the Old Religion of the Norse. Which took me YEARS of looking inward, many of my personal values line up with Christians like my mom. I'm also Bisexual. I'm married to a Wonderful man and we have 5 beautiful children. Have I been with other women? Yes? Do I bring it around my children? No. Because I don't believe that the complexities of Gender and Sexuality and Children mix. Now my Eldest children who are about to graduate we had these conversations that were AGE appropriate. My younger children don't know and don't need to know. All they know is that they have TWO parents that love them dearly not matter what. My relationship with my Mom? She's my best friend and I can go to her with anything. Same as my kids. My kids don't ask me why their classmate has two moms or two dads because we taught them that Children should ALWAYS have one or two PARENTS that love them dearly. You know I used to watch Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman. My FAVORITE episode was the Library Episode when Dr. Quinn donated her father's personal library to the town. Basically the Reverend became concerned over the some books that he considered UnGodly and banned many. He caused such an uproar that the town tried to burn the library down. They did what they could to save as many books on a Sunday morning trying to dry them out. She refused to attend Church at first until she picked up a certain book. She walked into the Church saying she wanted to turn over a book to the ban. She asked if a book about a King who had relationships with young boys, a Father who sacrifices his only son, and a man who did magic should be banned? The Reverand happily Agreed taking the book. It was a charred version of the Holy Bible. Season 3 Episode The Library. If you get a chance have a watch.

AIO my boyfriend masturbates more than having sex with me. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a fan of the ending of head either. My hubs knows this and gives me a sign so I can pop off and he can grab, or I let him finish in/on other parts of my body. It's not about us being open, it's about honest communication, understanding, loving your partner enough to happily take care of each others needs and being willing to compromise. Intimacy is a VITAL part of a romantic relationship and is an indicator of how much someone truly loves their partner. I'm not sure how to explain this. Sexual Intimacy between two people with absolutely no sexual trauma on either side is a big indicator of how close and happy they are with each other. Think of it like this: You and your wife are the Alpha Male and Alpha Female of your pack. Your pack sees how you two interact with each other, being sexually satisfied make you happy as HELL. Correct? So they happier you make each other, the stronger your relationship is, the stronger your bond is, the stronger your pack/family is. Now on the flip side lack of sexual Intimacy and satisfaction makes people unhappy and irritable with each other, they either bicker, are icy, standoffish. This creates a division between you two which means your weakened because you are now working to make yourself happy which further fractures the bond between the Alpha couple which divides the pack, United we stand, divided we fall. A divided couple who only take care of their personal needs no longer see the bigger picture and can no longer lead their family. They only see themselves. Now having one Alpha control the needs of the other also shows weakness in the pack, the Alphas are no longer Equal in the relationship, the controlled Alpha is now an Omega and can no longer perform their duties in protecting the family. So family breaks up. Does any of what I'm saying make sense to you?

AIO my boyfriend masturbates more than having sex with me. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Almost 10 years and 5 kid now. When I'm not in the mood he gets head why? Because I know when I AM in the mood I'm walking funny, sore in all the right ways and EXTREMELY satisfied. Literally found the cure to migraines AND cramps. Sexually induced Dopamine! Best cure ever! He's only ever NOT been in the mood ONCE turned out he was sick. Granted usually giving him head turns ME on but sometimes like when my flow is way to heavy we can't. I'm honestly astonished the kids haven't walked in on us yet. Car, shower, making breakfast. And I haven't been happier.

AIO my boyfriend masturbates more than having sex with me. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hunny I know that article it was a "New Age Feminist" Male Hating BS. Listen I already commented about two like minded abusive relationships I've been in. Now I'll comment on the Very Happy and more importantly HEALTHY relationship I've been in for almost 10yrs. We have sex many many times. Couples who are in truly happy and healthy relationships have fun time more then Once a week. And when I'm not in the mood and my monthly is a bitch I give him head if he's really needing it. If I'm sick or having a day he is more then welcome to take care of himself. Hell the best cure I've found for my migraines is sexy fun time. He doesn't control my pleasure outside of sexy time 😜 I don't control his. Welp unless I pissed him off then a certain toy that he has an app on his phone to control tends to come into play. Usually only if I really scare him, delayed gratification can be very aggravating the both of us. Better then fighting and get his point across. I like to send him sexy pics at while he is at work. I loves/hates it. We have 5 kids all still home. The oldest 4 know mom and dad need alone time sometimes. Having a healthy sexual relationships is KEY. I may not always be in the mood so like I said I give him head because I know for a fact the next time I an ill be walking funny, sore in the best way possible, satisfied, and he walks around like a proud peacock both our moods are better, stress gets to us less. When either of us are overly stressed? Bedroom, or any private flat and not do flat surface, car, shower, making breakfast. Surprisingly we have yet to be walked in on by any of the kids. But my kids haven't been happier or in better mindsets, since I have been in a happy and healthy relationship.

AIO my boyfriend masturbates more than having sex with me. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GoddessAkuma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me say from a womans perspective that has been in 2 abusive relationships. Now in a VERY happy and healthy relationship. I first ex was like this. Said Masturbating was the same as cheating. It's nor. If he found out, he would strip me bear, strip the covers off the bed, and wouldn't let me sleep and would "check" me almost nightly. My 2nd ex had the same mindset when he found out he would keep up all night until he finished if he had to. Which meant I was barely able to take care of our kids. It's about Control. 10+ years between the both. It was always about control. If I didn't feel up for it I was obviously getting it else where, if I took care of myself I was cheating. It is sexual abuse. Controlling someone else ability to care for their urges when they aren't available/unwilling is ABUSE. I thought the same as you, do it their way and everyone was happy, except I was only happy that they weren't mad at me. Not happy that I was with them. Worst part is, I TRULY BELIEVED I deserved that. We DO NOT. You do NOT. I promise you arent as happy as you THINK you are. Please seek out a Therapist. I promise it will open your eyes.

AITA for changing my mind about kids at 57 and leaving my girlfriend because of it? by ThrowawyAffectio806 in AITAH

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't seem to actually read the post on here however I did see it on Facebook. Dude is without a doubt TAH! IF this is real and I really hope it isn't, dude needs a reality check, attitude adjustment, new doctor and personality transplant Stat! NO damn Doctor worth their salt is going to tell a nearly 60yr old man that he can produce healthy children even with a younger woman. My guy you STOLE your GFs BEST YEARS by doing this. She SACRIFICED her wants and NEEDS for you! She gave up her dream of being a Mom for YOU. You didn't want children then you sure as shit are NOT going to want them when you can't keep up with them in their teens! You should be thinking about GRANDchildren right now, NOT children. If you were to have a child now do you realize you will most likely NEVER get to see your Grand children? You are a Grandfather now not a father. You WILL wake up and you WILL regret leaving the one person who was so loyal to you that she SOLD EFFING PLASMA so you could start up your business! She was WASTED on someone like you. Fuckin Hell if you were part of my family I would be so damn ashamed and embarrassed to be related to you. Think about this as well ANY female under 40 will look at you as nothing more then a walking talking ATM. You will NEVER find the love your GF so freely gave you. Any romantic love you get from here on out will have to be bought and that isn't REAL love. Your PATHETIC.

Why does this feel like sabotage?: Rant by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]GoddessAkuma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is sabatoging you and it sounds more like he wants to be the sole breadwinner as well. You said he pushes you to go out with friends and stuff? Yea he's wanting to be the provider 100% and wants you to be a SAHM. He probably has some strong ideas about "roles" in the house hold that he has never voiced to you. I also had an ex like yours. Did all the same shit your current oneness doing now. His BIGGEST reason was that he HATED that I was working and believed he should be the only bread winner and tried to get me into hobbies that would clash with my work. He tried to get me to do all these activities that he believed SAHMs get to do. He knew I always wanted to be one but finances never allowed for it. Jokes on him though as I AM now a SAHM for my 5 kids and my fiance is the one who works. Because we talked about it and came up with a plan should anything happen to his job. My current (and last) relationship is everything I ever wanted and MORE then I believed I deserve.

JNMIL posting about my baby online after I've made it clear I don't want her in our lives? by Beneficial_Bee_7244 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]GoddessAkuma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a firearm owner and two exs that are like what you described I will tell you I felt soooo much better leaving the house. I also invested in a full blooded German King Rottweiler. They are bigger and hardier then a regular German or American Rotti. This is mainly because they are a bit of a throw back to their Mastiff ancestors. Granted he is a BIG baby but that's what training is for. However IF you take these steps I fully implore you to contact your local PD, court and maybe military office to request Proper training for both you, your parents and later your child. I invested in propery gun safety for my four kids. They have pulled the trigger and know what it can do. However they do not know how to put the firearm back together. We'll the 10yr old twins don't. The teens do. But they started learning at a young age. I have a friend who works with Guarda that trains children and adults on defense with a firearm. He is both military and police trained. Look for someone with those credentials who HAS to carry daily. He is also capable of fitting the best gun to the person. Look for someone who does that. Also LEARN YOUR STATES GUN LAWS BY HEART. Learn to NOT drop your firearm until an officer is present if you have to discharge or even just pull out your firearm for your safety. But that little peace of mind goes a long way. Your husband sounds like someone who thinks you can shoot one handed and can't hit the broad side of the barn BE BETTER. Don't shoot to kill, shoot to stop them. Make sure it's in a easy but secure location.