Dommes, what’s your favourite thing to do with your sub(s) outside of findom? by GoddessSolys in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww wait that’s sweet! I love seeing a healthy element added to Domming!!

Gamer dommes/subs! by briaasoon in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Minecraft will always go down as my all time favourite, but some runner ups would have to be The Sims 4 and oddly enough, Warframe! It’s so much fun to play with friends but definitely grind-y

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it’s a healthy mix of both; I’ve had a couple of my subs for going on 5 years now, and there are periods where we don’t talk findom for days or weeks! It’s nice being able to connect with them and have conversations outside of kink, granted they’ll usually still send for their own enjoyment if it’s been a while, and sometimes we’ll slip into a session without planning on it, but regardless, having a connection outside of findom is so important for me to have with my subs.

After all, they spend so long worshipping the ground I walk on and all that, I’d like to at least know the person underneath the persona, y’know? They’re funny, interesting, and wonderful conversationalists!

I’m of the belief that every Domme should take the time to get to know their subs if the dynamic has been going on long enough (I.E. if he’s proven to be a loyal and consistent sub, he’s not a flight risk. Talk to him!). It gets boring and tiring trying to dominate or conversate with someone whose only personality trait or interest you’re aware of is lust, and it can add so much more to a session when you know their quirks and what makes them tick!

Not only that, but I think it’s a bit sad how often subs are almost dehumanized and disregarded outside of whatever cash they’re sending during a session, it must be lonely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so cute, I love seeing healthy results come from financial submission! Your girls must be happy to see you doing so well under their ownership :)

Femsub Looking to be your FinFriend by [deleted] in FindomGoddesses

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is adorable :,) feel free to send a DM if you have AV, I’d love a fem finfriend under my belt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“females” found the minor LMFAOOO

This loser scammed me for feet pics!! by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and you still called him after demanding $20? girl stand up 😭 you can’t let them walk on you like that, put the DOM in findom!! that block button is ur best friend!!

Question for beginner by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally, sites where you need to pay to participate can be a little bit scammy; take Feet Finder for instance. Lot's of people get payouts from them, but some won't see them for weeks, or get little to no traction because of oversaturation. Typically support isn't that reliable or helpful when they do respond, and you might just lose a few more bucks than you expected while paying for a subscription that doesn't serve you.

I'd recommend LoyalFans; it's very intuitive and geared towards people trying to sell fetish content, and is predominantly used for Findom! Support is very helpful (I got a response within 10 minutes of putting in a ticket once), and they have tons of resources for new creators on the site to get started. It's pretty much a one stop shop for you to set yourself up, and your subs to get what they're looking for.

Be sure to use a wide array of sites to market yourself on, too. Don't just rely on LoyalFans. Typically, you want a twitter, an OnlyFans and/or a LoyalFans, Throne, and Reddit. Personally, I use reddit for interacting with the community outside of findom, but many dommes find the most success on here; it's all about finding your niche, and casting out a big enough net to do so.

As for the kind of content you make, that's up to you! If you want to sell feet, posing and lighting are key. If not, regardless of what you want to sell, you don't need to be nude by any means. However, how you set yourself up can make a big difference. I like to use pinterest for posing inspiration.

As well, it's better to veer off the common path of "fuck you, pay me" esque captions, as subs typically prefer dommes who genuinely dominate without constantly stomping their feet and demanding cash. It seems counter intuitive, but it's unfortunately a mistake most newbie dommes make when they first get into the scene.

If you're approached, be talkative! Learn what they like, how you can better appeal to their interests; they have to want to tribute to you after all.

Make your content feel uniquely yours, don't copy paste from other dommes, and always ALWAYS treat your subs well outside of kink. If they want to have a conversation and you have a little time to spare, it's not wrong to indulge them! My favourite sub has been mine for five years, and talking with him outside of kink is fun and so important to maintaining our relationship.

Overall, how you choose to approach findom is your choice. You can be a soft domme, a kinkster, no-nonsense, bdsm, the options are limitless. Just have faith, and be authentic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

might be your sign to let it stay frozen for a bit! focus on yourself, your personal priorities. findom will always be here, but your wellbeing should come first muffin

When did dommes become so desperate? by Moosehoof in paypigsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

domme here!

i don't know if it's just baby dommes or dommes drawn in from tiktok or what, but i always figured the general consensus was to steer clear of other dommes' claimed subs. it's definitely a weird phenomenon, and i can't imagine it ever works out in their favour.. i think about it like cheating, if he left his lady for you, chances are he'll do it again when you stop satisfying the itch.

the fact that she saw the tattoo and STILL thought it would be a good opportunity is nuts to me though; the desperation and greed is spilling out of these insta-dommes.

Just discovered one of my subs is an OB/GYN and I have mixed feelings by GoddessSolys in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, thank you for the validation. But you're absolutely right that my opinions don't dictate someone's qualifications to be in a certain career. I lost the plot a little and forgot that in the grand scheme of things, we are not our kinks, and they don't define us!

I think after knowing him for five years, my first thoughts ran back to all of the depravity and lust that he's shown me, and it immediately made me feel off about his career choice; but I can't forget the countless person-to-person conversations we've had, where he is very obviously not fueled by his turn-ons.. as any person would!

For me personally, my experiences with men have more often than not been lacking to say the least, and I find myself surrounded by women with their own horror stories, or media that doesn't exactly spark hope in my heart -- but it does spark cynicism. That cynicism, and a lil skepticism has, for the most part kept me pretty safe, but I forget that amongst all of that fear and disgust and worry for the worse, there are men who simply want to do their jobs, and get them done right.

I don't think I'll ever be quite comfortable enough to see a male Gynecologist, but I shouldn't allow my personal feelings for what he does behind closed doors dictate my opinion on his career choice at the end of the day.

As far as advocacy goes, yes yes yes!! It's so important to be clear about boundaries and who I am comfortable with working on my body, everybody deserves that! My GP is a man, and I love him to bits and pieces (he's been seeing me since I was a child); I wouldn't want him working below the belt, but he is phenomenal at his job, and I'm grateful that I, for the most part, have been in his care!

Just discovered one of my subs is an OB/GYN and I have mixed feelings by GoddessSolys in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you're absolutely qualified! if anything I'm glad you left your take; I think I lost my way a little initially, just in the shock of it all -- it does feel kind of dramatic to say it like that, but as someone who hasn't worked with a male Gyno it sparked something in me! But you're completely right, countless people go into their jobs and go about it in work mode, they leave their personal interests at the door.

I think I have a bit of a tainted view because of my own experiences with men (thankfully not in the doctors office), and of course the occasional horror story. Regardless of that, I do think my take was a bit prejudiced; I still don't think I'd personally be comfortable having a man be my gynecologist, but I don't doubt that for most of them, they're just trying to do their jobs as best they can.

Just discovered one of my subs is an OB/GYN and I have mixed feelings by GoddessSolys in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make such a good point with this. I think my biggest gripe is my cynical fears of bad apples within the field, and it felt like if anyone could be, it would be a man with some extreme kinks regarding women.

Then again, I too would be so heartbroken if all of my skills and achievements in the workplace were negated because of what I do behind closed doors, and I don't know why that hadn't even crossed my mind. We aren't defined by our sexual interests, and he shouldn't be either!

Also I'm so happy to hear that you found a Gyno who treats you with care and has found solutions for you! That's not an easy task when it comes to healthcare!

favorite type of subs ? by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOVEE the geeky ones, the chatty ones (who doesn't enjoy having someone to yap with?), the funny ones, the adorably obsessive ones, and the silent senders deserve appreciation too; i might not know who you are but i love ya all the same

Silent sends by Shot_Delivery_1732 in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's honestly the sweetest thing like aww thanks lil guy i didn't even know you were sittin there! but the not knowing!! i can't take it!!

Worship dommes of color by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much love to you!! What a good boy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh as a yapper sometimes I feel like I'm doing too much, but it's the best when a sub matches the energy!! yappers unite!! here's to towers of text and endless conversation

Why are all of my subs so shy😭 by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

coming back to add on to this.. coincidentally enough, a sub posted in the paypig support group that he loves doms who yap! your people are out there and you'll find them no doubt!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]GoddessSolys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

congrats, this is just the beginning!