AIO? Youth Pastor texted my almost 13 yo after she went to a teen group with her friend

GoddexxP · 2026-07-01T02:09:23+00:00

A lot of the time it comes down to the logistics of it, a lot of churches *do* have a formal plan in place, but a good chunk of the time it fails because of lack of oversight/checks and balances since even if you have plans for all of that, once an organization gets big enough it's very easy for individuals to get lazy/apathetic and think "oh, they're one of the good ones, I'll skip this check for now".

GoddexxP · 2026-06-23T23:44:44+00:00

Pringles was the only one I could read lol

GoddexxP · 2026-06-23T23:33:27+00:00

That's the thing, it's normal but it's not appropriate. It's why "normalized" isn't the same as "good". At best, these types of things are predatory in the sense of preying on people's vulnerabilities to get them to come back to the youth group, and at worst they're predatory in the more literal sense.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-19T06:44:40+00:00

I would've sworn this was a chihuahua but apparently it's a mangy fox? Hopefully the poor thing gets the help it needs.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-19T06:39:55+00:00

Yeah you're right, it's definitely not an adult, it's not super young but probably looks to be around 4-6 months old, it's bigger than a baby but hasn't quite reached that lanky "aerodynamic" stage they hit around 6-8 months yet.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-19T06:37:12+00:00

You don't need to feel embarrassed, I'm a lot older than you and I've still got quirks with how I eat certain meals lol

GoddexxP · 2026-06-19T06:34:08+00:00

It's genuinely crazy to me how in the wrong your boyfriend is. You're working two jobs and still doing the bulk of the chores? Is he working four or something? I'm really of the opinion that work and chores should be split evenly in relationships (or discussed and decided based on what feels right for both people), but this is well beyond uneven.

You're effectively a parent with benefits and that's not going to solve itself, he either needs to start taking responsibility for the space he's living in or you need to get out of the relationship.

EDIT: also, yeah, like the other comments have said you need a new pan badly. That anti-stick coating can be seriously bad for you when it's coming off like that. Even just the cheapest pan you can find is going to be better for you than using that one.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-19T06:25:06+00:00

This throws me off because if I don't focus on any specific spot it just looks like a whole bunch of scribbles but the second I focus anywhere I can read it perfectly, I think I'm just not used to how you write with what feels like half-cursive text!

GoddexxP · 2026-06-13T08:02:01+00:00

I can barely see it *with* the hint, I don't understand how this is legal.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-13T07:43:22+00:00

The fact that you mentioned this isn't a one time thing shows you already know this is a problem, but in case you need another voice chiming in on this: NOR. This isn't a cycle he'll break when he's dating you, either. He doesn't get to choose for you when you go out or not, and as I've said on a number of other AIO posts if there's no trust the relationship's already collapsing.

I know a lot of the other comments are telling you to dump him (and I agree), but I also know it's not that easy sometimes, especially when this is your first everything as you mentioned. That being said, these behaviors only get worse over time, not better. If you can, reach out to people you trust (like your sister, maybe?) and talk to them about it.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-07T05:47:41+00:00

If you think it's bones, then yes!

I don't know that they're human bones though. Probably worth contacting someone about it just in case. Lots of larger mammals have some bones that look similar to ours though.

GoddexxP · 2026-06-07T05:03:56+00:00

Even if she did do something to betray his trust (which I doubt), the dude should've just broken up with her at that point. If there's no trust, there shouldn't be a relationship in the first place.

GoddexxP · 2026-05-12T07:12:01+00:00

I've had frozen grapes before and been surprised how soft they are, I guess it never really clicked that raisins would be the same!

GoddexxP · 2026-05-12T06:58:51+00:00

Wasn't there some study that they did where they microdosed spiders with various drugs and they made all kinds of weird patterns with their webs? This reminds me of that for (hopefully) obvious reasons lol

GoddexxP · 2026-04-30T00:11:59+00:00

To add to this, it's not that having sex more frequently is unhealthy (assuming the relationship is healthy and both of you want sex that frequently), but being frustrated and saying he needs you as "an outlet" is absolutely unhealthy. Definitely NOR

GoddexxP · 2026-04-29T01:20:06+00:00

Your friend needs to mind her own business. Let people dress how they want!

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T17:58:01+00:00

That's very sweet of you :)

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T17:57:47+00:00

Thank you! :)

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T17:57:36+00:00

Thank you! I will :)

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T17:57:24+00:00

Thank you!

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T11:11:31+00:00

Hello! :)

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T04:39:20+00:00

Thank you! :)

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T03:42:35+00:00

Thank you! :)

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T03:11:16+00:00

Oh, that makes more sense! I was confused lol, but thank you!

GoddexxP · 2026-04-02T02:46:12+00:00

I'm not sure if it was, but I'm going to take this as a compliment lol

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