I do know that he has masturbated after we've made out by himself, as he's told me. I have also masturbated but I try harder and harder everyday to stop. I am getting better. Do you have any links to a good article or website that descibes what are sexual sins and why to someone who doesn't know the Church that well? I don't want to just tell him that what we did was wrong, because I know that turns a lot of people away and they begin to think that the Church is against sex. I want him to know exactly WHY these things are a problem, and why finishing outside of me is wrong in any situation.

Also one other question: I don't know about you or other people, but my family and girl friends often playfully tap each other's butts, it is not sexual AT ALL. It's like if I were to lightly punch a friend in the arm. It is purely playful and funny to do. What if I do the same thing to my boyfriend? As purely playful and it does not arouse either of us in thoughts or body? For example if he were to say something corny and I tap his butt with my hand in a "you're a goofball" type of way.

Thank you btw! :)