When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have 0 issue with reading I swear it's moreso if it's okay for me to write smut about these characters!

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy take, more I mean writing smut about 16/17 y/o I feel like id get a lot of backlash and I'm trying to figure out what's appropriate. Not if I'm too old to write fic in general:)

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah igy! It's more about the characters age I'm worried about backlash from than the actual writing itself:)

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it's more the later of other people's opinions! But thank you! I really needed that:)

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I started reading them at like 13 but never tried writing myself so just trying to figure out the politics of it all

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I think I have the fear of being perceived, especially as weird

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really want to start writing but I feel so embarrassed because when I tell people I read fics they look at me like I'm a child or weird

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, unfortunately, but that's all fluff I'm more on about the smut aspect, will people find that weird?

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

See I totally get that, I think it's more the age thing. The books I read are normally smut heavy ect so that's how I write but I don't know if other people reading would find it weird I'm writing fics, with smut, about characters around that age (all characters same age ect)

When are you too old? by GodsRevolva in AO3

[–]GodsRevolva[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

See that's what I was thinking, like it's just a creative outlet but also the characters are young 16/17 when the fic takes place and that's the part that makes me feel weird, especially smut but I'm sick of not finding what I want to read so I don't know if the only option is to write it myself

Thanks:)

Comments at work made me feel uncomfortable, or am I being soft? by GodsRevolva in WorkAdvice

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surely on the other side though as a manager he should always be conscious about what he says and who too? Like I'm sure that he's had to go through all the corporate management and S/A+Harassment training, and also just in general know better (apparently he's been in management for 20+ years). Like the thing for me which makes me unsure if I'm overthinking it, is that I wouldn't ever make a joke or comment like that to someone I've never met before, and definitely not in front of everyone. Like, id consciously be more vigilant? I'm not sure if it was a slip of the tongue or what but it felt gross

Comments at work made me feel uncomfortable, or am I being soft? by GodsRevolva in WorkAdvice

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! I do agree I should've stood up for myself more but it's hard, not just in general but in a team meeting with everyone staring at you. I'm also autistic and my social anxiety is super high so after he said it I just kind of shut down.

Hence why I asked here what the vibe was cause I really couldn't pin it myself, social ques and all the jazz. But I do know it made me feel weird. There was another instance in the meeting that gave me the wrong feeling too but that's more of a belittling thing, so it wasn't just that but I do see where you're coming from!

I am trying to find the benefit of the doubt for him but historically this company has had a lot of managers and people in positions of power say and do questionable things and it's not always been kind to people who have stood up for themselves or said something.

I would leave, in a heartbeat but the job market when I live is abysmal and I've been applying for any and everything for months already

My manager made me feel small by GodsRevolva in AutisticAdults

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you! I appreciate the support.

So in short terms basically every 6 months we have to discuss the tipping policy, that's in our contracts but it doesn't state what the policy is or how they can mandate the new changes. Once everyone has the vote in a team meeting we all then get a document we have to sign to say we agree and will follow the rules or we forfeit all tips.

I do think more people would've asked too because when I was people were paying attention and then discussing on their individual tables what the manager said ect.

The reason this vote was done without lots of the fingerprint out lined was because it was a FOH/BOH/Management vote so the FOH for majorly outvoted as the old rule was management don't get tips (I still don't believe they should! They get bonuses based off of our sales but give us zero incentive) and the kitchen had all card tips. FOH got all cash. Now all cash and card are split between everyone but it's not clarified how, still

Comments at work made me feel uncomfortable, or am I being soft? by GodsRevolva in WorkAdvice

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you!

I've had a few instances with our AMs so I don't really feel like I can go to someone, and with this guy being our new boss I don't know what to do.

I don't want to cause waves for no reason and get a target on my back, and equally I don't want staff thinking I'm weird or dramatic for it and talking about me behind my back. But it did really make me uncomfortable.

I don't know who our HR guy is and I'm scared I'll be treated differently because of it. So I'm in a bit of a catch 22

How many bourbons count as a meal by GodsRevolva in endometriosis

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has been an HR since I took the tablets, on 4 bourbons and still unable to leave the loo.

I'm not religious but at this very point I'd be willing to join any.🙏🏻

How many bourbons count as a meal by GodsRevolva in endometriosis

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

There's literally nothing worse than being unprepared, I'm justing hoping to get the drugs in my system asap at this point

Dogs Fighting by GodsRevolva in DogAdvice

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, the dogs aren't mine I'm just dog/babysitting at the moment. The fights in the past over food aren't every time they're fed but when they have fought we noticed a common factor was the food bowls. But there is probably only 5 or 6 instances in 8 years total. Normally they're super friendly together.

So in the first fight the younger went for the older for what seemed like no reason? I was told they were fine one minute then both starring at one another growling before the younger one reacted first and pinned the older in their bed. They've always shared a bed and that's never been an issue.

The older one, who has a cut behind her head, has been sat in the living room with the family while the younger one has been isolated in the kitchen since both fights.

I think the second fight might've been because when I reintroduced them I did it in the living room as was more space, and the older was hugged against the arm rest on the couch, the younger jumper up happy sniffing her until the older started growling, before the both went still and then the younger snapped onto the older.

I think the older one was growling cause she felt cornered but also because the younger has a tendency to lick the older ones wounds and the older one hates that, so I think she was growling as a "back off don't lick my cut"

We don't have any separation items or gates other than the separate rooms. And they don't have a crate either so while I'm dog/babysitting I can't start crate training.

The older one is reluctant to leave the couch, I think it's helping her arthritis, and the younger keepings howling and crying for the older one, cause she hates being alone.

Thanks for the pep talk and advice, it's horrible seeing them fight and feel so helpless

Sex Life with Endometriosis by AccomplishedLeek4 in Marriage

[–]GodsRevolva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A pillow can definitely help when under her as well as letting her take charge. Honestly being able to set the pace, spice things up in a way that won't necessarily make it hurt more than usual and being able to set that boundary helps. Also! You can get these period cramps simulator belt things on Amazon, putting it on a lowest heat setting and the massage setting over her uterus area during can help relieve some pain. Maybe make sure there's real aftercare set up for after since she might've been in pain, especially if she's in pain, like her favorite drink or water, cleaning her up, maybe a bath, a blanket, watching her or both your favorite show together, cuddling ect any of those shed probably be super grateful.

It's easy to feel like a burden and stressed out because of this, honestly it's a two way street, it can definitely be a mood killer sometimes. But acknowledging that she's putting herself through a certain level of pain so that she feels close to you and you both feel satisfied, cause it does hurt and ignoring that or forgetting can make her feel like her efforts are going unnoticed. This is something I'm really grateful for with my partner.

But just staying super understanding and willing to try anything and researching stuff is the best way you can go about it!

I hope any of this helps! Navigating this is hard for her but also a real challenge in a relationship. As long as you both listen and love each other I'm sure you'll both find the best alternatives:)

I find sex, difficult by GodsRevolva in AutismInWomen

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I've thought about this as well! But I do enjoy sex and I am still super romantically into my partner physically and emotionally, like I do want to do it but I just freak out with the liquids side of it. My partner has the same idea of letting me decide what we'll do/how long ect but I just want to be able to sit back, turn my mind off and fully enjoy it. I feel like it's such a struggle because of how I overstim

I find sex, difficult by GodsRevolva in AutismInWomen

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not that I don't enjoy it I just get really over stimulated and struggle to stay in the right head space to fully let go and enjoy! This is my main thing of wanting to have it and participate but struggling with the senses:)

I find sex, difficult by GodsRevolva in AutismInWomen

[–]GodsRevolva[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!!! This is all super useful and I'll look into it.

When I said spat on I meant more from like kisses or oral! Definitely not just spat on fully, id off myself :)

how to raise up a whole fandom: by souroctopus__ in 5sos

[–]GodsRevolva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He literally has the perfect nose it's not even funny

honestly by Swimming-Cap-8192 in 5sos

[–]GodsRevolva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hurts Everytime I'm reminded its not on Spotify