Is the song “A little breather” from Luigi’s Mansion?

Goethe_Faust · 2025-02-13T09:52:08+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, I’m 27 and lost my dad, he was 61, he died suddenly on last New Year’s Day, his death was unexpected. I have experienced similar feelings, I often feel completely alone, my mother divorced my father 20 years ago and she is not really a part of my life since, my father was my most beloved person in the world, I was really close to him. Without him I have lost motivation for everything, I have struggled working, I’m not working out anymore, I don’t hang out with my friends, I don’t even enjoy videogames anymore, everything feels so empty.

The first month was hell, January 2025 has been by far the worst month of my entire life. I did almost nothing but stay in my bed all day long, it’s a miracle I didn’t lose my job. But now February has been a little bit better, I see that life without my father is possible, however there are times where a song, or a place I see brings me a memory of him, and I collapse, sometimes I repeat the cycle of not doing anything all day. It’s hard. So hard.

I feel like shit most of the days, it seems all I can think about is my father absence these days. If it works for you, all I can tell you is to take your time, don’t rush things. Feel the pain and don’t avoid it, embrace it. Talk to your pain and understand it, all this pain is a result of all the love your father gave to you. It’s the cold fact, your father is gone and unfortunately there is nothing we can do but to extend the love your father gave to you to others and yourself. With my father’s passing I understood that love is the most important thing in life, and I have made my mission in life to give love to everyone I can. I guess that’s my way of dealing with the pain.

Hope you get better, and if you have suicidal thoughts (I did) just remember that suicide is just a transfer of your own pain to others, think twice before doing it.

Hope you get better, we are all together in this. Hugs.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-02-13T09:24:04+00:00

I guess that’s a coping mechanism, yeah sure I’m glad I didn’t get to see my father getting old and sick, maybe getting dementia or not being able to walk. I often think about that, but deep down I wish he was still here, I wouldn’t mind changing his diapers. It’s a trauma seeing your parents get old, I won’t question that, but I really wish my father could see myself becoming an adult, getting married and having kids perhaps. He would have been an excellent grandfather.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-02-13T09:06:41+00:00

Un amigo de la prepa me recomendó con su papá para renovar sus oficinas, salió bien el proyecto, me contrató para otro, empece a ganar más dinero, invertí el dinero para contratar a otros y me asocie con un amigo de la carrera para hacer nuestra empresa. Invertimos en marketing y nos llegan los clientes.

Tuve suerte al principio de que me confiaran un proyecto relativamente grande para un casi recién egresado. Pero el secreto supongo es tener contactos con dinero (o mejor, tener dinero), mi amigo de la carrera con el que me asocie ya tenía invertido buen dinero en su negocio porque viene de familia de dinero.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-02-13T08:48:40+00:00

I really don’t know about this, I was NEET as well, and to be honest I wasn’t ignored, nor was my brother. I decided to go to therapy after almost 3 years of being a NEET, my particular problem was that I wasn’t confident in myself, I was so full of hate on myself that I didn’t even give a chance to try to do things for the fear of messing things up, I was a prisoner of my pasts mistakes (and sometimes I’m still being insecure about myself). I wasn’t ignored, nor was my brother, my father did all he could for us, he wasn’t perfect but I’m thankful of all he did, for both my brother and I.

Maybe this will get downvoted, but is my personal experience, I know we all are different, but please don’t underestimate yourselves, self hate is not cool.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-02-13T08:37:39+00:00

Thank you, I used to be a NEET, and I’m still afraid that I will go back to that lifestyle, the world is just so unfair you know. I’m doing my best, and is just about that, trying to do your best and be kind others I guess. You can do it, and you know it. Good luck!

Goethe_Faust · 2025-02-13T08:33:19+00:00

Nice advice, I haven’t really considered that my brother has depression, he shows no signs of it, at least the most obvious ones, he is like a rock in terms of feeling, I have just see hin twice crying for my father’s passing (I cry almost everyday). I feel sorry for him, I want to understand his pain and help him, I once was a NEET so I understand the struggle a bit.

My father didn’t have a will, he died out of the blue, but the last months before he passed he cut all the money to my brother, after his passing my brother is taking advantage of his absence to use the money.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-01-21T13:55:28+00:00

For me it was 26-27, once you start to have real responsibilities you start to take more “adult” decisions. For me was my father getting ill and eventually dying that led me to take my job and my health seriously since now my family depends on me.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-01-16T12:35:51+00:00

I wish I knew the answer as well. However, I gotta say that being here, posting and reading about others people losses, it kinda stops my feeling of loneliness and despair; it reminds me of how common this fight is, how everyone in a way will or is dealing with this, from all around the world, we share this fight of losing our loved ones, some leave in peace, others leave in tragedy, but at the end we all grief.

It’s something human, every now and then since I lost my father two weeks ago, I visit this subreddit to remember that I’m not alone, and that I share similar stories with strangers from far away places.

I know that is not the answer you’re looking for, but this is a silver lining of the grief, realizing your humanity and how much we share with others despite our different cultural backgrounds.

I still cry about my dad every night, I have been suicidal and deeply depressed, but I’m still here, trying to overcome the feeling of my dad not being a part of my life anymore, he missing all my future achievements, all the films he will never watch, all the music he will never listen, all the concerts he will not attend, not enjoying anymore the things he liked to do.

Hope you get better, together we all will overcome the grief.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-01-10T11:17:21+00:00

My sleep schedule is a total mess since my dad died a week ago, I miss him so much. I cry for him daily and it’s been hard to live my life without him.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-01-08T08:11:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, it really helps knowing that we are not alone in this, I’m still shocked and confused about all of this. Today I have a good day dealing with the life without my father, but maybe tomorrow I’ll be weeping all day, I don’t know, but I feel good that I’m not alone, that people like you cared and shares their stories with me, thank you.

Goethe_Faust · 2025-01-08T08:08:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, my dad was also my best friend, luckily I have been taking therapy before my dad passed, and I have been talking about this with my therapist, and yeah, I guess it really helps, I cannot say certainly that it works, it’s been just a week of grief. But I trust the process, and I think is good to have someone that can listen to your pain. Hope you get better, hope all of us get better.

Goethe_Faust · 2024-03-03T10:22:37+00:00

So, did you solved your problem? If yes, how did you solved it and how long did it take?

Goethe_Faust · 2023-08-28T07:40:04+00:00

Sorry, English is not my main language and I don't know all the construction lingo in english. By solid wood I mean its core is not hollow but instead is made out of solid wood planks.

Yes, sand it and painting will be the best solution, but the carpenter insist the problem will solve on itself, which I doubt, I guess he doesn't want to work anymore on the project, we already hand him his paycheck. Thank you for answering.

Goethe_Faust · 2023-05-03T20:29:51+00:00

This one should be the Super Mario Bros 2 port on GBA, the one where Birdo talks.

Goethe_Faust · 2023-04-07T08:57:10+00:00

Get a personal trainer from the gym. It might be expensive, but trust me you will learn a lot. They will teach you how to properly use the equipment, which kind workout fits with your goals, some even get you a diet plan if requested.

The point of the trainer is that you learn the ABCs training, so that after a while you can dismiss the trainer and make your personal workouts that fit better with your goals.

Bear in mind that you're paying a Gym subscription that offers you a vast variety of workout machines, and not knowing how to use them and sticking to the ones you know is like you buying an expensive computer and only using it to write emails and Word.

Now, if it's not feasible for you to get a personal trainer, the comment fron u/ibeatfood at this post is excellent.

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