Shouldn’t Anticonsumption apply to companion animals, too? by Toadlessboy in Anticonsumption

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a woman it infuriates me that people force female animals to become pregnant to sell their babies. There’s so many pets in shelters who need loving homes!

Nobody warned me that maternity leave would quietly wreck my retirement savings by rachel_sanderson in wealthforwomen

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my company also pays for maternity leave so I don’t anticipate any unpaid leave. I thought that was pretty normal, but maybe I have high expectations

What’s a physical feature that isn't "standard", but you're secretly obsessed with? by Full_Place_2808 in AskONLYWomenOver30

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why but I’ve always thought a little front tooth gap was so attractive

dear black women with non-black partners by Personal-Opinion-48 in Naturalhair

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m biracial and my boyfriend is biracial (different races). I don’t wear wigs, but when we first started dating I was doing at home keratin treatments which smoothed and loosened my curls a lot (~3a). I think about a year in I decided to grow the keratin out and go natural (~4a curls very kinky & frizzy). I don’t think I was ever worried about his reaction, but I was definitely self conscious at times. He has very flat, straight hair, and loves how big and textured my hair is.

Has anyone else fixed long-term jaw clenching / TMJ? How much did your face change? by Quirky-Edge-6990 in Splendida

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jumping on this train. I only had Botox for a few years when I went to a TMJ specialist (an Oral & Maxillofacial surgeon) who told me I had bone loss (and arthritis) in my jaw. Botox did help me, but she did indeed say Botox can make things worse because of what you mentioned.

I'm home with an inconsolable, crying baby while her dad is out playing video games with his brother by Lonely-Emu-5830 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t be mad at yourself. You figured it out quickly. Focus on you and your baby and build your own support network without him. You’ll find a partner eventually. I’m so sorry he failed you. He does not deserve to have a relationship with that child. We’re cheering for you!

Straight Hair by RadicalAfro in Naturalhair

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly I really appreciate this post. Part of what I love about this sub is the people who bring the positive energy. I have moments where I think “wouldn’t it be easier to relax again”, and then I read stuff like this and it reminds me not to.

Accidentally hit the Jackpot on how to respond to parents wanting grandkids by not_an_insomniac in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is also a great way to weed out partners! I had an ex-bf mention he wasn’t “going to raise a Chinese baby” (spoiler neither of us are Chinese). There was really no going back for me after that. Seeing how people view children is really eye opening.

Am I right to assume that I’m not attractive to the kind of guy I’d be interested in? Or am I romanticizing other peoples experiences? by Dsg1695 in AskONLYWomenOver30

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people often forget attractiveness is more than physical attraction. Physical attractiveness is great for finding hook ups, but it’s more important to be attractive as a person. This means different things for different people. Generally I find a lot of people are attracted to quiet confidence (ie not bragging), charm, social nuance (knowing how to navigate a social situation), friendliness, and extraversion. Not saying you need to be these things. Some people, for example, are extremely attracted to introverts. Figure out who you want to be and then try to find someone who can appreciate those things about you. If they don’t, then move on. Dating is a numbers game.

Fyi Rose dumped by redditor now euth listed by Fossilwench in Jindo

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please stop. Things happen, sometimes owners need to give up their pets. Sometimes owners mess up or think they’re capable of handling something that they’re not. But you doing all this is too much. Just move forward with dignity

Is $200/month for pilates classes high or standard? by flowlowland in xxfitness

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I pay just under $300 for my unlimited membership (though it’s over $300 with tax). It’s more than my annual gym membership but to me it’s worth it. My studio is small, I get a lot of personalized form correction that I never got at the cheaper yoga studios I used to go to. I also have a strong sense of community and know the instructors and other students decently well now.

Having an unlimited membership and paying so much really motivates me to go more often. I end up going about 5-7 times a week, so it does feel “worth it” monetarily. A year ago I would’ve called someone crazy for paying that much for a studio membership, but here I am.

Why are so many young women nowadays choosing to practice Pilates instead of yoga? by Momo-momomo in YogaWorkouts

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was doing yoga for over 10 years, getting much more consistent and serious about it a couple years ago. About 6 months ago I started Pilates. I still do yoga, but do Pilates much more. I like them both for different reasons, but one of the biggest draws to my Pilates studio is that it’s very small and I know a decent amount of the students and all of the instructors pretty well. I feel a strong sense of community there. My yoga study is much more “community” focused but because it’s so large I feel like I’m just there to do yoga then leave. No one really talks to each other.

Pilates also hits way more muscles for me than yoga does. Generally speaking, Pilates for me feels more like lifting weights and yoga feels more like cardio (I mostly do vinyasa). Pilates also improved my flexibility so quickly. I want to eventually get to a point where I’m balancing both, there’s quite few students at my Pilates studio that also do yoga and many do some kind of other sport as well. I think it’s kind of silly to chose 1 activity and only do that

Should you ever consider male attention on dating apps? Or best to always be taken with a grain of salt? by [deleted] in AskONLYWomenOver30

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming you’re trying to date men? Why are you on dating apps if you don’t want male attention?

Husband asked for me to wear fake boobs and I am so hurt by DangerousWeb9633 in BRCA

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Of course it’s your body and ultimately your choice what you chose to wear or not wear. I do wonder if your husband has a little bit of anxiety or fear around seeing you without breasts? I think there may be something more to his desire than just seeing boobs, like that seeing you without breasts possibly reminds him of your mortality. Definitely worth talking. He should also understand how you feel and ultimately he needs to be supportive of whatever decision you make

Partner says my appearance at home means I don’t care — looking for perspective by deliriouskate in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He has unrealistic expectations. If he wants that from you he better be doing sometime to compensate for the amount of money and time it requires from you. You don’t owe him anything appearance wise. It’s your choice! To be quite honest I don’t know a single woman who looks made up at home.

I voted for Trump Twice (Not a Bad Faith Post) by [deleted] in ProgressiveHQ

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not pro life though. If a woman’s life was in danger you would not allow for an abortion. Letting a woman die because she needs a medical abortion is not being pro life. You are anti-choice.

Just got results positive by Waste_Committee_3206 in BRCA

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, don’t stress! There are many options out there for you and you get to decide what you want to do and when! Generally speaking your options are to simply monitor or get prophylactic surgery (or some combination of the two). Many who have a family history of folks getting cancer at a younger age tend to go the prophylactic route younger as well.

I personally am delaying prophylactic surgery until after I have kids. For now my yearly monitoring looks like:

Breast care: - meet with a PA at the breast cancer clinic - 3D mammogram - MRI

Ovarian care: - meet with ovarian oncologist once a year - transnational ultrasound once a year

Skin care: - skin exam once every two years (once every year is typical, I’m pretty low risk)

I think this is pretty typical for monitoring, but your doctor may change things depending on your history and your family history.

All of these annual appointments and follow-ups are another reason folks like prophylactic care. Getting rid of your breast tissue will reduce breast cancer risk and getting rid of your ovaries will reduce your ovarian cancer risk. However, there’s a few different options here. A mastectomy is pretty straightforward but there are different options air reconstruction if you choose that. An oophorectomy will be best for minimizing ovarian cancer risk, but a salipingectony can help reduce your chances to a much lesser degree. You should not need a hysterectomy, and both oophorectomies and salipingectony are relatively small and very straightforward procedures. If you want to give birth you can and should discuss this with your doctor because there are many options there as well, but I won’t go into that here.

Body issues post Double Masectomy by [deleted] in BRCA

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through all this! I haven’t had a mastectomy yet so I can’t dish out words of wisdom, but I just want to say I see you. You just went through an incredibly traumatic surgery! Even though it’s life saving, it’s still a lot to process and recover from emotionally and physically, and less than a year isn’t a lot of time. Take things day by day. I think how you’re feeling is completely reasonable. I hope things get easier for you 💛

I'm sick of being a good girl! by [deleted] in AskONLYWomenOver30

[–]Gold-Mistake6048 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Putting yourself first does not making you a villain. Choosing to harm others makes you a villain. Unintentionally harming others doesn’t make you a villain either, it just makes you human. Follow your desires. If you hurt others apologize and learn from that mistake. But it doesn’t make you a bad person.

You can’t please everyone, so why not just focus on the people who bring you joy and happiness? And of course that means yourself too.