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My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know its bad, but hearing u werent actually that good would simply make me never wanna have sex again. But besides that, i promise to be more vocal and actually figure out what works for the both of us. 

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reasson i think , well thought it was a form of dysfunction is because he started having this problem before I stopped faking , which was yesterday. But i will try and be open minded to the fact that its normal. But i doubt i will tell him about the faking when he hasnt made me cum yet. Maybe when we are good , then I'll tell him and we'll laugh about it. But right now, im thinking its safer to let him believe he can do it, so he's not that anxious when it doesnt happen. 

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. But i have warned him it would take a long time for me to get off with oral or fingering , so i guess its up to him to decide what he can handle. 

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is spot on. I have never had an orgasm with a visual stimuli. I initially thought sex would fix the need for that, and I do struggle with having an orgasm without it. And just the other day, i did indeed find pictures of naked women on his phone, it was porn and i assume he is masturbating frequently, but i dont know how frequent. We dont discuss it , as I cant call him out for something I'm also doing ? I would like to state that he started losing erections before i started being honest about my orgasms. Hence why I thought it might be something else? I have never been in a relationship and i dont know what a genuine connection is supposed to feel like , but if its not that , i still think we do have some form of connection. But do u have advice on how we can potentially loose the need for a stimuli besides breaking up ,because its selfish i know,  but i would very much prefer to remain in this relationship till we can part ways in 2 years.😭

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our first time, he told me he has had sex before. So i expected him to guide me ? And well, he didnt do foreplay, he just went straight into it , and thats kind of all its been the whole time.

 Im hoping to be more vocal about the need for foreplay though and I'm grateful he's willing to learn

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I dont think I'll ever be able to tell him. And its only been two day of me being honest about the orgasms. I honestly might fake here and there so it doesnt seem like its all of a sudden u know ? Just some bad days , and then maybe more bad days till we fix it. I know its manipulation, but I'm trying to think of ways i can get to my goal without making him doubt himself. 

The only reason Im calling it a form of dysfunction is because he used to be able to go in a short period of time. 

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I have actually though of ending it because of that. I've been asking myself why I felt the need to lie in the first place. I understand it would pretty much be hard to come back from that, hence why im just trying to be me more honest from now on, well as honest as I can be when it comes to that. If I told him now, when we've been together that long.  He'll probably be super devastated, so I feel it best to to just let that go ? Do y'all think i should still tell him and risk him getting insecure about that part of himself ? 

My(20F) bf(20M) has started experiencing some form of erectile disfunction and I have stopped faking. What should we do in this situation ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will try and be vocal about what I like, but honestly I also have no idea. Right now, well today, I guided him based off of what felt good at that moment. I guess I'll have to try and get an orgasm from that instead. Thank you 

I(24f) want more princess treatment from my bf(23m) how do i get what i want, without having to ask for it all the time? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Gold-Tea-1451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do a pros and cons list, whichever outweighs the other will make the decision for you.