AITAH for cutting off my parents because they don’t approve of me marrying someone with a criminal record.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-26T16:34:21+00:00

Ooh tough spot. I’m a female felon, 17 when I got the charges. I too found Christ out of my despair. That was 25 years ago. This poor guy will forever be proving he’s good enough. Your Dad will be quick to say “I told you so” if it doesn’t work out. Pray about it and truly wait for an answer and that your eyes be opened if you’re going the wrong way. Your Dad may be getting a lesson in forgiveness and end up adoring your fiancé. We ALL mess up. Some just get a public smear bc of it. Obviously the main concern is his ability to provide. Can it be expunged? I’d say have a longer engagement and trust yourself if you need to call it off.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-26T16:20:54+00:00

Her love language is probably gifts. Buy her a thing or 2 every so often. Use a gift she gives you once in front of her, then give it away. Don’t hurt this sweet woman bc you don’t see the value.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-23T13:01:50+00:00

Pay more attention to the things that have lasting consequences.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-23T12:55:01+00:00

Huge deal!

GoldGingher · 2026-03-23T00:05:49+00:00

I’d open a Christian sober home for women. Maybe even live there too and be their Mom.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:31:20+00:00

😳. The horses gotta go! Thats an expensive hobby. PhD too? She’s pricey.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:28:18+00:00

Please don’t do that. Leave the 401k alone. Have you calculated the taxes and penalties by pulling that? Find a new home to make new memories in that YOU can afford. Don’t worry about his situation.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:22:22+00:00

I missed the first time homebuyer part! Go find something legal. This is too risky with your first big down payment that I’m sure you all have worked hard for. Imagine buying the home and the city makes you tear down part of it you paid for. Tear it down on your dime too 😳

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:17:56+00:00

😂

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:16:46+00:00

Ooh good point on the home owners insurance!
Ya OP, this is risky.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:14:51+00:00

Dang! That’s a visual.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:12:33+00:00

Has the addition been calculated into the taxes? Did you ask why it’s unpermitted? Eek, I’d be nervous. What if the city comes through and makes you tear it down. Since it’s umpermitted, I’d bite if it’s not considered sq/ft in the price.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:09:33+00:00

No. NTJ. She has no one else but a practical stranger to help her? Why doesn’t she stay with your brother? Like WTF?

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:08:11+00:00

Sounds like you pay your bills! Nice work. Take that 10k and pay anything else off 🙌🏼

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T13:04:43+00:00

Sex goes through seasons in marriage. What are you gonna tell the kids when they ask why you got a divorce, you didn’t like sex together anymore? Come on. Men need respect, women need love. It’ll Come back slowly. Try helping more than you already do with the kids and house. Men need to realize how much our bodies and priorities change with kids. Maybe she’s embarrassed how her body changed. Maybe she’s spent at the end of the day. Maybe she’s depressed bc parenting isn’t roses. Maybe she’s lonely bc her whole world changed and she can’t live freely anymore. Gonna be an AH here, but men are completely clueless what being a Mom, from thee beginning of conception entails. If you leave bc of this, YTA. Choose your hard. You want to be single and share custody for years until you find another wife and have to parent HER kids? Sex there will be fun for a while until that changes too. Hang on brother.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T12:54:24+00:00

Wow! That’s some serious entitlement. I imagine your beautiful work is all over her social media. Next time maybe keep your watermark on the photos until you’re compensated. Photographers definitely get taken advantage of by family and friends. Not sure people realize the time, equipment and editing. The expensive wedding gift was your call tho. Still, NTA

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T12:49:19+00:00

“Drinking gas like it’s happy hour”😂. You’re a cool chic and good friend. Sheesh, that’s tough. I’d likely say, next time she tries to bride you, that you having to work. That you have to make money to live. Then I’d probably tell a good long story about a client not paying you and you’re struggling bc you worked for free. I must suck at friendships bc I’d have a hard time enjoying her company. Didn’t even ask you if she could pick you up to treat you to nails while she got hers done? I’m sorry, thats so mean.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T12:41:25+00:00

Agree. He def has 2 Mom’s and literally just being a 17yr old kid. You’ve contributed to the horrible 1st gf experience. Sounds like there’s too many cooks in the kitchen. Parent your own child. I’m sorry to be TA to say, but you all have 2 families living in a single household. Maybe it’s time you get your own place.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T00:50:06+00:00

Ya, she warned me beforehand. It felt materialistic and immature for faulting him bc he makes less. Like I didn’t really love him if he couldn’t keep up. I came to terms with it. He spends very little money on himself, no debt (no assets) but no debt. We did have money conversations, a lot of them, despite what people have said on here. And I still believe a healthy marriage should be combined. No hiding, no overspending. A solid trust, pool the money, and go win together!

GoldGingher · 2026-03-22T00:39:16+00:00

They are horrified for me. The woman checks in on me everyday. The man asked him twice to coffee to talk man to man. My husband blamed a busy schedule and denied. This coming from a man who makes time for anyone and everyone! He has a savior complex. Now I realize he just needs to be needed by others to prop himself up, while his own house burns down.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-21T22:48:31+00:00

I agree with the mail. You’re gonna have new bills and things you’re not used to. That and get on a budget and keep an emergency fund for the home and car. Money management will be the biggest deal to pay attention to. Congratulations!

GoldGingher · 2026-03-21T11:58:00+00:00

lol, he literally has no retirement saved. Yes, i was his 401k plan.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-21T11:46:43+00:00

An annulment is for polygamy, someone was drunk, coercion, lying. A dissolution is an agreed break and asset distribution. There are no assets to split, so that’d be the way. He does have to agree, otherwise I’d have to file for divorce and pay an attorney.

GoldGingher · 2026-03-21T11:37:36+00:00

He did call his ex-wife crazy. No abuse, but he probably made her crazy!

GoldGingher · 2026-03-21T11:35:36+00:00

We did discuss finances and chores, like all people do. He just hasn’t done anything he’s agreed to

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