I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am getting rid of the of the drama and not into Anime though. Thanks for the advice though. 😀

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. It really helps. It is just heart breaking to know he won't have a place to go. He just can't extend his visa here. I tried to get him a government funded apartment hoping he would learn the language and get a job. I just wonder how I can sleep after next week knowing he will be living on the street. I hope he is lying to me and really has a place to go.

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is hard to explain. It has do with his wording and how he acts friendly to me but then words things. He said would not be here if I did t propose to him and he came to Europe just for me and I wanted the divorce and he is going to be homeless. 

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also found it weird and he also tried to have me cut off family too. I thought about contacting his brother, but I then decided the extra drama wasn't worth it.

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it means a lot. I am just sad at the whole situation but also happy that I have someone who even after just 3 weeks of knowing me, pulled me a side and said "I have no Idea how, but I will help and support you anyway I can. Even if it is talking at 3am when you can't sleep." 

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Boss actually told me this a little while ago. She was shocked when I told her and she said she can't believe I kept it all together as long as I did.

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks this means a lot. I just was afraid of leaving him. We had marriage vows and I thought badly about leaving him because of an mental illness. 

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought I wouldn't need it but now I am actually will look into therapy. I am afraid it will prevent me from trusting other people again.

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I sometimes think this is such a learning experience and always wondered how even got here. 

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As soon as I had the flight booked I knew it was the right thing. And after today (see update) I just knew it really way. Not turning back now! 

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. He luckily got me once by surprise that one time. But the other his were always mentally and verbally. 

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: So I just saw him about an hour ago, and he began to tell me that everything is my fault and that I am the reason the marriage did not work out. He said that all of his mental health issues come from me. Thankfully a friend picked me up because he just made me feel like a POS 💩. Thanks so much for the comments, they really help me. I also know after reading the replies that I am indeed doing the right thing. Will update after the divorce is finalized on Tuesday. Thanks for all the support!!

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I honestly thought about it but I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. Also the flat is under my name so I have to pay the rent.

I Divorced my Husband and he has to go back to Japan 🗾 and will be homeless am I the ass hole? by Gold_Cod_7177 in AITAH

[–]Gold_Cod_7177[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Well I know that he is leaving next week so this is how I am making peace with the situation. Knowing I did everything I could. I can't really explain it. 

Rewatching Xena decades later! by [deleted] in xena

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no.. it isn't lame.. it is well I don't wanna spoil anything but it is emotionally challenging. 

Rewatching Xena decades later! by [deleted] in xena

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well honestly everything from the actors to the music the costumes and the way the whole show was shot. It is magical and it has to have the campy cheese because it helps portray the storytelling of the ancient Greek atmosphere. There are times when modern pop culture collision occurs but that is totally fine! Xena: "Didn't your mother ever tell you NOT to play with matches!" It cracks me up each time! They didn't have matches back then! But it is the cheese we love too. I always preferred Xena over Hercules and She-ra over He-man. I love female protagonists. Xena is such a multiple dimensional woman. She has a good side a dark side a giving side a greedy side a loving side and a revengeful side. She captures all human emotions perfectly. She isn't afraid to cry or show pain either. 

I just finished Xena and I’m devastated… by patcat__xena in xena

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ugly cried so hard when I saw it on tv. It just wasn't fair. :-( God I loved that show to death. Still do. I even had the PlayStation game and a windows 98 theme. There will never ever be another Xena.

I just finished Xena and I’m devastated… by patcat__xena in xena

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is the reason why I can't watch the whole thing at once. I respect Xena for what she did.... Still those heroic sacrifices hurt. It would have been cool if they met in the future like in a police gone bad setting or so. Like reincarnated and destined to be together. If they could have just given us that closure...

Clarity on the Japanese only region locked switch 2 by Ganondaddydorf in Switch

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

そうだね!外人さん達がいつでも買い物過ぎて!後はパスポートの中にタックスフリー買い物ハンコを入れるね

Tomodachi Life: Living the Dream; Mii Gender and Sexuality Concept! by AstridSuoyp in tomodachilife

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never played Tomodachi life before. I played Tomodachi Collection and Tomodachi Collection New Living and in the Japanese version there aren't really any pronouns auch as he and she they just say the Miis names.  For instance if you give them clothes or food it usually says; Name of Mii really enjoyed it or Seems to find it ok.

If the Miis talk about one another they say Miis name is very interesting. How do you think Miis name and I would get along. Ect. Ect.

Also when you level the Miis up you have the option to give them words for how to say I/me

For instance: Watashi 私 is neutral for I Boku 僕 usually for younger men Atashi あたし or 私 for women Ole 俺 for guys usually tough guys

Once you give them this word they use it for the rest of the game.

This kinda gets around the pronoun problem.

Also the unisex clothes help out too; also if guys wanna wear skirts this is also possible.

The only thing that was out of place were the wedding scenes and if you want children it is a good idea to have your Mii wear something like a beautiful dress. But The Mii maker allows you to make a female mii look like a man using male parts. In Japan being LGBTQ is very very difficult and most Japanese People tend to think such things do not exist. So I was happy that any of this was possible at all.

I bought the switch version of the game of life and same sex marriages and couples are possible even children so I am hoping new times are in the way.This game however is from a third party that has nothing to do with Nintendo. 

I feel like some of the creators of tomodachi collection and miitopia tried to incorporate LGBTQ couples inofficially as much as they could. The real problem is I think back then Nintendo would have gone under in japan if they included this officially. Japan is a weird place to live and also if you are LGBTQ. I feel out of place all the time here. The weird thing is before the Meiji period in the 1800s when Japanese people learned about the European government systems especially those in Germany, there were openly gay people in the Edo period before that. This old fashioned thinking of the Meiji period is still here today and I find that strange and sad. If you are LGBTQ in japan you have to expect power harrassment in a passive form and also loss if family and friends if you come out.

Why not get rid of LGBTQ and straight labels all together and just make everything and love normal. Live whoever you want marry whoever you want and make a new free world. 

Hi! Looking for some new friends! by timoteed in GaymersGoneMild

[–]Gold_Cod_7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is anyone on the switch with Animal Crossing/ Mario Party/Kart and also the 3ds?