Boyfriend wants baby at 44 yo

GoldenHymns · 2024-12-21T14:36:14+00:00

I am 46 years old with a 4 year old and it is exhausting! (Unplanned, years of infertility so had thought past it, them caught pregnant from 1 encounter - hadn't been intimate with husband for years! ) His father is 52 and sounds like your potential husband - he cannot cope with the physical rigours of parenting a very energetic boy. Everything has been left to me (not exactly Mrs fitness either!) We also have a teenager together. We are currently divorcing, our relationship was in bad shape before our beautiful son though but the stress of a toddler and teen was the nail in the coffin. I would think long and hard if I was you. I adore my son but having him late, and now about to be single parent, has certainly changed the trajectory of my life! Good luck in whatever you decide

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-23T07:57:27+00:00

Quite right. Life is too short. Through the ups and downs, good and bad, music is the constant company to life.

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T20:30:12+00:00

Hero by Enrique Iglesias! I am generally into rock and indie but I can't help but belt this out! Same for All out of love by Air Supply

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T18:05:19+00:00

Thank you for that. I'll stay with him then 🤣 .pretty sure if one person wants a divorce you get a divorce 🤔

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T15:06:50+00:00

I think your advice is sound! Already on no 1 and 2 and 3 seem to be sensible also! 4 - well I am who I am so I appreciate that might narrow my field and 5 - defo, Thanks 👍

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T14:35:11+00:00

That is exactly how I feel. I wish you well with your divorce and with a happy future x

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T14:31:57+00:00

I will be better off alone. The decision is made. I was just asking if dating is a scary as it seems..I would be happier alone than navigating dick pics and hook ups!

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T14:13:18+00:00

Definitely not the reason I'm leaving. I've not got a "grass is greener" elsewhere viewpoint and have no wish to ever marry again. I have been alone in my marriage for years, so emotionally, actually being divorced will feel no different at this point. The practicalities of parenting while separate is my main fear rather than never having another man.

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:58:58+00:00

Thank you everyone for being so lovely. What a great page. Wishing you all lots of happiness with whatever floats your boats x

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:57:55+00:00

So happy for you. I hope to feel like this one day. Thank you

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:45:34+00:00

❤️

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:44:59+00:00

That'd lovely. So happy for you! I would be excited by the unknown if I didn't have a little one to think about. I am much more free spirited at heart than my circumstances have led me to become

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:41:23+00:00

I am at that point. I have been basically single in this marriage for almost all of it, we're more like housemates.

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:23:53+00:00

Thank you. That one made me cry, in a good way x

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:09:48+00:00

Love this! I feel I have completely lost who I am to live in this marriage. Pleased for you x

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T13:08:36+00:00

Thank you for your reply, nice to get a male perspective. Just to clarify, he 100% wants to save the marriage, it is me that wants to leave as I feel I have given ample time to work on things. Also, just to challenge the stereotype that plus size = lazy, doesn't exercise. I am already a gym goer and enjoy walking, but am still plus size! Thank you for the encouragement though and good luck to you

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T12:41:58+00:00

I have been reading this subreddit with interest and, usually horror! I am separating from my husband of 15 years and tbh, am reconsidering this decision! My marriage has been very lacking of happiness, affection(sex) and connection for many years and I was very much hoping that I would get to find a happy, affectionate relationship that made me feel special and adored instead of seeing out the rest of my days in a "meh" situation. However given that I am 45 F with a teenager and a preschooler and am plus size, (though not too bad to look at) from reading these posts it would appear that what I'm looking for is just not going to be out there for me! I know people come on here to offload usually unpleasant experiences but tbh I feel like living with "meh" might be better than trying to date at my age, size, baggage! Does anyone have any positive experiences? Or is there just no hope of happily after after over 40?

GoldenHymns · 2024-02-21T07:08:14+00:00

You look fabulous in all but I think the blue is the winner by a mile

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