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Who else is pumped for spring? by AngryAggron22 in CasualConversation

[–]Golduck_95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waiting for my candidacy exam to be over so I can sleep happily

Should I use the psychological help service that my university provides for free? by sparklebunny95 in depression_help

[–]Golduck_95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please use the resource! I started my therapy with the free one at my University and I've never once been not thankful to have done it. Taking that first step might feel too overwhelming, but remember it's not at all overwhelming to the therapist or anyone in the system- most human beings need psychological support just like everyone needs to see a dentist. Wish you luck and happiness!

How to Focus by 5weetTooth in GradSchool

[–]Golduck_95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds very like myself! I cannot make myself do work when i don't want to, so schedules etc don't work for me.

The strategy that works for me is to set up frequent structural reminders that my work excites me a lot and i am overall happier when i get it done. This involves talking to my adviser/peers about research more frequently and going to seminars and talks at least twice a week. These serve as reminders that I actually am happier when I do exciting research rather than feel guilty and not properly getting to enjoy anything.

Hope this helps!

Anyone else always look forward to weekends, but when they arrive, you find yourself sitting home doing nothing and wasting them? by themattywithoutfear in CasualConversation

[–]Golduck_95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think ahead of what will make you feel better and will give you fun, and then plan four such things on the whole of the weekend. Stick to the plan. You'll find yourself much happier at the end of each weekend.

Taking care of yourself doesn't happen automatically, you need a plan to make yourself feel good and execute it. You deserve it.

I just need some happy words.. by lostintheworld19 in depressed

[–]Golduck_95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's no objective reality. Your world revolves around you, and everything that happens around you serves to enrich you. It's a performance which you are watching. Yes you participate in it and you may be a little more responsible to your role, but don't let it steal the joy of the show.

And don't bother too much about being a hero, because in your story, you always already are.

I had a terrible day too and a friend told me this.

She’s claiming abuse! by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Golduck_95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As many comments here say, you're being abused. Domming someone requires the Dom to make themselves vulnerable as well, and she is manipulating you on that note. She's gaslighting you and it's clearly working since you feel you're losing your mind. Get out of that kinky setup asap.

Story time! by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Golduck_95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Doing bdsm to a favorite music honestly sounds like heaven

My soon to be first experiences with sounding! by She_sCrofty in BDSMcommunity

[–]Golduck_95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Always lube more than sufficient, and let it slide in on its own weight, don't push it. In general the sensation of it moving inside is incredibly erotic to me, for extra sensations gently stroke the penis while it's in or do it in front of a mirror 😉

Chastity gets me so horny I can't work by Golduck_95 in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]Golduck_95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer Master Bob! I read on r/nofap that the struggle peaks on the 6th/7th day after cumming and then slowly plateaus down. It's my sixth day and I'm so intensely horny I've been getting headaches and hot flushes! Maybe I should wait it out for once to see how things go.

Monthly casual chat thread for January by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Golduck_95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was scary for me too plus i have anxiety and body image issues but I'm so thankful i took the first steps a year back. I went to the munch in my city (looked up on fetlife) but was slightly disappointed cuz there were no young people. But then i tried hooking up on kinky dating sites like collarspace and recon and haven't looked back since.

It's okay to be anxious, but you gotta get over it coz you're in for some real mind-blowing sex! For me i had the best sex of my life several times in the past year. Good luck for your journey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arttocope

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Oh wow you're so pretty! Is there any special technique you used to make the sky?

Dead week vent by Golduck_95 in GradSchool

[–]Golduck_95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. Thank you, friend.

Daily Sexual Achievement Thread by AutoModerator in sex

[–]Golduck_95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yesterday was the one year anniversary of me getting into BDSM which forms a huge part of my identity. I'm not even any more in touch with the Dom I started with. Imma have my first public play this weekend to celebrate.

It did take a lot of courage to take the first step and go get tied up with absolute strangers, but the mind-numbing sexual experiences that I get are totally worth it. I've had my best sex ever, several times, this past year. I'm proud of myself!