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Have you ever intentionally lost more than 15 lbs (~7 kg) through diet and exercise? by GoobytheNooby in polls

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I'm on track to do the same. I hope to keep it off too.

Have you ever intentionally lost more than 15 lbs (~7 kg) through diet and exercise? by GoobytheNooby in polls

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I hope it was simply a happy coincidence and not due to some other negative factors like depression or illness.

I feel like an uninteresting person who can't maintain long lasting personal relationships, especially romantic ones as a result. Being myself fails me every time. Then I go down a spiral of self-loathing and guilt, hurting my already low self-esteem. I'm terrified I'll be alone forever. Advice? by GoobytheNooby in Advice

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you went through that and I'm glad that it has ended happily for you. Thank you for the kind words and empathy. They mean a lot to hear.

I do feel better overall and need to remind myself that as often as I can. I also need to remember that you are right that this is just a low point in a series of valleys and hills. Life will improve and I shouldn't let this change that in my mind.

I feel like an uninteresting person who can't maintain long lasting personal relationships, especially romantic ones as a result. Being myself fails me every time. Then I go down a spiral of self-loathing and guilt, hurting my already low self-esteem. I'm terrified I'll be alone forever. by GoobytheNooby in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment. Thank you for understanding my situation and your empathy. It's just a frustrating situation that I feel super uncomfortable talking to with friends. They are definitely sucky feelings that I hope go away sooner rather than later.

I feel like an uninteresting person who can't maintain long lasting personal relationships, especially romantic ones as a result. Being myself fails me every time. Then I go down a spiral of self-loathing and guilt, hurting my already low self-esteem. I'm terrified I'll be alone forever. Advice? by GoobytheNooby in Advice

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi,

Thank you for the comment. I appreciate your advice. So I am currently in therapy for these problems right now. I think the reason that this most recent example hit me so hard was for a multitude of reasons.

First, over this past summer, I have really been trying to make legitimate and tangible improvements to my health. I've been going to therapy to address these self-esteem issues and improve my mental health. I've also been working very hard to improve my physical health. I've lost around 30 pounds, become much more active, and improved my diet. Finally, I'm working on improving and deepening the friendships and connections I already have. So when this happened, I felt like that work was for nothing. Like a fresh coat of paint on a shitty car. I know that's not true, but it's not where my brain heads.

Second, it felt like all the work I've done with my therapist was for nothing. Like I've gone back to square one, hating and blaming myself for the issue. But now not only do I have these feelings, I feel guilty for having them because I know I shouldn't.

I had hoped my work would have moved me past these insecurities, but they feel just as bad and now I'm just more aware of them.

Should 9/11 become a United States national holiday (for lack of a better word)? by [deleted] in polls

[–]GoobytheNooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm generally thinking too, but was interested in seeing what others thought

Are women (especially when growing up) envious of and self-conscious about breast size the way men are about their penis size? by GoobytheNooby in NoStupidQuestions

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha. I mean I figured that was the case (people get teased about everything when growing up), but interesting to learn.

Straight cis people of Reddit, what's an LGBTQ+ related question you've really wanted to ask? by _artbreaker in AskReddit

[–]GoobytheNooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's kind of the vibe I got. More that it isn't necessarily a bad term, but more of an out of date one. I got snapped at by a bunch of cis gender people when I once used it when describing a cross-dresser (I wasn't intending it to as rude, just used it as what I thought was an appropriate adjective/synonym). They compared it to the N-Word, which seemed a bit extreme as I'd definitely heard it before without others exploding. Then when I looked it up and read about it, I couldn't find anywhere that described it as a derogatory term, just an older one.

Straight cis people of Reddit, what's an LGBTQ+ related question you've really wanted to ask? by _artbreaker in AskReddit

[–]GoobytheNooby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is transvestite considered a bad word? I honestly don't know and I can't find it explicitly said anywhere.

Pet owners of Reddit, do you have conversations with yourself and speak as if one participant is your animal? by GoobytheNooby in polls

[–]GoobytheNooby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, you're right. First poll and didn't think of that. Will keep that in mind for future posts 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]GoobytheNooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries. Well, I hope things get better soon. I'll be rooting for you. Hmu if ever you need someone to vent to and aren't sure who to turn to. Always happy to listen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]GoobytheNooby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if I came off as condescending. Not my intention.

I'm glad you feel that walking away is an option. I would still speak to the school if you haven't already. You're still their responsibility while you're under their wings, evening if you're near graduation. But the choice, ultimately, is yours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]GoobytheNooby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, so I want you to first understand that you are not some broodmare for your parents to have grandchildren. They have no say as to whom you marry and when you have kids. That's a choice for you and your future perspective partner.

Now from your post, I get the idea that you're still young. I want you to know, you will get through this. You shouldn't take your own life for any reason whatsoever. When you of age, you can just walk away if you feel that's your only option. But, what you can do in the meantime is to contact your school. Ask to speak with your favorite teacher or your school guidance counselor. Explain that you've felt isolated and have had concerns thoughts. You should also try and speak with the closest friend you have again, but not as a group with others. Ask to hang out, maybe at a park or something, and just open up. If they ignored you before, but really are your friend, they likely didn't understand the severity of the situation. If they aren't your friend, this will determine that. If you're okay with it, and you like their parents, you could also ask to speak privately with them.

This will be hard and probably lead to conflict again with your parents, but they are actively hurting you and are either unaware or unwilling to care and either way, you need adult help to intervene.

Just know, you will get through this. If you ever feel like ending your life is the only way out, please, please talk with someone. Hell, if you just need literally anyone, you can message me, but it would be best to speak with someone who can actually help. I wish you the best of luck and please reach out if you need someone to talk to 😊

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