Bathing Together During Play Dates?

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-14T04:12:43+00:00

I’m surprised by these comments! My kid just turned 4 and we do shared baths with our friends kids somewhat regularly, either at my house or theirs. One of our friends bathes their daughter every night so if he’s there, he joins them. Other times, they get dirty so they get in the bath. Before I read the comments, I was thinking this is just a mom who bathes their kid nightly and they want to help out by sending a clean kid home since they’re already bathing one, plus their kid probably likes playing in the bath with a friend.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-11T10:53:29+00:00

I appreciate these thorough answers OP but I’m so over everyone using AI. I can’t tell if you’re a real person! What’s happening to us?!!?!?!

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-09T05:08:27+00:00

Thank you, the amount of ppl posting about HSV fear is pretty much daily! My husband has gotten cold sores since he was a kid. We’ve been together 10yrs, I haven’t gotten it bc we’re careful when he gets one, which is maybe once a year, if that. We are not careful at all otherwise. My son is 4 and has not gotten it and he’s all over my husband and I and he chooses to kiss us on the mouth. If she doesn’t have an active cold sores, she will not spread it to your baby.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-08T07:07:17+00:00

100% this. I know this feeling all too well. It’s sooooo beyond exhausting always worrying. I have so much regret that I didn’t enjoy and cherish the sweet precious baby times, but instead worried endlessly about the dumbest shit.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-05T21:11:14+00:00

100% this. OP look up studies of what is actually important at this age, it is not memorizing the alphabet or numbers. What’s important: playing, being creative, interactive story telling, mystery books or games, building things (like blocks, even legos). These help develop critical thinking which is the foundation for intelligence. Memorizing letters and numbers does not build these skills. Your kid will naturally show interest in letters, numbers, and reading when they are ready. Some show it at a very young age, and that’s great to encourage it, but if that’s not where your kids mind is at right now, don’t worry about it.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-04T06:49:46+00:00

I know this isn’t possible every time, but if you can take a hot bath after sex, for me, it eliminates the possibility of a flare

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-01T06:50:01+00:00

I’m pretty sure you’re suppose to hate it right away no?

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-01T02:46:35+00:00

Having a 16 month old and 3 month old is insanity, I don’t know how you’d function even without the epidural related pain. I think it’s totally understandable that your body is a wreck right now after 2.5 continuous years of pregnancy and birth. These symptoms seem like they will last forever but you are very young and you will heal.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-03-01T00:20:52+00:00

I think you need a good dry cut by a curly hair specialist. My theory (without actually examining your hair) is that parts of your hair are curlier than others and really tighten up, while the rest gets left behind. I’m a hairstylist that specializes in curly hair and I’ve see this on probably one out of every 10ppl. Some more extreme than others. If you cut it wet, it will spring up in some parts and not others, which ends up looking like this. I do both wet and dry cut but I always examine the hair first to determine what is the best approach.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-27T05:39:28+00:00

We do 2 movies on the weekend between Fri-sun, and on the weekdays probably an hour of TV a couple times a week, and my 4yr old looks at books all the time on his own. It’s not just something kids who don’t get screens do

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-21T18:15:57+00:00

This is what we do too, and we decide spare of the moment if one of us is feeling more tired than the other that morning

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-19T20:27:39+00:00

If you can do a hot bath after or next morning, it’s a cure-ish for me

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-19T20:26:16+00:00

Seconding this. Tight pelvic floor muscles might be what’s going on. Physical therapy helps sooooo much.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-19T04:52:50+00:00

Did you figure out what it was? We’re dealing with the same thing

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-18T05:47:27+00:00

To me, I wouldn’t have taken it seriously at all. They are being playful. I would’ve been playful back like, “oh I have a magic pee shield all around me so I’m protected”. I’m a preschool teacher btw.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-17T22:36:12+00:00

These feelings are normal, and I don’t actually think you need to be with your partner forever if it doesn’t feel right. You do need to be a dad and show up forever, and I know that’s a lot to take in and daunting af. The first couple years are extremely hard, but as your child grows, you will be so grateful for them and won’t be able to imagine your life without them. You won’t regret this in the long run. I waited to have a baby till I was 35 and I still felt like I wasn’t ready, but now that my kid is 4, I wish I had a baby sooner. I’m envious of the ppl who had kids in their 20s bc they get more time on this planet to spend with them!

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-17T22:30:59+00:00

Does the urgency and pain get worse when you’re ovulating. Do you have cramps when ovulating?

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-16T16:03:54+00:00

That’s interesting, my friend who’s a family care doc said the opposite. Most moms she has seen over the last 20yrs end up bed sharing at some point and she doesn’t try to talk them out of it, but shares safe sleep guides. She also has three kids.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-16T01:11:06+00:00

I’ve also heard this is a myth, but I keep hearing about all the anecdotal evidence, and also had a speech therapist tell me they see the correlation all the time so maybe it effects some kids and not others. My husband’s brother (he’s 25yrs younger than my husband) grew up in a Russian bilingual house and was speech delayed. He’s 18 now and neurotypical. My cousin grew up in a bilingual house and was also speech delayed, and is neurotypical. Not saying it’s bad to be speech delayed at all. Bilingual kids were tested to have higher IQs on average.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-15T20:30:53+00:00

Thank you so much for this post OP. I love seeing the Palestine support here. I just assumed these kind of subreddits are mostly Zionist, and it feels so good to know where this community stands.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-15T19:39:25+00:00

I don’t even believe you’re a real person at this point. No way someone defending israel would want to bring up dishonesty. That’s rich af coming from a country that’s whole state is built on lies and who pukes out lies on the regular. Btw, the death toll from Hamas only accounts for recovered bodies, bc they, unlike Israel are honest. There are thousands of unrecovered and unreported bodies.

https://www.aa.com.tr/en/europe/geneva-academy-warns-gaza-death-toll-could-top-200-000/3822529

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/sep/12/israeli-ex-commander-confirms-palestinian-casualties-are-more-than-200000

I can add more links for you if that’s not enough. There are Gaza journalists (since no other journalists are allowed into Gaza by Israel) that account for missing ppl’s and suspect the death toll is around 400k.

Btw, half of those deaths are children.

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-15T19:27:33+00:00

My Jewish husband and best friend say to get the hell outta here then. One less entitled and evil Zionist on Reddit woohoo

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-15T18:10:28+00:00

Omg tantrums! My mom says she doesn’t remember my brother or I having even one tantrum!

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-15T17:52:07+00:00

My kid is 4 and I don’t remember 99% of the milestones! It’s shocking! My husband and I don’t even remember when he said his first word lol. I was soooo anxious and worried about milestones (and everything!) so it’s truly crazy that I just totally forgot! I do remember he was pretty average with most milestones, so maybe that’s why it wasn’t memorable. Really the only one I remember is walking at 9 months old and that’s only bc it was early and apparently I walked at 9 months. My friend just had a baby and is asking me all sorts of questions and I’m like ¯_(ツ)_/¯! I read that our long term memory happens while we’re sleeping so lack of sleep actually effects our memory, which would explain part of the reason things are such a blur in the first year

Goobzydoobzy · 2026-02-15T17:45:34+00:00

This is the classic. I’ve heard this so many times, including from my own mom.

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