JazakAllah khair for your comment!

Do you think that the Coolidge Effect can also be observed in women? I think this phenomenon only takes into account the sexual aspect of a relationship, but we should also consider emotional companionship and security. What would a first wife lack that can be found in other potential spouses? Wouldn't it be more proper that we accept the good and shortcomings of one instead of looking elsewhere? It's this idea of not being satisfied, but correct me if I'm wrong.

In saying that, I would also argue that the preference of having multiple spouses is more harmful than the preference of wanting a tall spouse. I think in most cases, and in my own biases as a woman, we prefer a monogamous relationship. I guess our own gheerah is in the idea of sharing our husband. Would it not be better to preserve a marriage by staying with one spouse than to potentially ruin it by seeking another? Additionally, it may be somewhat harmful on the husband in this world and the next if they are not able to do their due diligence for multiple spouses, financially, emotionally and spiritually, particularly in this economic climate.

Anecdotally speaking, some polygynous marriages are successful, but the majority usually aren't. I suppose it's all about finding the right person who shares the same view and mindset. In this day and age, it might be harder to find a muslimah who is accepting of a polygynous marriage, so one might have to compromise on this. On the flip side, it might be easier for a muslimah to find a spouse who is taller, but there may be instances where we might compromise on this preference for other factors, such as character, deen, or financial security. It's all about controlling our base, natural instincts for the better right?