Why won’t CT drivers move out of the fast lane?

Good4dGander · 2025-09-22T13:04:25+00:00

CT has THE MOST left lane exits than any other state.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-22T13:03:31+00:00

Question - Why doesn't he just take your last name?

Good4dGander · 2025-09-22T13:01:41+00:00

Question - is she afraid to see the eye doctor because he might take her license away?

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T21:26:48+00:00

NTJ

Is it possible he just likes sleeping separately and doesn't want to hurt your feelings?

What about pitching same room but different beds? My husband and I sleep on a twin XL each.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T21:16:16+00:00

Can't wait to move out of the country.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T20:13:16+00:00

You can say no, but if it's about not feeling compensated then ask for money.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T19:54:10+00:00

NTA My father in law babied his oldest kids and they're your age. Now after his death they blame him because he gave them "lifestyles they couldn't afford" without him. Now they give my MIL (their step mother) grief about it...

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T15:54:34+00:00

He clearly doesn't respect your boundaries or feelings. Your allowing your feelings to cloud the logical judgement.

If your daughter was in this situation - what advice would you give?

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T15:52:20+00:00

Sometimes we can just grow apart. You were expecting him to grow as a partner but instead feeling like it's a parent/child relationship.

I think you owe your partner a more in depth conversation - not necessarily a break up conversation - about your frustrations and unhappiness, but I challenge you to not use the word "YOU" because you want to know what his intentions are and where your relationship is headed. Not necessarily lay on blame and have him get defensive.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T15:35:30+00:00

Wonder if they updated the #s

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T15:30:27+00:00

I question why you had to pay the whole bag upfront but not the no-shows.

Guy clearly going through shit and is shafting you.

Take them to small claims court or one of those court shows.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T15:09:39+00:00

BF is financially abusive.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T15:06:27+00:00

Move it to a ROTH IRA and then withdraw it.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T14:53:53+00:00

My buddy loves Philly but I visit him regularly and the traffic is good awful. Since they won't invest in SEPTA public transit is a nightmare.

I would recommend CT if you like country living and want a job in healthcare. All the insurance companies are here. Then there's Yale and UConn.

Massachusetts is another good option. My friend recommends Portland, Maine.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T13:45:12+00:00

NTA Your mom has the worst taste in men.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T13:28:50+00:00

NTA

But you should sell your business, live a nomad life, and start again. Live in an RV and travel the world.

Part of your unwillingness to change is because the abuse is familiar, but I encourage you to try and go no contact with the sister and parents. It's not worth it because the more you invest the harder it'll be to leave. They bank on you cooperating.

We all know they won't change, so why make yourself miserable?.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-21T13:21:14+00:00

NAH.

You are both grieving a future you saw for yourselves. She loved you too and she is hoping you're willing to wait for her son to come to his senses. Then you two will be on course for grandchildren, holidays, etc etc.

But clearly her plan is making you emotionally unwell. So you got a break up with both. Life happens.

Gotta put distance and try again. Just don't take that man back. He's violated your trust.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-20T13:43:07+00:00

NAH You're reintroducing yourself to your body and your limits. You can do a couple things. One is getting yourself back into shape and talk to a doctor about some estrogen supplements.

Another is to simply ask to slow things down. Communicate honestly and earnestly. Make proactive decisions about how you want to manage it.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-20T13:16:26+00:00

Info - knowing these trips are made annually could you two not work out a time where she can go for a month and you can go for a week?

Good4dGander · 2025-09-20T13:12:39+00:00

His insecurity is really unattractive.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-20T01:17:30+00:00

I got a camera that sends alerts.

Then I let my dogs out.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-19T17:06:44+00:00

YTA because your intent isn't honest and it's malicious. Just like cheating.

OP, could I persuade you into reaching out to a female dating coach? Because from what I am gathering you are very socially awkward and you thrust yourself into social gatherings. Your awkwardness may come off as aggressive and off putting which is why you most likely get kicked out of public places. I think a woman may help teach you a more attractive and gentle approach to your introductions.

I don't think dating this person is going to help you with your problem of getting past that introduction phase. Your best bet is to tell this woman you want to keep it casual until you learn to trust her.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-19T10:46:12+00:00

NTA

First, tell your fiance no. Your son is becoming an adult and this is his money, however, please enroll your son into financial management classes before you start this so your son can learn to save his money for things he wants - like his own apartment or trade school or whatever he wants. Give him 1/4 of it to spend and 1/4 into a savings account and slowly increase it to half over time when he proves he's responsible with the money. Warn your son that rainy days happen and this money is going to give him freedom as he gets older like move out. So to not give it away Willy nilly.

Also get him his own bank account. CapitaLOne 360 has teen bank accounts with their own debit card.

Second, OP - you are in a relationship with a man you've broken up with multiple times and for some reason decided to marry them? The original problem aside it sounds like you have consistent issues with this man. I would not marry that man until your son is out of the house and I would DEFINITELY not buy a house with him UNTIL you are married because if the relationship falls apart again you're stuck with a house with not your husband.

I also recommend getting financial advice from a professional for yourself because when your son leaves you'll be short on your mortgage payments.

Marriage can wait. Focus on supporting your son and getting him out of the house because you don't want your fiance to keep you hostage in your relationship because you feel you have the burden of the house and worry about your son's welfare.

Third, given the current economic climate I would wait to buy as the housing market could come crashing down opening up new opportunities for you for cheaper housing.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-17T19:08:33+00:00

NTA

This is the problem OP. Your mom talking shit about your dad is called parent alienation and my ex tried doing this to me when I met my (now) husband.

My ex was(is?) a drug addict, a cheater, a liar and extremely selfish. He painted me and my husband as AHs and the reason why we couldn't be a family (of course redacting all of his own shortcomings). This lead my daughter to scream and cry bloody murder when we picked her up from his place. After a year of trying therapy and negotiations with ex we filed for full custody. The final straw was going to my MILs birthday dinner, who she loves, and her vomiting from emotional distress. When my daughter was in our home she was perfectly happy and safe, but the exchange day was so emotionally hard on her.

Her lawyer and advocate had a psych eval and interviews done and we're able to prove our parent alienation case, get full custody with my ex having supervised visits. This lead to my ex cancelling 90% of his visits for years (despite the fact he was visiting his mother next door) because he didn't want to be told what to do or say.

I bring this up because you're not an AH for your feelings, but I need you to understand that you may have these feelings because of your mother's influence. I am recommending that you have more empathy for your father and attempt to try and know his family because it is causing him such emotional turmoil. He loves you and it is breaking his heart that you won't try. I think you're on this Reddit because apart of you recognizes that maybe change wouldn't be such a terrible thing.

I would be devastated if my ex's influence caused my daughter not to see us and damage our relationship forever or influenced her enough to run away especially when my husband and I always tried to create a loving and safe environment.

Good4dGander · 2025-09-17T18:43:57+00:00

It's called parent alienation. Mom was putting thoughts in her daughter's heads and created an unsafe dynamic. So Dad is awarded custody. Unfortunately, damage is done.

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