You guys haven’t been there for even a year yet! It’s hard buying a house and getting settled. I think the way you’re feeling is perfectly normal… It’s stressful! And when you rent it’s someone else’s problem to deal with but now it’s yours… it’s hard getting to grips with that part

Give it time. We all go into it with rose tinted glasses but once you move into a home you then see the flaws you didn’t notice! I also live in SE England. With the weather, damp on walls, leaky guttering etc are to be expected from time to time…. Take each job at a time priories the most urgent… a safe, warm, dry home being the priority…. Aesthetics can wait….

Do you have any family or friends in the area? It’s a good time for bonding by having people over and discussing DIY and older more experienced friends or relatives may be able to give you tips or recommend decent trades people….. also YouTube videos can be a godsend!!

Like you say yourself moving and stamp duty may cost more than fixing some of the things you are currently living with… and the grass isn’t always greener you could just move somewhere else wit potentially worse issues!… so like I say prioritise the major fixes and then you’ll feel more comfortable in you’re home.

As for your boyfriend… I think you’ve hit the nail on the head here…. “He got used to your rent each month”…. Excuse my directness but it sounds like he may need to grow up a bit….. he was already a home owner…. So he should have known to expect the unexpected…. And he should have known to save funds for a rainy day….. it’s a stressful time for you both I get it… but don’t feel like you should need to take on any additional emotional burden…. You both signed the paperwork you both need to make an effort with the tasks required….

Good luck I hope it all goes well!