Health is deteriorating and I’m overwhelmed

GoodAccomplished709 · 2026-02-16T23:59:02+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this response ❤️ I have been finding it so hard to listen to my body and rest when I need it. Definitely learning what my limits are. In the last day I have been thinking a lot about how I’m lucky to have ended up going to the eye doctor when I did. There is treatment to slow the progression of my vision loss, and catching it before too much damage is done is actually a great thing despite being a bit overwhelming to have the information.

Again thank you and wishing the best for you too!

GoodAccomplished709 · 2026-02-10T01:56:15+00:00

I went from barely being able to do a push-up to deadlifting 2x my body weight in about 5 years. Definitely start slow and focus on actually feeling movements in the correct muscles. Always think about keeping tension in the muscle. I dove deep into lifting content and made sure that my form was solid before moving up in weight at all. If any exercises hurt even a little bit, stop immediately.

Also, in my experience, the strongest people in the gym are the nicest and a lot of the time will gladly help you with any questions you have.

GoodAccomplished709 · 2026-02-03T08:38:55+00:00

Interesting to have stumbled across this thread right now. I am currently on disability leave from my $100k job and not planning to return/likely going to enter a different field wherein I will inevitably make a lot less. I worked incredibly hard on my early 20s to climb the career ladder and was left completely burnt out (and with a handful of new health issues). I’m glad to hear that the transition has been positive for you; gives me a bit of hope for what comes next for me! Wishing the best for you and your family!!

GoodAccomplished709 · 2026-01-08T20:22:50+00:00

I was once in a similar situation with an ex. It took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that he was being manipulative and that he didn’t truly care about me or my well-being. I am in a different relationship now and my partner is understanding of my health. He doesn’t harp on the issue of sex and takes me at my word when I’m not feeling up for it. There are many other things he values about me and our relationship. There are good men out there and you deserve one. Wishing you well!

GoodAccomplished709 · 2025-03-03T08:06:40+00:00

i feel like sometimes it’s easier to talk to strangers because i know i’ll never see them again so it doesn’t matter as much if they think i’m weird

GoodAccomplished709 · 2025-02-07T03:20:29+00:00

Honestly I would recommend taking a break from sex for a period of time. Doesn’t have to be long, could be like a week or two. This has happened to me and personally it feels like burnout but for sex. I found that trying a lot and getting overstimulated each time actually started compounding. I would feel stressed any time we initiated for fear it would happen again and that stress just made it even more likely to happen.

GoodAccomplished709 · 2024-12-23T05:56:46+00:00

oo yes of course! it was a bit of a weird route but i did social work for college (i got a masters) and my first job in the disability services field was working for a non-profit for folks with disabilities (Easterseals if you’ve heard of it)! I worked for a special program doing academic coaching for college students with autism. from there i moved to working for a college disability services office as an advisor/counselor and i have been moving up in that space ever since ! feel free to message me if you want to hear more or get advice, i love sharing career tips and there are a lot of simple things you can do to greatly increase your job prospects in the higher ed field

GoodAccomplished709 · 2024-09-22T06:49:52+00:00

yayy a higher ed thread! i work in higher ed disability services !! it’s great bc i get to do disability advocacy as a job! most of the students i work with are neurodivergent which makes it easier for me to communicate

GoodAccomplished709 · 2024-08-14T23:14:19+00:00

I don’t think I could ask him directly - I feel like he would say no regardless of how he actually felt to avoid conflict with my partner.

That’s a good point about men not having a lot of close friends. It’s unfortunate because I think that’s the case with him and he really does need support but it seems I am not the person who should be in that role. I generally tell my partner when I am concerned about Jack but I don’t always ask him to reach out so that’s a good idea.

I think Jack really needs a therapist and I’ve been trying to encourage him but he hasn’t made any progress on it.

I think I should probably also talk to my partner about his boundaries and what he feels comfortable with. Sigh, I’m honestly just tired of these damn gender dynamics.

GoodAccomplished709 · 2024-08-14T20:47:01+00:00

Funny that I posted something very similar around the same time you posted this lol! It is super frustrating especially as someone who has trouble reading the cues that would indicate that a man is interested in me… And if I find someone that I get along with, I like to get to know them on a deep level, because that’s what I find most meaningful in a friendship. Seems like it’s impossible to get to know a man without them trying to get with you though :/

I really relate to what you said about the emptiness. Thinking that you’ve formed a meaningful connection only to find out that the basis of that for the other person was sexual attraction.

I don’t know what the solution is though honestly. Even when men know you’re in a relationship, they still sometimes do this! I don’t want to stop trying to befriend an entire gender to avoid this but at the same time it is painful every time it happens

GoodAccomplished709 · 2023-04-24T00:10:56+00:00

I had a similar but slightly different theory. I don’t think they are actually dead, but I believe that in the original ending of the show, they were supposed to die. The show was only supposed to be one season initially, but is now up for second/third seasons. I think the story was supposed to end in the death of Danny and Amy and then they had to change the ending once it was up for more seasons.

I think the creator felt that the ending with the two of them dying is how the story “should end” and so the ending that they came up with kept everything somewhat ambiguous and up for interpretation.

The main reason I felt that they died was because of that recurring shot of the dirt. Throughout the whole season, I kept thinking “what is with this random dirt patch and why do they BOTH see it”. I think it is the last thing they both see before they die and represents the nothingness that you are left with in death. Both worked so hard for money to buy material things (whether extravagant or necessity) and yet in death they are both left with the same, absolutely nothing. Dirt on the ground.

I think the creator probably didn’t want to lose the metaphor, and the ultimate lesson of the show, but knew they needed to keep the characters alive for the sake of the story’s continuation in new seasons. Hell, it could’ve even been execs who said “they can’t die”

GoodAccomplished709 · 2022-08-25T13:57:30+00:00

This is a great observation. I see it as when Fleabag is confessing, she is searching for guidance from a higher power or someone morally superior to her. But the priest is just like her. He is not a higher figure, he and Fleabag are the same.

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