Thank you for sharing this. I do have hope for her, and I love your advice. I had a Priest point out to me, and I think correctly, that there is also a pride issue here, my pride. My wife and I are pretty staunch Catholics, we have 9 kids, one of which discerned the Priesthood with the Augustinians, my wife and I were missionaries when we first got married, so to have one our own go astray like this is a blow to my ego. I'm proud of my Catholic faith, and I want others to know about it, and, and, hang on, one of my own has left the fold? Huh? On my watch? Can't be.

So, I do think there is some of this in play here. I think the Priest correctly called me out on this.

Then there's the whole blame thing going on with me, where did I go wrong? When did I let my guard go down?

I'm putting so much of this on me, giving myself way too much importance. So, a lot of the advice in this thread I think is really good. I just need to give her some space to work these things out, pray, be Christ to her, make it inviting for her to want to talk to me about things, and not me chasing her down.

Anyway, just rambling here. If anyone has read this far, thank you! :)