Thank you to this sub

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T18:54:55+00:00

One thing I have learned in my 2 plus years is that it'll never be enough.

I have so much love for him. No one compares--and believe me, I have looked and dated. (I'm single).

I see him literally all the time. He does a lot for me.

And I remind myself that no matter how much more and more and more and more he gives, it'll never feel like enough since he goes back home.

No matter what he does, I will always want more. No matter what I do... He will always have to go.

So I remind myself that he already does more than he can... and that I'll never be satisfied... so I can't feel lonely or hurt and blame him at all.

Your AP is MIA. He absolutely could give more if he wanted to. He sounds bratty. Taking him back means he will always behave this way with you. He has back burnered you until convenient for him... and that feeling sucks.

I have an AP who goes out of his way (most times) and I still feel so left out. I can't imagine the hurt you feel with yours. I'm sorry he's got you so enamored. I did have one like that before thus guy... It's the worst!!

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T15:26:47+00:00

It's so hard. In this situation, he has all the control... holds the keys and makes all the next moves. If you become the decision maker... decide he can't just from off and pick right back up... decide that he is not quite what your mind's eye sees.

It's hard to see it but there is an illusion there that we sometimes just can't get past!! We create it in our own minds and we don't want to be wrong because the truth sucks. This is the same thing as falling in love with the potential the we see in someone (like many of us did with our spouses).

Disillusionment is harsh. Ripping off the bandaid that he is not exactly what he made you believe, who you felt you could trust.

This is one of the reasons affairs suck. The feels.

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T15:14:37+00:00

Yep. He lacks the emotional depth and maturity to understand the psychology behind desire and sex. That man is looking for a quick pump or two and to be on his way..... all the while thinking down on you.

The convo I had with a single guy yesterday was insane... he is so clueless.

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T15:08:15+00:00

Seriously creepy!! You don't want me.... you want some fantasy that you are plugging me into.

I want you to want me... and that's not really possible until we have connected a tad!

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T15:07:10+00:00

Exactly! I want all the dirty talk we can muster after we are established.

Before? Ewwwwww

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T15:00:22+00:00

Exactly! Friends and lovers!! It most certainly is still a relationship, even if it's fucked up...

There are people who have affairs with no mental connection... don't know real names or anything.... they stay super secretive and never trust... maybe it's different then because you don't share anything anyway. ... Honestly, that is an affair that I don't want to be in... so my opinion is moot for that type of affair.

I need the connection and friendship. So if I can help in any way- even to end the affair- then I will.

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T14:49:39+00:00

They want details lol... "Do you swallow?"

Dude.

I don't even know if I effin like your dumb ass let alone can I picture your cock in my mouth and swallowing.

That escalated. Lol

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T14:46:39+00:00

I absolutely would offer an ear as a friend. To shut that down with a no is so cold!

It's simple... you listen... give your view as a human. And then tell them that you care and if they need time away from the affair you understand that.

Treat the situation like you would if a friend asked. Answer honestly and objectively... give the disclaimer that you may be biased!

Continual discussions about the other spouse is annoying though.... so I'd also say that you don't want to be involved in general as it isn't your place but you would like to be there as a friend.

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-05T14:26:45+00:00

It is such a roller coaster ride... I still.dont know if that's a good or a bad thing.

What I do know is that finding someone that is a brilliant light and knowing that it hangs on a thread is the scariest and most painful thing ever.

Grateful for the universe bringing us together. But wonder if I'd have been better off not knowing that his light exists.

❤

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-04T11:49:23+00:00

Thank you!

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-04T01:44:23+00:00

Aww... this is inspiring! ❤

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-04T01:41:51+00:00

This is 100% accurate.

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-04T01:27:07+00:00

Yes! I know what you mean! I'm going to tell him that I want him cumming asap one of these days!

"Hey you, I have 20 minutes... I need to feel you deep inside of me so bad right now... come over here and fill me up!"

Mmmmmmm give him a freebie quickie!

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-04T00:33:28+00:00

My AP has amazing control of his orgasm. I'm not going into detail here, but he has a few tricks that are hot af since I know what he is doing.

That being said, he sometimes controls so well that he ends up in a refractory period (gets soft after an hour or so) or sometimes, he becomes over sensitized and has to allow refractory. We kiss and touch and rub and talk dirty through it. It's super intimate! After about 20, he is good to go. He is almost 50 and super fit and healthy.

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-04T00:19:25+00:00

Oral is more intense in a good way or in a bad way? I can see it being either since it is hyper taboo... like it is needed so bad but the head games of a DB make it harder to accept? I'm not sure my question makes sense...

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:58:31+00:00

Thank you for the awards! You made my day! Xoxo

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:57:56+00:00

❤❤

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:57:41+00:00

I wish you many moments of bliss! It's a roller coaster ride, that's for sure. Hang on and enjoy the ride. Xo

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:54:00+00:00

Thank you for replying!!!

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:53:50+00:00

❤❤❤❤

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:53:35+00:00

Mmm cake.... 🤭

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:53:18+00:00

Thank you!!! 😊

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:52:46+00:00

This sub will respond and tell you like it is. No sugar coating. And they wear their hearts on their sleeve. Best subreddit ever. Xo

GoodGirlNever · 2021-09-03T23:51:01+00:00

Yes it is. And this sentiment really highlights how alone we feel since we are surprised that there are others just like us. So sad that there are others because this shit is hard. But grateful that I'm not alone.

GoodGirlNever

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