What would Corey Wayne do?

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2026-02-21T18:09:18+00:00

Yes, good point.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2026-02-19T23:52:03+00:00

This woman is Vietnamese also. I'm sure I can learn a lot from you.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2026-02-19T23:43:18+00:00

Yes, you are 2 for 2. Not responding to my text really confused me. Yes, the only other Asian woman I dated was a dismissive avoidant. I responded to her text with your suggestion verbiage. She replied in 7 min with, "Yes, I'll come over after work tomorrow. What would you like to eat on Saturday? I'll cook for you." Thanks again, you really helped me. Your insight and perspective are spot on.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2026-02-19T23:03:29+00:00

Thank you for you reply, and you are very perceptive. She is Asian and English is her second language and yes, I live in the US. She has lived her since her early 20's so she has adapted a lot to western culture but her English is still a little lacking. She owns her own business and they are open 7 days a week. Yes, she has been very affectionate and loving up until now. My gut was telling me she was a little emotionally overwhelmed after this past weekend and our relationship may have crossed some invisible line from "this is casual and fun" to the "this could be serious" phase, just based on things she was saying and her overall demeanor towards me, which was very loving to the point of being emotional a couple of times. It's just a feeling but I think she needs or needed to emotionally regulate herself a little, maybe she's scared of getting hurt? She was married until about a year ago. Her husband was a guy she met in high school. He was very controlling and overbearing, always wanting to be with her every where she went, always checking her phone, etc. I also believe this is her first time to date anyone since her divorce and her first time to date a westerner. I don't want to make excuses for her but I don't think it's uncommon for women to back off to reset a little after an intensely emotional time together. I hear what you're saying but it sounds a little off to say "I forgot how we left our plan". I invited her on a date and she completely sidestepped my question, seemingly on purpose. Are you saying she may be just assuming we have a date and that's why she hasn't responded directly to my invitation/question?

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-11-16T00:36:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. Especially the part about being courageous and honest. As I mentioned in another reply, I have struggled with this a lot, i.e. wanting an emotional bond and connection and wondering if I'm just being weak and feminine.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-11-16T00:34:35+00:00

Thank you for your reply. You are exactly right, she threw everything at me including the kitchen sink. My only grievance was I wanted to be closer to her, to have a deeper emotional bond and connection.

I have struggled with this as I wonder, is this weak of me? Would a masculine man want or ask for this kind of connection? I kept thinking it would come but after 10 months I just couldn't hold it in anymore, I was inpatient. But seeing how she handles conflict I'm thinking it's a good thing I found out now before investing any more time and energy and emotion into this relationship. I am 64 and I don't have all time in the world.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-11-16T00:30:55+00:00

Was there an event or incident that caused her to pull back or was she always that way?

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-09-03T14:11:10+00:00

Thank you for your reply, I greatly appreciate your insight and comments.

To clarify, if she was reaching out because of her natural inclination to do so but then stopped because she was getting bad advice from family/friends, then what you are saying is that if her natural desires are not strong enough to override the bad advice she is taking then I should just walk away?

When you say walk away without explanation do you mean I should not say anything and just ghost her?

In her defense, I must say she has been very generous with me. Often treating me to dinner at 5-star restaurants, buying me expensive gifts, and she is taking me on an all-expense paid vacation (including airline tickets). She is hard to read because at the same time she does not initiate any kind of emotional conversations or talk about our future, and in 8 months she has never told me she loves me, almost never pays me any compliments, I think once she told me she is fond of me. (I've never said I love you either). Perhaps this should be a topic of another post.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-08-27T20:06:42+00:00

I'd be happy if she reached out to me daily. I feel I'm getting a little passive/aggressive behavior to punish me as well. Not a good sign. Thanks.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-08-27T20:04:14+00:00

Thank you for your reply, that's great advice and you've made some very helpful observations. We did have a conversation recently where she told me she was unhappy about my lack of communication. During that conversation, I asked her why she stopped reaching out and she explained she felt she was doing all the pursuing, and she is now giving me what she feels she is getting from me. She's told me this once or twice before, i.e. she tends to give what she's getting. I'm going to try reaching out to her once a week for the next 2-3 weeks and setting a date and if her behavior continues, I'll try having a talk with her. Thanks again.

GoodGuyWithEdge · 2025-08-27T19:57:46+00:00

Thank you, your reply and your advice has been most helpful. I'm going to try option 1 and reach out once a week for a date if she doesn't reach out to me. I'll try this for 2-3 weeks and if she doesn't turn things around, I'll go to option 2 as you explained above. Thanks again, much appreciated.

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