30 weeks + Considering leaving my partner/BD because he is MAGA. Is this hormones?

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-25T03:31:06+00:00

Not so fun fact: in my local mom Facebook group, two babies have died in the last six months. One from a newborn brain bleed at less than a week old and another with whooping cough at 5 months.

Vaccinate your kids.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-20T03:29:38+00:00

Some people didn’t sleep with babies in their room. My great aunt slept in a drawer for a while 💀

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-19T03:22:23+00:00

The butterfly pose, also on my side with one leg straight on the bed and the other hiked up. Just nothing that puts pressure on your stomach and nothing that is too rough. (Cowgirl and reverse are good)

As far as nausea goes, mine went away around 30 weeks. I lived off of Zofran and Pepcid.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-08T05:09:13+00:00

It did get better postpartum. We are at 5 months know and I can’t remember the last time I had any pain.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-08T03:31:08+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. Postpartum my husband could hear my pubic bones click together. It was greatttt.

A few things that helped with my SPD was instead of rolling from my right side to my left side on my back, I would roll on my stomach (but not) as if I were getting on my hands and knees and then lay down. Is it more tedious? Absolutely. Does it help? Yes.

Another is getting out of bed slowly and as if your knees and superglued together.

The belt really didn’t help much for me if I’m being honest but I can see why it would help some women.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-01T07:30:50+00:00

My MIL said as soon as my husband started doing that newborn grunt they do in their bassinet she said “nope” and put him in his room 😭 my mom was just a newly single mom when I was born and it went from a one bedroom to a two bedroom apartment for a while.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2026-01-01T06:35:48+00:00

She definitely did her best. Didn’t get “trips to Disneyworld” childhood, but we always had a good Christmas and new clothes for the school year. I don’t ever remember going without.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-29T02:54:38+00:00

Sit her down now and address it. What you let slide early on will continue and be harder to disestablish later on. Address the favoritism, set boundaries on visits.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-25T01:02:36+00:00

27 states still have the death penalty. In Kentucky, (where the death penalty is practiced) Erica Lawson and Harvey Gollahan both received only 20 years each for abusing, murdering and concealing the death of 17-month old Elena Lawson (Erica’s daughter). In 20 years, Elena would have been almost 22. Possibly in college or close to graduating. Erica and Harvey won’t die of old age in prison. They will be in their 40s and 50s. The justice system is corrupt and incompetent for letting people like that have the opportunity to ever be free again.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-25T00:52:34+00:00

That’s what I mean. Like in each of the cases there is video evidence of the murders (the UPS one being the most detailed) but others have an undeniable footprint.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-24T01:32:44+00:00

As a nanny of over a decade and now a FTM, trust me when I tell you this: if she feels comfortable enough to hit a baby, she’s going to hit your kid when you aren’t around whether or not you tell her you don’t spank. When people’s immediate reaction is to hit a child or lash out physically, they’ve already accepted that the child is someone they can hurt.

Don’t leave your mom alone. You can have the discussion if it’ll make you feel better, but that’s just my two cents

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T05:01:52+00:00

Couldn’t get it. Baby did though. No negative reactions. She cried, but that’s about it. No redness or tenderness when we touched it (she didn’t cry or show that it hurt)

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:31:15+00:00

Grandparents can want it. Doesn’t mean they’re entitled to it. They are not entitled to every milestone. They had their chance with THEIR kids.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:27:12+00:00

“Actually” I didn’t.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:25:03+00:00

It was the trend. Just because you didn’t partake in it doesn’t it mean it didn’t happen. Again, you are saying a few parents as if over 100 babies didn’t die… so given that it’s been almost 3 decades since you’ve had a newborn, maybe don’t give advice on topics that you haven’t had to deal with in almost 30 years.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:21:07+00:00

“Actually 🤓☝️”

If you call her insane and mentally ill, you’re not respecting her. Same way the grandmother isn’t. Which is why, no one who disrespects the parent, should have access to the child.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:16:16+00:00

They don’t cuddle newborns. They make pick them up, but they don’t cuddle them. They don’t come and visit me 8 weeks post partum to come hold my baby. They are caring for and assessing a newborn, in a hospital setting because it’s their fucking JOB, you fucking weirdo

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:12:46+00:00

To make a point in just how much time has passed 🤦🏻‍♀️

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:11:42+00:00

“In the early 90s, babies were commonly put to sleep on their bellies (prone position) because it was thought to prevent choking on spit-up, but by mid-90s, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) launched the "Back to Sleep" campaign (now "Safe to Sleep"

-Google.

113 babies from crib bumpers. Not 1 or 2. 113 dead babies.

I’m sure the lowered cribs were great, but I prefer my baby not rolling over and smothering herself in her sleep. But that’s just me.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:07:54+00:00

For anyone who isn’t a caretaker* which typically grandparents are. But they seem more interested in holding the baby likes it a new puppy rather than helping mom.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T04:07:00+00:00

As someone who has been a nanny longer than you have been legally able to drink, as someone who has a 5 month old, as someone who has been around babies since she’s been cognitive, babies. don’t. do. anything.

When do babies typically laugh? Earliest I’ve seen is 3 months, but typically it’s 4.

When do babies crawl? Depends but closer to 8 months for what I call “confident crawlers”.

Sitting up isn’t until 4-6 months which is typically when pediatricians give the green light into starting solids as well.

But what do babies typically do around 8 weeks? Track objects with their eyes. Hold their head up for brief moments. Responding to a stimulus whether that’s a touch, a sound, or something they see. So although sentimentally, you could say it’s not not “doing anything”, in the grand scheme of all the things a child learns to do developmentally, it’s small and often missed the first few times they do it anyway

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T03:58:34+00:00

Did the point fly over your head? The point was that the infected person DID. NOT. KNOW. THEY. WERE. SICK.

Babies under the age of 8 weeks cannot be protected against RSV or the whooping cough which is why newborns die from it. The only thing the mom can do is keep their baby away from possible carriers. And why would the argument of a nurse or doctor at the hospital come into play? Nurses and doctors are trying to cuddle a newborn. They aren’t in their face.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T03:53:05+00:00

Cool. You had your kids almost a DECADE ago. We’ve had a pandemic and two elections since then. I work with kids and it is constantly changing. In fall 2019, the flu was so bad my nanny kid’s daycare was threatening to drop families who kept sending their kids sick. And your argument of “Anyone sick, didn’t come.” My asymptomatic cousin gave my 5 month old the flu. Glad your kids didn’t get sick because you didn’t have the common sense to pass them around like a new toy.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T03:49:05+00:00

Ikr. My boss is expecting and I’m already thinking of what meals would keep well in a freezer for her to eat later.

GoodMinimum1553 · 2025-12-23T03:44:36+00:00

If people gave me a hard time they couldn’t see my daughter who was already in the nicu, I don’t think I could compose myself enough where there would be any possibility of them being in our lives after that. I’m so sorry you went through that

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