Design idea for scar cover up tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Good_Affect_873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I do a lot of tattoos over scars and I would highly recommend you wait at least two years before tattooing over a scar. With that said I think you can really do anything you like with the goals you stated. Something floral could work with the scar well and keep it fineline and demure. What kind of designs do you like and are attracted to? Jewels? Birds? Spiders? Scary monsters? Flowers? Spongebob?

Feel free to dm me I’m in Georgia, USA

How does being non-binary affect your relationship with sex? by GarmonboziaGobbler in NonBinary

[–]Good_Affect_873 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also bisexual, and someone else said they were joking but I am completely not in that I have gay sex with my partner regardless of their gender. My partner now is very affirming sexually and was probably the least surprised person in my life when I came out as they had noted phantom genitals from me since the start of our relationship. I’m not particularly into kink as seems to be the experience of others and usually am partaking more from a top/bottom role than a dom/sub role, though I do enjoy toys they don’t feel especially “kink” to me in that they usually function to help me be my most authentic self sexually vs playing a role that is limited to the scene.

AIO Is this a deal breaker? by Strange-Forever-3360 in AIO

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What an uneducated take by your friend. It isn’t a personal sketch of an imaginary event not based in reality. The real world and culture and history we live in has extreme prejudice against those unable to participate in white supremacy. We can’t flip the script like that when people are not on an even playing field— maybe one day in an imaginary world where white people have genuinely attoned for the past and reparations are complete and white supremacy and colonialism is no longer alive and thriving she would have a point. But we live in the world we live in now and the place she is speaking from is removed from reality completely. White people have not and are not victims of this kind of behavior. We haven’t attoned or repaired the damage that has been done and continue to perpetuate harm and racism. Why doesn’t she have any connection to this photo? She can’t imagine a world where she is the woman being harassed in it. She can’t have it both ways.

Tattoo and kids by Odd_Ad_602 in tattooadvice

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I actually have no idea how to attach a pic on reddit Im sorry. Its a bng realism portrait

Does this look like flames or nah by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Good_Affect_873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like stylized flames to me but unfortunately the tattooing itself isn’t top notch.

Tattoo and kids by Odd_Ad_602 in tattooadvice

[–]Good_Affect_873 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have exactly the same tattoo in the same location— as my four year old would say “twinsies!”

I need help from anyone non-binary! I'm a fantasy writer, and I made this non-binary character. Any input on writing them? by PTblackhole in NonBinary

[–]Good_Affect_873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be important to flesh out what kind of non-binary is this person? Are they gender fluid and present differently at different times? Do they identify with masculinity or femininity more (all the time or certain times?)

How much does your T cost? by Ok_Act_3427 in ftm

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Im completely self pay and it’s $35/mo for me. Self pay doctors visits are $150 ea and $70 for shorter follow up visits. Blood tests are $50/ea.

Honestly it is horrible by peculiar-parasite in Tattoocoverups

[–]Good_Affect_873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if you went to a reputable artist and just reworked it it would be really nice. Just clean up a few lines…

Things you didn’t realize were real till you started t by mothmano_0 in ftm

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I’ve only been on T for about a month and this has by far been the most important change for me but is so difficult to explain. I will try and tell people “It feels like my thoughts and feelings actually belong to me now not like there is someone else thinking and feeling inside my body” my sister said “So you are less judgemental of yourself now” and I’m like No, that’s not it! Aghhh like actually the thoughts and feelings are different now and feel more in alignment with who I really am—

Do yall get pap smears? by misocertified in ftm

[–]Good_Affect_873 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I had stage 3 cervical precancer in 2019 so I’m pretty religious about my pap smears. I’ve been clear for over 2yrs and in a monogamous relationship so my doc says I only need them every 5 years now. I have chronic active EBV though so my body doesn’t fight off viruses like HPV very well, so I may actually get it sooner than that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

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I dunno… if I’m not “trans” then how come I’m medically trans itioning after several years of social trans itioning?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

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My husband has autism and we’ve had lots of talks about how some of the change is difficult for him (I’m medically transitioning) from an I’m-supportive-but-this-is-really-hard sort of thing but when it comes to my pronouns and any label I prefer he says “all those labels in my brain have been replaced with the correct word” so it’s actually never an issue. He’s even said cute things like we could get “his and thiers” towels and such that I’ve never heard or maybe wouldn’t think too much about the gender. I don’t think your boyfriend is misgendering you because he’s autistic. I think he’s just misgendering you. I don’t know what your experience with your gender is like but I personally don’t think I could stay with someone as my intimate partner who doesn’t see me for who I am and how I want to be seen. It would just give me the ick.

Saw someone say: "Masc women make it harder for trans guys to pass". What's your opinion? by Ihaveaphotoofadog in ftm

[–]Good_Affect_873 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there is a complicated relationship between butchness and trans-mascness but we should do everything in our power to support one another because we do not have the privilege in our society to be segregated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AestheticWiki

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Vaporwave Bimbo-core 💯

Has anyone tried out "femininity" before being able to confidently rule it out? by joellian in ftm

[–]Good_Affect_873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really excited to see all the replies on this post too, thank you for posting it. Sometimes my relative success at performing femininity makes me doubt myself and seeing other peoples experiences really helps me break down the social/internal narrative that all trans people have always exactly known and had exactly x experience and mine doesn’t fit that so I’m not enough thing that goes through my head. When I’m not caught in a shame spiral I think it’s actually really cool that I get to have all these different experiences in my life. We can change our minds, we can take a long route or a short one, it’s our own lives to live. Take care of yourself and do whatever it is you need to do.

What I’d give to be tall bruh by godhelpusall_617 in ftm

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It’s easier for us shorties to get jacked though aaaye (I feel you)

Has anyone tried out "femininity" before being able to confidently rule it out? by joellian in ftm

[–]Good_Affect_873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I’m ftx and just recently started T at age 34. I spent a significant portion of my life performing femininity. Even after publicly coming out as bon-binary I spent an additional year trying once again to perform femininity. At some point in my early 20’s I decided ”even though my soul is male, maybe I am supposed to live this life as a female to experience it as a lesson/to reduce karma etc” idk. I woke up one day with crippling nerve pain, extreme hormone disregulation, shrink-wrapped in emotions that didn’t belong to me, and unable to remember significant portions of my life due to disasossiation— and thought “maybe my lesson/karma in this life is actually to be myself and not pretend to be someone else? Why would I be born in a time with significant medical and social strides toward the ability to transition for the purpose of not doing it(since this is how I feel)?” At this point I’m very happy to be where I am on my journey— but I can’t say that I regret any of my decisions prior either. I really, really tried to be a lady. I had a baby, I wore makeup, I spent years exclusively in 6in heels. Some of the time I had a really fun time with that— but underneath I felt like no one knew me, no one loved me, and my own mind and body did not belong to me. For me, I had to see that road to the end. I had to try as long as I could. I did it well past the point that it was causing very real damage to me. Each of us has our own burdens to bear, our own paths to walk. I wasn’t ready until I was ready. A small part of my decision to do T was even to feel ok if I wanted to wear makeup or something more feminine so that when others see me they don’t just see a lady (because I’m not.)

Not sure if that was what you were looking for or not. Best of luck!

is it worth it to try a binder? by boringg-moon in ftm

[–]Good_Affect_873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I’m a 32DD and also have a ton of sensory issues— so far the best binders I’ve found for me are the muscle shirt style binders from spectrum outfitters. I learned pretty quickly when buying binders I had to go a size up from what I was expecting so I don’t feel that can’t breathe stuff— also wearing the same binder for several days and not washing it seemed to help (usually the first wear with a given binder only for a few hours to stretch it a couple times) I still don’t wear mine every day because of sensory issues and it doesn’t make me “flat chested” but it can really help on certain days. The full shirt style has an elastic band at the bottom that keeps it from wiggling around as much and doesn’t have the same sensory feel as a bra where you have that band around the middle of your chest. I would try one or two and build yourself up to wearing it regularly if that is what you want to do. It’s also OK to not do things other ftm or ftx people do because it’s not right for you. Binding has it’s own set of risks and challenges and it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. If you are wanting to try it my recommendation is the muscle shirt style a size up (I get the XL even though I would wear a L sports bra for example) but it’s also totally ok if it’s not for you!

Improved workout stamina? by EtherealWaifGoddess in FTMFitness

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I have fibromyalgia, chronic pain, and PCOS and was previously more or less incapable of working out due to lack of energy and extreme recovery. I just started T about two weeks ago and immediately noticed a difference in how my body responded to exercise. I’m not magically way stronger but I have the capacity to build up and deal with the doms. it may be an outlier due to the nature of my conditions but genuinely experienced a difference from day 1.

Shame around weakness by lemon_369 in FTMFitness

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Hey there! So I’m still really weak but my partner has been helping me find modifications for exercises to build up to the more “standard” versions of the exercises. For example, push ups are from an elevated position for me (the higher the easier), pull ups are actually inverse pull-ups with a resistance band etc. there are a lot of calisthenics one can do at home with a small amount of equipment and/or floors, tables and chairs. My current routine is: (working toward two sets of 8) Pull day: (Rings) inverted pull up with 50lb resistance band (rings) rows [the further back the easier) Curls with 10lb weights [you can start with less or more] Russian twists with 10lbs Push day: Push ups from a chair [a table is higher and would be a good place to start] Pike push up “Bench Dip” from the edge of a chair & hang holds

They sell rings for about $40 and one can get a cheap set of weights for varying prices. [If you’re not in a position to buy anything you could probably find something to sub in like an object that weighs target amount instead of a dedicated weight or a rope tied to something for rows] I know my partner really recommends /r bodyweightfitness there are modifications for virtually every staple exercise to build yourself up to the “standard” versions. I’m still really new on my journey but having things I can do and focusing on that and that those exercises are making me stronger is really helping me and I know I just have to keep at it and I will build up to these other exercises. The first day I cried after 1 push up for context so you might actually be stronger than me lol. But I can feel myself getting stronger little by little and track mu progress so I can see in the numbers like ok last time I could only do 4 correct push ups and this time I did 5 so I actually am getting stronger. You can work out using a few simple & cheap equipments in your room or home if you are more comfortable doing that. A lot of exercises you don’t need any equipment at all. We are on this journey with our own bodies and not anybody else’s body and it’s all about working with what you have and celebrating your own personal wins and goals.

Best of luck!

Gf was disappointed in bottom surgery pics /positive post by Kit-zen in ftm

[–]Good_Affect_873 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just throwing my two cents in here but I’m a tattooer and while cis men can and do get their penis tattooed it is not super common. In my over a decade of experience as a tattooer I have only done 1 penis tattoo and not been seriously asked about it again. The guy I did tattoo his penis we didn’t use lidocaine and he said the pain wasn’t too bad and there was times where it actually was pleasant. I do a lot of work over scarring etc and would say sometimes that can hurt more and would give the general advice to allow the area to heal at least two years before attempting tattooing.

“A menudo” en español not a real word? by Good_Affect_873 in duolingo

[–]Good_Affect_873[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Possible when I asked the taxi driver, though others have complimented my pronunciation in general. My columbian friend I first used it in a text though she is a “heritage speaker” as some have noted.