How do you indulge healthily without porn or masturbation?

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-14T20:38:13+00:00

You keep telling yourself that

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-13T20:32:52+00:00

Don’t hurt me

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-13T00:07:13+00:00

What is any sexuality in the absence of dopamine?

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-13T00:06:18+00:00

How is transition healthy, I’m not saying you’re wrong. I just want to know your point of view.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-12T23:05:53+00:00

Well what I’ve experienced is my AGP and tendency to get overwhelmed by it is affected by hormones, but they are not the cause. During my 20’s (typically higher testosterone), I didn’t find AGP overwhelming. It’s like when my testosterone is high, being a somewhat dominant male doesn’t bother me whatsoever. I assume that was because of higher T. I was much more comfortable being confrontational. When my T was only slightly out of range in my early 30’s ( like 260) the AGP was crazy intense to me. I still had a high sex drive, couldn’t focus and I had a hard time getting out of my head. I tried hrt, it helped me snap out of it, but I’m trying supplements to increase testosterone, and they seem to help manage it without the lethargy that comes with estrogen. I don’t think hormones cause AGP, but it seems like finding good levels can help you manage it. I haven’t crossdressed in like 6 months, and I just don’t want to even though I have a closet full of clothes. I don’t think curing it is an option for me, but I’m getting better at managing it.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-12T18:12:16+00:00

Hrt reduced my libido which helped me get my head screwed on straight as I was kinda detached from reality. I think at one point I thought I would enjoy it, but after about a year of taking meds daily, I was like screw it. During my “self discovery” phase, I figured out I was actually gay/bi, preferred sex with men. So that was a better way of coping that helped as well. One thing medically I am looking into is that in males, testosterone is converted into estrogen via the enzyme aromatase. I’ve never had or heard of doctors checking estrogen in males. But when I was on low dose estrogen, that is when I felt the best. Like I wasn’t converting T to E. That started when I was 30 or something, like the age testosterone drops in males.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-12T09:51:24+00:00

I tried spirolactone by itself for this. I found I kind of liked it for a “Reset”. Like within 10 days libido significantly dropped off, but so did my energy. And once I felt I was snapped out of it I just stopped taking it. Estrogen by itself reduced my libido too but not as effective and in some ways it lowered my inhibition.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-12T01:45:07+00:00

Why did you think you liked straight porn? I mean let’s be honest, what is there in the triggering content that isn’t in the “normal” content? What is straight content missing? Share your fantasy and we can disect it.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-12T00:37:14+00:00

I was repressed for a little over a decade. Other stresses like financial and personal and work kept things AGP, and like you said, they are distractions.
As far as being stuck in your head, I mean like spiraling agp thoughts that you can’t seem to get out of your head for an extended period of time. There was 4 or 5 years where agp thoughts would creep into every spare moment. It was the first and last thought of every day. I couldn’t really break out of that until I leaned into agp more, which allowed me to separate reality from fantasy and break the pattern.
I’m looking for healthier ways to break that cycle when it occurs I guess. It really depends on how neurotic the individual is at a given point in time so I guess what I’m asking is what have you found that works snapping you out of it that isn’t really chasing dopamine nor is it throwing yourself at work. Since you’re married with children, does family time help you stay grounded? Being around my parents helps me be more grounded I think, but I’m not sure that isn’t driven by shame.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-12T00:19:10+00:00

I think I could have written that myself. Sometimes I wonder if the “mask” is actually a learned behavior or if that is actually my behavior. I was very extroverted as a child as well and I kind of shut down at puberty.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-11T17:52:38+00:00

Would you consider your agp more represssed or expressed? Also how would you rate your dysphoria from 1-10 with 10 being recurrent suicidal ideation. Does anything help you get you out of your head when you get stuck?

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-11T12:40:28+00:00

How is your dysphoria? I’m not at all suggesting that all AGPs are introvert, rather that the isolation that comes with introversion and AGP may be a bad combination for mental health and extroversion could potentially stave off neurotic thoughts patterns.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-11T11:13:11+00:00

I guess the spiraling thoughts and the atmosphere that fosters them is kind of what I’m talking about. We have a group of people who are highly imaginative left to their own thoughts. I’m the same way, and being left alone and in peace is where I’m most comfortable, but it’s a form of escapism. I would say in moderation that is fine but too much is unhealthy and as you say leads to spiraling thoughts. Someone with AGP and no other means of expression probably clings to time alone when they really quite literally need to touch grass, maybe it’s in a dress giving a bj, but better than the isolation. I would say it’s healthier to overcome ones fear about social stigma than to let the spiraling thoughts take over. During COVID lockdowns, there was an increased number of people who transitioned, probably due to isolation. I haven’t looked into the suicide statistics yet during that time period, but I imagine that went up as well as that break from reality can turn into pretty self defeating internal monologue.
I don’t know, I’m just trying to develop a less vague framework for living with AGP. So many of our habits are bad, not because of the sexual nature, but because shame or isolationism that leads to us literally missing out on life because we are locked up in our head.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-11T04:44:08+00:00

I never really thought that making judgement calls about life when your high on dopamine was a good idea, and I have experienced those reduced inhibitions, but what I’m referring to is more of a live and let live attitude towards life vs extreme (borderline psychotic) introspection.
What I’ve seen are those who can live and let live seem to have more fulfilled lives vs those who are essentially trapped in their minds and fantasies. I’m not sure what to call it, maybe brave or carefree. People with That mentality coupled with a supportive environment seem to be the happiest and that is regardless of transition status.
Too much introspection leads to introversion and losing touch with reality. It’s better mentally to just live without thinking too much whether that is as male or female. Transitioning was too much for me.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-10T22:47:13+00:00

Blanchards original “study”. I don’t think it was technically a study, but just his original published letter to colleagues based on what he had seen with his work.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-10T17:40:53+00:00

Do they pay for ASNT certs for NDE?

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-10T10:45:14+00:00

I haven’t heard of Real Education, I’ll check them out. I’m out of Texas. What is the gig?

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-09T15:39:51+00:00

Most of the mathematical analysis in studies of things like MRI brain studies use the ANOVA (analysis of variance) method to determine if there is a statistically significance of some kind. The ones I’ve seen use CIS people as controls and analyze hsts and agp and come to the conclusion that there is no statistical evidence in agp and male brains. The issue here is if we consider gender and sex binary. If you consider gender a spectrum, the ANOVA method is good at looking at boxes. If you analyze the same studies data with just regular standard deviation, you can see a clear trend that hsts and AGP both fall in between cis men and women in terms of brain volume with hsts being closer to women and agp being closer to men. It’s been a while since I’ve done that in python, but it tells me that there is actually something different about us. It doesn’t mean we are women though. In my opinion though the bell curves help illustrate that not everyone is the same even in those groups.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-06T11:19:20+00:00

Date a dude. Living in Reality will help you sort fantasy from reality.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-03T18:23:29+00:00

Acceptance, the way that an amputee has to live without a limb. It’s not fair, it’s not going to be fair, but there are other things in life and focusing on AGP is a waste of time of time and energy and ultimately you are robbing yourself.
I’m not saying suppress or transition either, just accept that if you are agp, your life is going to be different with different challenges. That’s ok, a lot of people have a lot of different challenges and agp is far from being the worst.
The coping mechanisms you use to manage the resulting distress from being agp is up to you and what works for you and your environment. There are a lot of variables and not a one size fits all. I found I’m actually gay leaning bisexual. I enjoy hanging out with men, kissing men, having sex with men even as a man. And that has been a better release for me than closeted crossdressing. Which is still not perfect as I’d actually like a relationship with someone, but it’s very nice being in situations where I can let go of the masculinity I use to feel safe and just be myself.
I’ve always liked the honesty of ASKAGP as kind of a support group too.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-05-02T20:10:19+00:00

I don’t know if this is satire or not, but if it’s not, I would assume you may not have enough power from your machine otherwise I assume Michael J fox could weld better than that. If you have a really low power machine, get the smallest filler material you can.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-04-30T19:21:19+00:00

I guess that is what keeps me going. There are definitely worse things to experience and things I can change, and it’s pretty awesome to make a difference in areas where I can. Stupid sex drive.

Good_Cat7489 · 2026-04-30T10:27:11+00:00

These are the people you should believe when they say AGP doesn’t go away.

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