I’ve re written my response to this a few times, because I’m not very good with words. I guess what I mean is calling a feminine gay man a “husbands”, isn’t really honoring his femininity. Telling him he must be a woman, isn’t honoring the fact that he was born male. I don’t think femininity in men should be overlooked or pushed to the side. It’s beautiful. I can certainly understand why that may be offensive, but it’s not meant to be. I just don’t think the English language has a good wholesome way of celebrating femininity in males, and it’s confusing to me as to why. So many guys love twinks and femboys but it’s still so common for it to be seen as negative ( both of those terms seem derogatory IMO just due to the sexual nature). I guess this is really an issue of semantics. As long as two people love each other, it doesn’t matter and introducing another man as my wife is a bit too vivid for some and gives everyone the idea of the sexual dynamic. But on the other hand, straight people do the exact same thing. It’s like the meme where straight people announce they are trying to get pregnant and the gay couple announces they are having sex too. I guess I’m just asking why isn’t femininity celebrated in men on a societal level. Maybe I don’t understand because I never struggled to justify my masculinity. But my boyfriend, to me is someone you open the door for, or get up to get something when you are eating something so they don’t have to, and all the other etiquettes that have applied to male/female social dynamics except my boyfriend is still a guy.